School and vegeterian

[Letstryagainshallwe]

Sorry rubbish title. I am vegeterian and so are my children (please I don't want to get into the rights and wrongs of this, they can make their own decision when they are older) my daughter came back from school telling me she had eaten sausages , I pulled her TA up about it today (she has asd) and was told they lost her card which specifies she's veggie. Aibu in thinking this is not acceptable!?

Sounds to me like your daughter is already making her own decisions.

Did your daughter know they weren't veggie sausages?

If so, she's made her choice to eat meat.

I'm vegan and would raise my kids vegan until they were old enough to decide for themselves, and if this happened to me I'd assume that they were now of an age to decide to make their own choices.

The only thing that'd worry me was if she was very young and very hungry, and maybe felt pressured to eat what was there rather than speaking up. Or if she was misled into thinking they were veggie sausages.

Either she chose to eat the sausages or it was an accident. I assume it wasn't veggie sausages?

My DC is veggie and if they ate meat sausages accidentally it would be spit out as soon as it hit their mouth or should it reach the stomach it would be vomited up.

She must've chosen too though? Veggie sausages taste totally different.

My children had a couple of situations where this happened in reception. I wasn't happy! They were given meat and told to eat up; they didn't want to get into trouble.

I don't buy the 'making own decisions' argument: we all make choices for our DC about all sorts of things. This is no different.

I would write a polite note to the school.

How old is your dd? Yes, this is unacceptable.

She has asd. She is basically non verbal, as in she can't have a conversation with anyone. Trust me she's not made her own choice. So until she actually can then yes I will be making the choice as with anything else.

So YANBU!

I withdraw my last comment we over posted - my apologies

Could you give her a packed lunch and then you'll know she is eating the food you want her to eat.

How old is your daughter? Were the sausages labelled as veggie sausage?

I don't think one pork sausage will do her any harm if eaten accidentally.

darcy you're being daft.

She could have chosen not to eat it? It's a sausage, she must have realised it contained meat.

She can answer very basic questions to be clear but her level is more of a 2-3 year old (she's 6)

Oh - I typed too slow.

Fair enough OP. The TA should have been on the ball on her behalf.

Ah you should've said! That's totally different and yes you need to tell the TA or complain

Sorry, I cross posted too, it took me ages to type as I was doing something else too!

Wow she has asd! Are people reading?! She has 1-2-1 the whole school day. They look after it for her.

It says she has a TA and asd in my post.

You didn't say that until late on though letstry

To be fair you did a massive drip feed.

Yanbu at all I would be livid.

How long has she been at the school? Card or not at 6 assuming she has been there since reception she has done at least 2 years so they should bloody know.

I would be having a strong but polite conversation with the head teacher.

My dd has allergies that can kill to odd things in food and if she was given it because they lost her info I would be raising hell quite frankly.

You are drip feeding though OP - how are we supposed to deduce from your opening post that your daughter has ASD, is non verbal, has a 1-2-1 all day TA ?

I does help if people actually put relevent info in thier posts.

It's not going to kill her. I'd give the TA a gentle reminder and forget about it