To think friend should have complimented photo?

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Friend came round yesterday, I'd been to a social family event just over a week ago and first time I'd seen her since. (She knew I'd been stressing about outfits and looking nice etc)So I got some pics up on I pad to show her.
Anyway the pics I showed her mainly featured me as they were what people had txt me, facebooked etc, and not meaning to blow my own trumpet I looked nice in those pics I actually normally hate myself in pics. But I'd made a big effort for this event lost a few pounds to fit in a smaller dress, had my hair done, spent time on makeup etc.

Anyway I showed her the photos and she just went mmmm! No comment on any photo at all. As a friend who knew I'd been stressing about looking Nice for the photos I though she would at least say "oh you look lovely" but nothing.
Anyway I show her a couple more that the actual photographer had taken and I hated myself In...I said( "oh I look awful/weird or something along those lines) in these" she replied "yeah we all have those photos like that" not "don't be daft you look fine" which is what I would have said,

Anyway no major drama and I wasn't looking for compliments as such but I just found it strange. Aibu for thinking she can't bear to see me looking nice?😉

I hate looking through other people’s photos. It’s just boring! I have a close friend who insists on showing me the latest 4000 pics from her latest trip to Whitby every single time I go round. I just dread it.

She shows me pics of her meals ffs...I compliment them.

I think it odd, sounds like she might be jealous?

maybe she didn't think you looked that nice? Maybe she is one of these people who struggle to make fake compliments, because they do sound fake.

Or maybe she just didn't think about it. If someone shows me photos of a wedding, I'd probably comment on the bride's dress etc, the wedding, but do people really remember they have to compliment the random guest who is showing some photos?

It doesn't sound likely she was just jealous, sorry, why on earth would she.

Wild possibly..we are they different, and I've sat there and looked at years of photos of her that she's shown me so it's nothing to do with being bored, it's what we do.

Why are you so annoyed if you weren't fishing for complements?

I think those that constantly put different selfies up of themselves on facebook are the ones that fish for compliments. I'm amazed at how many gorgeous, stunning, beautiful people there are in the world since facebook come about.

They were the first pics of me on Facebook in 8 years..I only post pics of kids and dogs.

Maybe I was just trying to find out if there was anything deeper to it, we had a family party a few months back tat I made an effort for and other friends came and commented I looked nice, my shoes/dress were nice etc...she walked in and said in front of everyone "you've straightened your hair what did you do that for. You know it will just go all frizzy".

Your friend sounds unkind. Why is she your friend?

I'm with others who think jealousy. As a friend I would've complimented your weight loss and how good you look. I've got a friend who is the only one who says nothing when we're in a group and someone compliments the other , she just stares and has a fixed smile. People are complex (f...ing weird ). Smile, shoulders back and ignore twats like that. Because proud and don't give a damn.

The thing is you say you're not fishing for compliments, but you are really - aren't you?

Sorry but it depends on context. Are you loads slimmer/ better groomed than her? Maybe she doesn't really care about that sort of thing. I think people pouting on fb in glamorous dresses look daft.

Perhaps she thinks you always look nice and therefore a compliment wasn't a consideration.

your friends seem to spend an awful amount of time commenting on your appearance, your shoes... Weird.

Anyway, if this one is unkind, then she is not your friend, just stop seeing her! Life is too short to surround yourself with people who bring you down. Just think seriously if she is being mean, or giving you the honesty you need.

Sorry OO but other people's photos are incredibly dull. If someone showed me a series of pictures of themselves, I might manage a 'Lovely dress' comment but I would find it difficult to be enthusiastic (and woukd wonder why they were showing me photos of themselves).

She definitely sounds jealous Op, how hard can it be to give a little compliment, especially when she knew you'd been stressing about how you looked.

I can't imagine subjecting a friend to endless pictures of an event they didn't attend. In fact I'd consider it quite rude if someone did it to me. I might humour them but mainly I'd just mmmnnn to get it over and done with.

I think she could have said something nice.

Even if somebody is fishing id still throw them a line!

YANBU

Reminds me if the saying:

‘Pay close attention to who doesn’t clap when you win’

She has form for being unkind quite clearly, having read your update. Definitely jealousy, she's not a friend.

Maybe she didn't like your outfit and couldn't bring herself to lie and say that you looked nice.

Maybe she has something big or stressful going on in her head and was just going through the motions of looking, not really noticing.

My mate could be wearing Donald Trump as a hat and if my mind was on other things I might not notice.

I get you, OP. You don't need to have been fishing for compliments to notice that someone's reaction is a bit more "neutral" than politeness requires. As someone else said, it would've taken very little for her to make a pleasant remark in response to your pics. I think most friends would do that automatically.

I hate myself in photos, so if a friend shows me photos of themselves I always think it's brave of them and I say something nice. Not gushing, just positive, friendly etc.

Hmm. At best she didn't think you looked good and is socially awkward and rude.

At worst she's jealous, petty, and poisonous.
Either way , steer clear.

Exactly. I really don't think people are getting my point. And as for friends etc commenting on my shoes..what's wrong with that? I always comment when someone has something nice on.
Also people should Rtft..I already said I'd sat looking at pictures of hers for fuck knows how long, plus she txt pics while she was on holiday. And no I don't need a wake up call either! I do honestly think she deliberately didn't say anything now.