To think I'm not a baby machine and DH should get the snip?

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DC4 is 9mo and I've said from when I found out I was pregnant with him that this is absolutely our last child, because I know DH would really like to have about 6. I've also just been taken off the pill by my doctor since I was having too many severe side effects.

Then DH last night asked how I felt about maybe having another child! We kind of had a small argument about it that ended with me telling him I think he should get a vasectomy.

He's been fine with me today and though I know I went about it the wrong way, I was being serious. I'm not a baby making machine, and for 17 years our birth control has been up to me. I feel like its his turn. AIBU?

Those who've been refused vasectomies any reason why? Just curious as DH is booked for his soon and we only have two kids. Did they perhaps fail the what if everyone dies and you start a new relationship question?

@Reanimated: So leave him. That's not rocket science either is it? God, why does everything require so much handwringing on here?

bloody hell, youd think 4 children would be plenty, especially since its OP that does the raising of them.

'So leave him'? Yes, because it's that easy.
Ridiculous.

People leave people all the time. It's not complicated.

Don't feed the animals.

Nicewater. Seriously. With 4 children.

Stop feeding it, people.

Dead right, Expat.

Well OP's DH is obviously turning on the "sulk" until she gives in (going to a hotel leaving her with the kids whilst demanding more )
Blackmailing sulky dick

I would tell him calmly .. We have a problem DH! I am definitely not wanting anymore kids and you do. My mind will not change. Yes I think you need to decide if you really want more as you will need to go and find someone else to give you them if you really do.

Does he always disappear for four weeks then only spend an hour with them? How often does this happen, does he actually look after them at all. Huffing at a hotel because you won't have a fifth child is childish really, but I guess everyone is entitled to their ideal. Unfortunately we have to be realistic and if you can't deal with that then it's hard work for the person you are with. He's being a child and an arse really, he needs to grow up a bit and actually talk to you, if he can't I'd tell him to leave you alone until he can.

There are four children he is ignoring for the sake of one that doesnt exist.

Has he finished his strop at the hotel yet OP?