To feel at times that I live on an entirely different planet to other MNers?

[RozDoyle]

I'm not criticising. This place is great. I have had some amazingly advice and support from people here and it's brilliant. But sometimes i feel like I live in a completely different world to a lot of posters here. I probably won't articulate this very well but I'm going to have a bash.

Examples:

• little boys in dresses/the whole "gender neutral" thing. Literally all the parents I know irl just dress their kids in clothes typical to their sex i.e. Boys wear "boys clothes" and girls wear "girls clothes" and nothing is ever said about it. I have never seen a little boy in a dress, for example, because they'd likely be told not to wear a dress in case they were teased. Sad, but true..

• parents who cook every single meal from scratch. Always mega healthy and nutritious, and talk about it like it's the norm. In my world, most parents work and are simply too busy to cook from scratch every night (or too tired). No one "batch cooks" at the weekend. Its just whatever they can chuck in the oven after a hard day.

• how quick people are to shout "LTB". Now I should emphasise that I am not talking about cases of violence, cheating etc. But things like, a husband not pulling his weight around the house. In my experience, most people can't, and don't want to, leave their husbands, to whom they have children, for issues such as that. It's an extreme solution and it makes me wonder if these same people would really walk out of their marriage over such trivial matters.

I'm sure I have loads more examples but I can't think of them right now. Just wondered if anyone else feels this way?

We had corned beef hash the other night. It was amazing. And cooked from scratch.
I hate cooking mostly. I was one of the few on the Sunday roast thread that said it was a huge faff for not much reward.

Absolutely agree.

The boards seem to have a disproportionate about of harridans. In rl, the majority of people I meet are lovely.

I am thankful I don't come across the highly opiniated type of woman on here, it'd make for a miserable existence being told how wrong I was all the time

I think MN is made up of a mix of people. I've had really good advice on here which I've appreciated.

I do think there are double standards in that when a MNer says something about her husband not pulling his weight or whatever,
Everyone is screaming LTB but when a woman says she's not doing something everyone seems to assume it's because she's got deoression/MH issues and is sympathetic.

The gender neutral clothing one is interesting as I don't know anyone in RL who does this but my boys are now adults so I'm not in tune with what mums of small children are doing. However I'm currently on a thread about the rights/wrongs of a small boy hitting a small girl and have been gobsmacked by the number of posters who think that it's far worse for a boy to hit a girl than to hit another boy because it's not "gentlemanly" and girls are weaker so have to be protected. I guess those posters aren't dressing their dc in gender neutral clothing

I don't have a cleaner and I don't earn a 6 figure salary (I wish). I do batch cook though.

Not read the thread but I do know a bit that has decided to be a girl. Even wears a girls school uniform.

I don't even work but with all the club's and people going in and out in the evening I don't always cook from scratch.

I do feel people break up too easily without trying but I'm so happy women have the freedom to leave easily now at the same time.

I get the impression that a lot of people on MN are fantasists that no one listens to in real life. The sort of person that you meet that tells you how fantastic they are but after five minutes you realise that actually they're not all that bright.....

I think alot of situations on MN are dramatised.

When DD was a a few months at baby & toddler group (vom never again) I had one women who thinks she's the 'Queen Bee' at school say to me "you look really young, are you on benefits?" - I'm sure on mumsnet this would transpire into the evil school gate mum.

I'm really kind to my nanny aswell, sometimes she pisses me off slightly when she makes spagbol/lasagne from a jar but I'd never contemplate confronting her about it (unless it became nightly) DD loves her and she is so well cared for, where as mumsnet I'm sure it's a sackable offence.

I know a few boys who'll wear princess dresses during play, no-one gives a flying fuck about it tbh and they're just kids playing. DD wears a few 'boys' hoodies that she's borrowed from my younger brothers and they really suit her, again no-one gives a shit about what section of asda or whereever they've come from.

I've had my drive blocked once by two cars, luckily I have no fence up so just went over the grass, put a note on both cars just asking them to be more considerate where they park as I have to leave early for work.

I let work men use my toilet and I offer them a drink and biscuit. The whole house doesn't need bleaching after they've left either.

The 'baby name' threads are the ones that get me. Before going on MN, I wouldn't have batted an eyelid at a boy named Rylee. Since being on MN, all I can think is "the snobs are going to judge you for the rest of your life!"

It may be true (and probably is), but I'm pretty sure no one that I know IRL is a part of that world of judginess so it's something I've only come across on here!

I do think all the ltb women on here must have very short marriages or relationships.It seems no one is every allowed to make a mistake(especiallyif you're male)

I'm really kind to my nanny

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Are people on MN generally mean to their nannies?

i don't know about nannies, Sparkling, but I've witnessed people being beastly to their butler on here.

The baby name suggestions. I have never met anyone called some of the names banded about. They say they are lovely names like Edwin or Veronica but I have never met a child called these names and I work in paediatrics.

Oh I am very kind to my butler Stevie.

YY growing up we had beefburgers with no buns. Also egg and chips. With the odd casserole, pie, liver and onions etc.

Mum passed on her indifference about cooking to me.

Nannies tend to be perceived as robots on MN from my experience, the same as cleaners, they're not allowed to be people and must be perfect at all times

Never met most of the names in babynames.
Girls wear girly things and boys wear boyish things
Don't know any awful, abusive men
Don't know anyone who doesn't answer their front door, even my mum with severe anxiety and depression

1. There are two transgender boys at my DDs school. Both wear skirts as part of the uniform and identify as female.

1. I cook from scratch every nighr and I batch cook.

1. I have no time for lazy men. It shows disrespect I am not interested in living with a man who doesn't value me or my efforts.

RozDoyle... It takes me 15 minutes to chop a fucking onion!

Yes!!!! I WANT to only cook from scratch, with clean, "real" ingredients, but I am SO clumsy and slow in the kitchen, that nice, real dinners only happen on weekends/holidays. School/work nights, we eat so much crap and prepped stuff, it makes me sad, but batch cooking would take me a week, not a weekend, lol!!

I had to hide the baby names topic, just name the baby already.

The last time I looked someone was wanting to call their daughter 'Harbour'.

There's no way i'm spending our precious weekends 'batch cooking', but dd has refused to wear anything that she suspects is 'for girls' since the age of 2. I don't have a toilet brush either, i fear I'd find my dcs using them as toothbrushes.

And I love Jamie Oliver, but his "20 minute" recipes take me at least an hour, usually more 😕

Kitty if it was casserole it was always baked potato, and rice pudding. (Same oven temp or something)

Oh and we always had a cup of tea with our evening meal. Weird.

We cool from scratch with hello fresh every night. The kids don't need feeding with us though.