To think friend should have complimented photo?

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Friend came round yesterday, I'd been to a social family event just over a week ago and first time I'd seen her since. (She knew I'd been stressing about outfits and looking nice etc)So I got some pics up on I pad to show her.
Anyway the pics I showed her mainly featured me as they were what people had txt me, facebooked etc, and not meaning to blow my own trumpet I looked nice in those pics I actually normally hate myself in pics. But I'd made a big effort for this event lost a few pounds to fit in a smaller dress, had my hair done, spent time on makeup etc.

Anyway I showed her the photos and she just went mmmm! No comment on any photo at all. As a friend who knew I'd been stressing about looking Nice for the photos I though she would at least say "oh you look lovely" but nothing.
Anyway I show her a couple more that the actual photographer had taken and I hated myself In...I said( "oh I look awful/weird or something along those lines) in these" she replied "yeah we all have those photos like that" not "don't be daft you look fine" which is what I would have said,

Anyway no major drama and I wasn't looking for compliments as such but I just found it strange. Aibu for thinking she can't bear to see me looking nice?😉

It doesn't sound like she's that close a friend if she's less invested in your appearance than you'd like her to be. Which is reasonable behaviour for a grown woman.

I'd have complimented you. I think it's rude

And just to clarify I wasn't fishing for compliments I was actually showing her the brides dress, and family members she knew in the pics I just thought as a friend she would have just mentioned I looked nice. Friends I've not seen for years commented on the ones posted on Facebook saying how lovely we looked so I didn't get it.

I'm sure she didn't mean to cause offence, I don't think you should take it to heart OP - great if you felt confident in the photos but you shouldn't need anyone else to validate that.

Seems odd OP i agree. We don't know enough to know if you're constantly droning on about this and boring as a result, or if your friend is jealous / not very nice.

Take comfort from the many people who clearly sent you nice looking pics of yourself?

Why is everyone being so mean? Lola your friend is probably just a bit jealous. I'd be miffed too.

I was in most of the main event ones though as it was my brothers wedding.

There's always something positive to say. She just didn't bother to think of anything by the sounds of it.

It's lucky you did actually feel good about how you'd looked on your night out, otherwise you'd feel a lot worse about her lack of comment.

What would have been truly crushing was if she'd said "I can see why you were worried about photos."

She didn't, so all is good.

And just to clarify I've been on Facebook 10 years and only ever posted one picture of myself,as haven't felt good about myself for that long...so no I'm not one of those people!

I am gobsmacked by some of these replies, what a bunch of miseryguts!
It would have taken very little for her to give you a compliment and I think it was rather unkind that she didn't.
If she thought you were fishing then she could limit it at one and not respond further if you carried on fishing so I don't think that's it.
Not worth much more thought though I don't think, I'm sure you looked great and glad you felt good too.

I wouldn't take kindly to anyone showing me a load of photos of themselves with a running commentary, isn't one of the main benefits of social media that you no longer have to sit through a load of holiday/wedding/triathlon photos on a social occasion and can instead give them a cursory glance and a like at your leisure? It just seems very self absorbed to be honest OP, and like a pp said, I will stay quiet if I think someone is fishing for compliments.

YANBU, fairly basic social etiquette!

It does sound a bit mean on her part, a kind word costs nothing

Thanks I def wasn't fishing, she didn't even say the bride looked nice tbf. But said a photo of one of my brothers was.

Oh and she isn't on Facebook. I'd only talked about the event with her once or twice before hand, she could have at least said my dress was nice or my hair ffs isn't that what friends do?!

Not amazing on her part. But then I never really know what to do/say when someone shows me photos of an event I wasn't at. There's only so much oohing and aahing you can do. On FB you can flip through and leave a comment at your leisure; in real life you sit there like a lemon scrolling through photo after photo, trying to come up with a suitable reaction for each one, while the other person stares at you expectantly. I always feel a bit cringey.

I'm not good at compliments. If people are do n e up, then I assume they've checked the mirror a zillion times like I do and know they look nice. I don't court compliments. If i looked shit, I wouldn't show people. If you get a compliment from me, you know it's genuine.

Maybe she was just looking at the bride and didn't realise you wanted complimenting? Maybe she was bored/had a headache/wanted to go home?

Let's face it other people's photos are boring as hell.

Also, if you genuinely weren't fishing for compliments you wouldn't be bothered that you didn't get any.

Op you were clearly fishing I would have been bored to.

Photos of other people are sooooo boring, especially when they’re watching you intently .
Though a compliment would’ve been polite it isn’t necessary.

If you were my friend I would be irritated by the fishing but I nevertheless would have played the game, albeit briefly (aka look at a few pics and say something true like "you do look gorgeous, that was a great choice of dress and love the way you did the hair!" before moving tje convo on).

I would have complimented a friend who had been stressing about their appearance. That's what friends do !

I think it was a bit mean, although I wouldn't have considered it something to moan about on mumsnet. She was probably fed up with looking looking at photos of you and then having you fish for a compliment.

Anyway, you say she's not a close friend so does it really matter?