Tattoo

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So had my first hen do away just recently and all the hen had a tiny (old 50p) sized tattoo, on our feet. I already have a tattoo from 20+ years ago, my DH of 7 years is not keen on them, which I did know. However come home and he says he now wants a divorce. That using the excuse it's my body is a 'lefty' argument and he has the choice not to look at it, that he's now no longer attracted to me because of it. I will point out we normally get on very well, no issues apart from the normal petty things. I completely think he's over reacting.

Controlling because it creates an atmosphere of do what I say or I use the nuclear option.

I would bet he will 'recant' there will be tears and the whole 'look what you made me do' thing.

Next time op won't even dare to go out with her mates. Which was probably his aim.

It's not controlling. Just a reassessment of what he wants and who he wants to share his life with.

Which could be done in a much more respectful way than blowing your top and consulting a lawyer.

He can leave her any time for any reason, but blowing his top isn't a great sign

TBH it's not controlling if he justly divorces her. . It might be ridiculous but not controlling.

If it's a 'look how far I will go' and he takes it back and she feels she has to tow the line more... it's controlling.

People who threaten divorce are often controlling.

but blowing his top isn't a great sign

He sounds more dispassionate about it from my read of the thread, but perhaps I've missed something?

Exactly what MrsTerryPratchett said.

And I'd bet a lot of money that he won't be going through with a divorce.

I had no qualms about leaving a boyfriend for the same reason. Meh, never thought about it much just nah, don't fancy him anymore!

In the same vein, we all exhibit a certain controlling aspect. For example extreme messiness might be enough to pronounce "tidy or I go" conversations. I.e. Behave as I wish or I will leave you.

What a bizarre reaction. Sounds like he was looking for an excuse to ask for a divorce. Get rid, OP, he's obviously not bothered anymore and you deserve better

Is he scared that you doing something different will somehow change you.
That you'll be different from now on.
You've done something frivolous, spontaneous and has it scared him.
His reaction is extreme so am wondering if you've knocked his norm and feels not in control.

Not really. Only a twat would commit to someone knowing they had habits they felt they couldn't live with and then tried to control them out of it.

If this was the partner saying he wants the op in future to wear clothes that cover her up and are not tight as that is his preference and he would not fancy her if she didn't everyone would be up in arms
Her body her choice if he is willing to divorce over a small tattoo then he is a controlling twat