Scan at 10am.. I want to take DC out of school.

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Basically that.. would I be unreasonable to take them out for a couple of hours, then straight to school from the hospital.

DC are 4 and 5.
I want to take them with me for the scan.. it's the sexing scan and I'd love for them to be there.

It is 10am so they'd be back at school by 11:30 at the latest.

This will be our last baby and can't afford to have a 4D one during a half term.

I think you are batshit. Sorry. I always felt really anxious before and during any of my scans in case there was anything wrong and I found the the 20 week anomaly scan for both DDs particularly daunting.

I was absolutely shatting myself on every scan/checkup I ever had on the off chance something was wrong. No way I would have wanted my other kids with me - sorry

Mine have been to all my scans with no concerns from the HCPs. And they're very young, so if you really want them out of school I can't see the harm.

It’s a medical testing procedure not a bloody gender reveal party!!

Of course yabu!

Very surprised you're allowed another two adults plus children with you?!
Are you sure?!
Anyway yabvu yes

I wouldn't. My dd1 didn't come along to any scans for our dd2 and she coped just fine.. at school.. where she was meant to be

I wouldn't.

Your children don't have the same level of understanding as you. This means that it is a complete waste of time and effort to take them, not to mention a distraction and a pita for the sonograper. And that's assuming everything is ok. If there were any problems then having the children there would be awful.

They understand oh it's a sister or a brother and that is all. They do not need to be at the scan to find that out. Buy them some bloody fairy cakes with boy/girl icing or something age appropriate

100% sure.

I had scans that held bad news. I would NOT have appreciated babies and children in the waiting room.

Sorry but YABU.
I had a baby diagnosed incompatible with life following my 12 week scan. It was a very distressing experience. I've also had a missed miscarriage on a subsequent pregnancy. Scans aren't always a joyous experience.
Besides the 20 week scan is a lengthy, detailed analysis. Not something for young kids imo

Overwhelmingly Yabu

And yet I think you will go ahead regardless.

I already said lower down that I will speak about booking a private scan.

@Winteriscomingneedmorewood
DH is staying home with the DC while I have the baby. My mum is my birthing partner.

Mine have been to all my scans with no concerns from the HCPs.

Genuinely glad nothing went wrong at any of them (at least I am assuming that there wasn't, otherwise it's a lot for little ones to go through at the anomaly scan, specifically)

*As I said further down - I will speak to the hospital about booking a private scan.
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If so many people are saying it's a bad idea then I'm thinking it would be.

I'm sorry to all those people who have been told bad news at this scan.

I actually am a high risk pregnancy, and consultant led. Due to medication and a medical issue, they like to keep an eye on me. They haven't given any extra scans with my previous DCs. There are problems that I am more high risk of the baby developing than most people because of my medication.

So DEFINITELY don't take the kids. This isn't about whether you're having a boy or a girl. It's about checking the health of the baby.

As an aside.... where has this weird idea of ‘sexing scans’ come from?

The NHS does the anomaly scan for obvious reasons, and may tell you the sex as an ‘extra’ in a by the way,way. It’s not a right. It’s just an added extra

completely inappropriate

So much vitriol here.
Yes the OP is being very short sighted but generally after a successful 12wk scan you’re a lot calmer that things are hunky dory and have more of a rose tinted outlook. Obviously that is not always the case but we can’t all walk around under the dark clouds of what ifs if there are no factors pointing to anything other than a healthy full-term birth. And that’s absolutely how it should be!
Regaling the op with all the miscarriage, stillbirth and defects stories is not helping anyone. Would you do that to a pregnant friend in real life?
Im sure the exercise will be of no benefit anyway as I honestly thought no NHS Hospitals allow children in the room (with good reason, as you have pointed out but...) I still don’t agree that it should be rammed in a pregnant persons face.

Well said, Kipi

I agree with everyone else. Absolutely don't take them to the anomaly scan.

However, once you know that the baby is healthy and are feeling lots of movements do take them for a private scan if you want to. I still remember the doctor playing 3-year-old-me my sister's heartbeat via a new-fangled doppler and massive speakers.

Absolutely not ok. It's not a sexting scan. It's a medical procedure to search for any abnormalities. And yes, you could get bad news. Lots of women do sadly (me included)

Terming it a "sexing scan" is just about the most ridiculous description I have ever heard relating to an anomaly scan.

We did, against our better judgement, have to take DD1 (then just 3) to my 20 week scan when I was expecting DD2. We had no other choice due to a lack of childcare options. DH was in charge of DD1 and they were allowed in, but he knew he would have to take her out if asked, or if she got fractious and bored, if anything was wrong etc.

Leaving your kids at school is a far better option.