Scan at 10am.. I want to take DC out of school.

[Pinkflamingo121318]

Basically that.. would I be unreasonable to take them out for a couple of hours, then straight to school from the hospital.

DC are 4 and 5.
I want to take them with me for the scan.. it's the sexing scan and I'd love for them to be there.

It is 10am so they'd be back at school by 11:30 at the latest.

This will be our last baby and can't afford to have a 4D one during a half term.

If it's a NHS 20 week anomaly scan where you might be able to find out the sex then yabu. In fact some hospitals won't even allow the children in. That scan is to check that the growth of the baby is progressing well and that there is enough amniotic fluid etc. The sex of the baby is a extra bonus if they can see it.

It enrages

The 20 week scan is an anomaly scan to check the baby has no abnormalities at which you can find out the sex if you want to afterwards, it is not a sexing scan.

And no don't take them out of school, there is no need.

20 week scan? It's not a sexing scan. It's an anatomy scan.

Most hospitals won't let you bring kids to them for very good reason

Both hospitals I had my scans do not allow children in them.

If they did I still would take them as I don't think it's appropriate. As others have said, you can do other gender reveal stuff.

We took our four and five year old to the 20 week scan but were told it was entirely at the discretion of the sonographer whether or not they would be allowed in. It happened to be the holidays but I wouldn't have taken them out of school given they might not have been allowed in the moment. They were good as gold and found it fascinating, in fact five years later DS remembers it and talked about it the other day.

I'm assuming you've had your nhs 20 week scan and there were no problems picked up and this is a private sexing scan?
I don't think you should take them out of school even for a private one, rearrange for after school time.
If it's the NHS 20 week anomaly scan then yabvu

Why not just do one of those American style "gender reveals" at home later.

Like a blue or pink cake that is iced white and then they get to see if its a boy or a girl (or a unicorn) when they cut the cake open.
Or buy a pinata for them to break open to find sweets with blue/pink confetti etc.

After all looking at a scan picture they won't get to see just hear the same as you.

I think making an event for it in a different way might work and be something they remember more.

No I don't think it's a good idea for children to be present at a scan. It's a medical procedure not cbeebies.

Nope. It's a scan to check for anomalies, not suitable for children. Most NHS hospitals won't let you take kids in anyway. I had my last one at a private hospital and the kids waited outside with my parents until we called them in to have a look once we knew everything was structurally sound. It's a daft thing to take kids out of school for!

I don't think this is appropriate - what are you going to do if the children don't like the sex of their new sibling?!

What if there is something wrong with the baby?

No.

I am allowed to take my DH, one other adult and children.

We took DS along to our scans with DD, but he was a few days off 1 so he wouldn't remember.

It is the 20 week one. I couldn't remember the name, but yes it's the anomaly one.

I'll speak to the hospital about booking a private one.. I didn't realise that was possible. I thought the only other scan we could have was a 4d one.

winter totally agree. My baby was diagnosed at 20-week scan. There is no way I wanted my DD to see me that distressed.

OP sorry - don't want to be alarmist and say scary stuff, but I reckon your DD are safest off out of it on the tiny chance there is something wrong.

If it's your 20 week NHS scan then I personally wouldn't take them. A scan is a medical procedure; it's to make sure all is well with the foetus, not to make fun memories. Obviously many people do have fond memories of their scans, but that isn't actually the purpose of them (and nor is it the purpose of them to reveal the sex either).

Apart from the possibility that there may be concerns, it's actually quite inconsiderate to expect the medical staff to do their job with a 4 and 5 year old present. They need to concentrate and their attention needs to be undivided. Your children won't get anything more from the scan than they'll get from being shown the pictures when they get home.

Please don't do this if it is an NHS scan. Chances are you won't be back in time, the waiting rooms are busy enough without adding children, the other patients won't all be there for happy reasons and the staff have enough to be getting on with without adding 2 small children. If something is wrong with the baby it could be very distressing all round. I can see why you might want them there, but I don't think it's fair or a good idea.

And if you're told that the baby has a condition that's incompatible with life at the appointment and asked to choose if you want an abortion.... with your 4&5 yo there?

Pinkflamingo121318 look up window to the womb and other private scans. Some Mothercare branches have scanning places for private scans. Definitely don't take them to the anomaly scan

This is ridiculous. Agree with the pps. It's a bloody anomaly scan not a 'sexing scan'. Good luck to you if all you're concerned about is the baby's gender!! It must be nice for life to be so rose tinted. No appropriate at all to have kids there, plus at that age pretty tedious i imagine.

No way. Totally inappropriate to take them out of school and totally inappropriate for them to be there. I had my son with me for my 20 week anomoly check due to a healthcare emergency. I had a chat first with the sonographer about what we would do if bad news and I apologised profusely for having him there in the first place. No way would I have voluntarily taken my son!

Nhs one only allows one person in. Ecco everyone else with a no. Yabu