Tattoo

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So had my first hen do away just recently and all the hen had a tiny (old 50p) sized tattoo, on our feet. I already have a tattoo from 20+ years ago, my DH of 7 years is not keen on them, which I did know. However come home and he says he now wants a divorce. That using the excuse it's my body is a 'lefty' argument and he has the choice not to look at it, that he's now no longer attracted to me because of it. I will point out we normally get on very well, no issues apart from the normal petty things. I completely think he's over reacting.

i find this whole thing bizarre!! I have no issue with tattoos and in fact have several including on my feet and a huge back piece that i love (and luckily so does DH who has no tattoos himself but came with me when i had it)
however all my tattoos mean something and i would never get a random one done on a hen do 'just because' so that i find really odd for a group of grown women to do? its something id expect a bunch of 16yr olds lads on their first lads holiday in ibiza to do.

so perhaps your DH is finding that behavior strange - BUT i cannot fathom how that can be a single reason for divorce? As others have said he married you with a tattoo so he cant be that repulsed!!!
What if you had an accident and were disfigured, would he leave then too as he was 'repulsed' by you? I think theres alot more background here to this, a single 50p size tattoo cannot be a trigger for divorce surely?

Well: your dh threatening to divorce you (I assume that's hyperbole? Hopefully) is ridiculous, and yes, it's your body and you can do whatever you please to it.

Having said that, if I came home from a boozed up night out with a tattoo I can imagine dh being 😮. And if he came home with one I'd be beyond shocked, because neither of us like tattoos or want one. Which is just how we feel.

If you do like tattoos and you actually wanted to get it done then that's your business. Your dh has a right to think it's daft and you have a right to tell him it's your skin.

What was it of, I'm curious?

It wasn't one of those Magaluf tattoos where people have the name of their holiday sexual conquests tattooed on them was it? That might put a different slant on things

I do like tattoos and have been asked in front of him if I would like more, and I have said yes, the one I had was one I had wanted for years, but actually wanted on my stomach but had it on my foot, so it wouldn't be 'in his face'.

For all who have asked no he doesn't have a foot fetish either! In fact we both dislike feet.

Oh and he actually has an appointment to see get legal advice ...

Life must be fun living with someone as dramatic as that. Does he reach for the duelling pistols when you leave the milk out of the fridge?

OldPony, why? It all depends on context - one tiny random, well hidden tattoo really doesn't suggest someone is stupid, as opposed to getting a huge penis tattooed somewhere, or something offensive in plain view.

Oh and he actually has an appointment to see get legal advice ... Well I never. Well at least he has the courage of his convictions. I suppose.

How do you feel about it?

8edmund* tattoos seem to be a very divisive issue,some people do think that any tattoo is a sign of immaturity and a lack of forethought

It's a deal breaker for me too I'm afraid. I find them totally repulsive and yes it would signify that he didn't care about my thoughts.

Fucking hell, is he usually prone to dramatics?
Really think his behaviour is a massive overreaction & if your relationship is usually as good as you say then I'd have to wonder if there was something else going on.

Why on Earth would you do that op, though if you knew he wouldn't fancy you afterwards?

I'd be devastated if my husband did that. I'm really sorry that you are having to deal with this, OP.
I'm struggling to see how he thinks this is a divorce-level thing, I really am. And feet are really easy to avoid looking at (My husband dropped a cattle grid on his toe years ago and chopped the end off, so one of his feet is really hideous and looking at it makes me feel a bit queasy, so I just don't look at it.
There really has to be something else going on here.
BTW, I hate tattoos, but if my husband had one, I would feel entitled to call him a tit, not throw away our marriage and our family because he paid someone to draw a picture on him.

Just think op...
Once he's gone you won't have to live with a shallow prick anymore!

What if you had an accident and were disfigured, would he leave then too as he was 'repulsed' by you? well, personally I wouldn't be repulsed if my partner was disfigured as a result of an accident because I'm not a shallow twat. i would be repulsed by the tattoo as that would show that my partner was a shallow twat who disregarded my feelings

I do like tattoos and have been asked in front of him if I would like more, and I have said yes

See that's very different to how either of us would feel about it, neither of us want one and so I guess if either of us came home with one there'd be a big WTF just because of that. (But to be honest if I did ever have one then dh would just have to deal with it, because it's my body. )

But you've told your dh you might get more. What did he say to that at the time?

He sounds very dramatic. Don't get too hung up on what people think about tats- I'm not keen for myself but what anyone else does with their body is their business. If dh got one, it'd be up to him. Of course if he had a massive cock tattooed on his head or something offensive then that's a different kettle of fish, but a general tatto? Well I wouldn't like it and I would probably take the piss but it's his body. I wouldn't be leaving, ffs.

Is your husband always this dramatic? It kind of sounds quite draining and tiresome.

I want to see this tattoo now 😁 The source of all this palaver

some people do think that any tattoo is a sign of immaturity and a lack of forethought

Well then they're pretty stupid. My nearly 50 YO friend had one done recently. She'd be flattered to be called immature at her age, and had planned on one for decades, so no lack of forethought.

Headofthehive55 with all due respect, if your thoughts are 'your body cannot change without my permission/being threatened with divorce', then that person/spouse deserves better anyway.

If you can be so shallow and manage to switch off loving feelings over one small bit of body art, I hate to think how you'd behave over something out of the other person's hands, like cancer or a body-altering accident.

nearlife I said tattoos are divisive. Would you call fans of them stupid? no, so don't call people who dislike them stupid please ( unless you want to show your lack of maturity)

Oh now having tattoos makes someone a 'shallow twat' . I suppose those so vehemently anti tattoos never modify themselves in any way, wearing makeup or perfume, nicer clothes or doing their hair. Guess we should all wear grey uniforms with the same haircuts, least we be known as 'shallow' or 'stupid' otherwise.

There's a difference between calling someone who dislikes tattoos stupid and calling someone who thinks "any tattoo is a sign of immaturity and a lack of forethought" stupid.

strawberrygate you said that if your partner had one, it would make him a 'shallow twat'. You can't then berated a poster for calling out stupid and rude views.

My wife has no tattoos and I like her that way. If she came home with a tattoo on her forehead I would be extremely shocked, but I still wouldn't divorce her. I'm in love with her as a person, not the marks - or lack thereof - on her skin.

It's up to him whether he wants to divorce you or not. Whatever the reason.