Tattoo

[2much2do2littletime2doit]

So had my first hen do away just recently and all the hen had a tiny (old 50p) sized tattoo, on our feet. I already have a tattoo from 20+ years ago, my DH of 7 years is not keen on them, which I did know. However come home and he says he now wants a divorce. That using the excuse it's my body is a 'lefty' argument and he has the choice not to look at it, that he's now no longer attracted to me because of it. I will point out we normally get on very well, no issues apart from the normal petty things. I completely think he's over reacting.

He isn't controlling. He isn't telling OP not to have a tattoo; he's said he's leaving. It's relinquishing any form of control.

But he's not actually leaving. He's just threatening her with it to make sure she doesn't step out of line again.

Fuck that! I'd let him leave then

NearLifeExperience absolutely!

Days like this I appreciate my partner even more. Only the actual serious things would make him threaten divorce - see affair, abuse, getting us in serious debt/trouble
saying I fancy Jose Mohrinio one more time

OP you're very calm for someone who's DH just asked for a divorce

No shirty, it doesn't.
There are plenty of controlling ex- spouses, parents, PILS, ex-spouses'-new-wives etc. Living together not necessarily required to control.

If my DH came back from a stag do with a tattoo, I'd think he was an utter fool and I'd really question his intellect. It would be a big deal to me and I may threaten divorce in the heat of the moment.

I won't look but I'll assume you where on the thread about a fella not having sex with his partner in her parents house? Err no. No one has the 'right' to sex if the other person isn't on board.

Peeved, maybe. Pissed off, possibly. Threatening divorce, FFS you enormous drama llama.

I'd be quite if I was expected to get a tattoo on a hen weekend. It's a big ask (and I'd say no.)

Did you actually want to do it?

OldPony question his intellect? Are you serious? What a pathetically snobbish attitude. In what way are tattoos and intelligence in anyway related?

Sorry, but if he's genuinely threatening divorce over a tattoo then he's either a monumental controlling twat and you're better off without him, or there's something else going on that you're not aware of and he's too cowardly to talk to you about it - and you're better off without him!

Threatening divorce, FFS you enormous drama llama. That was directed at the OP's DH, not you.

I assume "paranoid wreck" was directed at me and therefore a personal attack.

Okay Shirty, so if your partner only likes blond hair you should keep yours that way or they will divorce you....controlling or not?

Pic - or it didn't happen. Even with a pic I'm not sure this happened. But then again, given some of the responses on here - what do I know? To me, this is just crazy.

2much2do2littletime2doit what are you doing asking this question on mumsnet when you should be out finding a tattooist to ink Jeremy Corbyn across your breasts?

I mean, if he's going to accuse you of being lefty, you might as well go for it.

Bye then DH - then get a sleeve and full leathers (just kidding) he sounds like a bit of a twat

For the men on here --- If this was a man posting about his wife's reaction to a tiny tattoo I would say the same thing. I would say the wife was controlling. I have seen plenty of controlling women on here. Who knows, maybe this is a reverse and is actually a guy posting about his wife's reaction to his stag tattoo.

Report it if you want, you'll have your little victory of a man off the forum. I wasn't going to report. I was expecting an apology when you realized you had called me an undeserved name. Oh well. I'll live.

I may appear calm, but you can only see my text not me ...

using the excuse it's my body is a 'lefty' argument

Is equal parts hilarious and ridiculous. And this from a "wonderful kind loving man" - yeah right. LMAO.

I didn't say they were. I was talking about pissed up with a load of mates on a stag do leading to getting a tattoo. Yes I'd think you're thick or very immature.

Dear me, if he's willing to throw it all away over a tiny tattoo, I'd be questioning the marriage.

Is he normally controlling like this?

Unless you've had The Donald's image tattooed straight onto your face, I really cannot understand the issue.

He's acting like a massive cock and it sounds like he's using this tiny tattoo as an excuse to demand a divorce. In which case, tell princess "BUH-BYE' and make sure he knows where the door is.