New man too nice??? Am I being silly or is it sinister,?

[Rejectedwoman]

Posted about a few of my relationship woes. Met a new man 5 weeks ago. We have several mutual friends in common but we had never met before. Get on well. Hes been single 18 months. Is 15+ years older than me. Lives 50miles away but we both drive so.distance not an.issue. Been on two actual dates and met twice more just quickly after work.

Here's the thing. He seems to nice. Now in my defence husband who I am going through separation with I was with a long time. Almost 15 years . I have kids. New man been nowhere near them and will be staying that way for as long as possible. Exh was a heavy drinker, violent at timws, verbally aggressive etc etc so maybe I am.just not used to someone who is nice.

Second date new man gave me a bottle of perfume I had mentioned I like in conversation previously. What I am questioning is his feelings for me. He says if he is with someone Hes with that person and no one else. He doesn't do or want casual stuff which is good as neither do I. Texts me every day as soon as he wakes up and last thing at night before he goes to bed. Rings me once a day too to chat. Just starting to feel like he needs constant contact and attention from me. We haven't slept together as I really don't feel comfortable at the moment being physical with him (recent bad experience with someone who I went to bed with and then dropped me after I developed feelings so I feel quite raw and wary from it) I have explained this and he says he will wait, wants to make.it special for me, wants me to be happy and comfortable. When I ask what would make him happy he says as long as I am.happy he is. He just wants to make me happy and smile. But it's constantly like this. Every day him saying all this. Counting down.the days to seeing me. Constantly saying he wants me/ misses me etc

Am I reading way way too much into this.
Help

Just sounds like rhetorical generic nonsense

It doesn't strike me as rhetorical. A few clichéd phrases in there, I admit.
This might be more useful. Mentions quite a few of the behaviours OP has described:
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/friendship-20/201506/20-signs-your-partner-is-controlling

He HAS ghosted her but there were plenty of calls earlier for OP to ghost him from posters. It's ok for OP to do it but not the other way round?

It could well be losing his job which is the trigger for the ghosting. No one wants to lose their job then have to move back in with their parent because they can't afford the rent.

Another theory is that the spark disappeared after OP called him up on his love bombing. Sometimes people like this but the advice given here was that it was too much too soon and he was a bit of a loon, with the hallmarks of a stalker or even a serial killer.

He may have thought they were not singing from the same page and has decided to call it a day. I can see both sides. The OP didn't do anything wrong but I don't blame him for seeing no future going forward.