To think you shouldn't fucking comment on a strangers appearance?!

[DesperateButNotAHousewife]

So.. I work in a customer facing job where I deal with many customers in one day, taking their car keys, handing them back once the work is done etc etc.

Today a lady came in who lets just say I found a little bit... strange. She randomly came out with "you have white on your nose... do you know!" In let's just say a not very nice manner. It wasn't in the manner of a woman looking out for another woman. It was bitchy. I said yes I know, it's highlighter. (I always put a tiny bit on the tip of my nose. It's a feature I'm now proud of since having a rhinoplasty last year.) and it didn't look white .. no one else said it was noticeable. Then she said.. "yes... it's white.."

Like what the fuck?! I saw her grey roots poking through her horrendous period blood coloured home dye job but I didn't say fuck all. You shouldn't comment on people's appearance.. it's rude :)

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It is rude to issue unsolicited comments on someone's appearance. Especially if you do it in an unpleasant tone, as OP has mentioned.

All the comments about how shit OP's make up 'must be' are totally irrelevant; you haven't seen it, plus she doesn't want your analysis of her contouring skills!

It's rude to comment on a stranger's make up. Obviously.

OP's own comment about the customer's hair (whilst a bit ill-judged) are not in any way comparable because she didn't say them to the woman. She could be anyone.

You all know random judgy comments about appearance are out of order. You just can't resist the opportunity to have a go at a woman who has expressed some pride/ interest in her appearance. Bring her down a peg or two. Same old same old.

I think you've had some really undeserved nasty comments OP. I know what you mean - who cares if your nose is white or not - it was the way she said it - to tear down rather than help you out. Yes, I hate that. And yes, you're allowed to think mean things and have the good grace not to say them because you would most likely hurt her feelings (bad dye job)

Spot on venice

The person who decided to market 'highlighter' to the general public should be put in a bag and beaten with sticks.

What you see in your make up mirror at home isn't what the rest of us are looking at. Daylight is very unforgiving.

Yes, the woman in the contouring Youtube video looks fabulous but you look like you have dipped your face in gravy.

I think the tone of most of the comments on this thread were set by the (extremely bitchy) tone of the OP.
Her own comments about both the woman's appearance and her "strangeness" are fairly indicative of her being able to give it as good as she gets it.

It was rude to say it. But I often see girls with dreadful highlighting and contouring. It looks weird.

You OP is eye-wateringly unpleasant OP.

In the breakfast room of a hotel recently a young woman had her blouse on inside out, my kids were mortified that I told her, quietly I might add. But she told me she was glad I said something

Rufus, that photo of Nicole Kidman One assumes that was a look created by a now-sacked MUA?

I saw her grey roots poking through her horrendous period blood coloured home dye job but I didn't say fuck all.

A double negative makes a positive.

I didn't say fuck all. actually means that you said something.

So was her hair bright red, dark red or brown?

/misses point entirely

Can we have a photo of your nose op then we can decide?

Mother Nicole's makeup appears white in the flash of a camera, she DID NOT leave the make up chair with a white nose!

sonlypuppyfat I once spent a whole day in public with my (manky but much loved) eye mask velcroed to my arse.

I would have thanked you kindly had you let me know.

(I always put a tiny bit on the tip of my nose. It's a feature I'm now proud of since having a rhinoplasty last year.)

I've had a shit day, but this has really cheered me up.

Am assuming this is the scrawly-writing-gift-card poster from the other day. She promised she'd be back.

I'm literally horrified at a grown woman using 'period blood' as an insult...

Are you sure this is a grown woman...?

If you are proud of your nose, it's best not to draw attention to it by highlighting it, as people only notice the white, then, and not the nose. Leave it in its natural state and people will see its full beauty just fine - it is, after all, right in the middle of your face. She may have embarrassed you by trying to find out whether you really meant to paint your nose white, but at least now you know it's not a good way to showcase your nose, just a way of following a marmite makeup fad.

Ooooh @Butchy you may have a point there

OP is allowed to be upset. It's ok to be a bit bitchy anonymously on a forum specifically for dealing with the difficulties of everyday interaction. Has OP hurt anyone? No.

Are some of you judging her for taking an interest in her appearance? For being into make up? For having less than perfect grammar? Yes, you really are. Grow up.

And no, we don't need to see a photo. It's irrelevant what she looks like. You still don't comment to a stranger, unless it's kindly/ discreetly done to rectify an actual error (skirt in knickers etc).

Some of you are awful.

"Rubine" was a shade I used at uni. I think that would cover it as on my brownish red hair the dye would have shades from quite a bright scarlet all the way to brown. I am now reassessing whether it was a great colour after all .
OK i am not. If I saw someone who'd failed to blend in their makeup for daily life, rather than the stage or photoshoot I'd mentiin it.

Upset?

By someone saying 'You have white on your nose'?

That's upsetting?

When you said you put highlighter on your nose, totally thought you meant the highlighter pens...like the neon ones, but white!

It's actually becoming completely acceptable for younger women to be in public with heavily contoured, highlighted faces, accompanied usually by very black eyebrows.

The reason I think is that it looks good in an instagram or FB photo and the reaction of virtual people/ how you look in a selfie is more important.