To feel at times that I live on an entirely different planet to other MNers?

[RozDoyle]

I'm not criticising. This place is great. I have had some amazingly advice and support from people here and it's brilliant. But sometimes i feel like I live in a completely different world to a lot of posters here. I probably won't articulate this very well but I'm going to have a bash.

Examples:

• little boys in dresses/the whole "gender neutral" thing. Literally all the parents I know irl just dress their kids in clothes typical to their sex i.e. Boys wear "boys clothes" and girls wear "girls clothes" and nothing is ever said about it. I have never seen a little boy in a dress, for example, because they'd likely be told not to wear a dress in case they were teased. Sad, but true..

• parents who cook every single meal from scratch. Always mega healthy and nutritious, and talk about it like it's the norm. In my world, most parents work and are simply too busy to cook from scratch every night (or too tired). No one "batch cooks" at the weekend. Its just whatever they can chuck in the oven after a hard day.

• how quick people are to shout "LTB". Now I should emphasise that I am not talking about cases of violence, cheating etc. But things like, a husband not pulling his weight around the house. In my experience, most people can't, and don't want to, leave their husbands, to whom they have children, for issues such as that. It's an extreme solution and it makes me wonder if these same people would really walk out of their marriage over such trivial matters.

I'm sure I have loads more examples but I can't think of them right now. Just wondered if anyone else feels this way?

Live abroad and the whole gender thing hasn't really hit here too much. John Lewis was on the news though, for its gender neutral clothing. They did a ten minute debate about it

Kittymum, it was a thread a week or so ago. I love my pajamas, soft cottony comfort. I have large dogs who wake me up with cold nose on my arm...no pajamas would be scary!

I sleep in a soft bra. Would be far too hot in pyjamas. The thought of it is making me come over all peri!
Kitty , you will probs start to feel awkward about being naked in front of your ds when he starts staring at your chest and saying "booooobiiiiiieees"...then buy a dressing gown!

Meh. We don't really care about nudity in front of each other.

When inviting people over for a meal I tend to ask them if they have any dislikes; sometimes they mention some.

We take our shoes off. Mind you, I currently have mine on as the others aren't here to complain.

Other than these things, I will say that recently I have noticed just how unempathetic AIBU has become. A lot of threads seem to turn into the 2 Minutes Hate.

Call me a cynic, but I don't believe half the stuff posted on AIBU is actually true. There are the trolls, the outright liars and self-justifiers. More than that though, every AIBU is from that person's perspective only.

I don't see much in the way of perceptive responses at the moment. I do, however, see a lot of people posting in an enjoyable rush of indignation and it makes for a lot of bad advice.

My heart always sinks just a bit when I read "LTB". Unless the facts described are really specific I think it's just irresponsible to advise a person to break up a family over the Internet on the basis of something you've read during a tea break and will probably forget ten minutes later.

I always am surprised by the amount of misunderstandings on AIBU. Sometimes you or someone else gives a view, someone disagrees but they've clearly got the wrong end of the stick. The original poster then explains in more detail what was actually meant. Sometimes it's really really clear. Cue another barrage of posts completely and utterly misunderstanding the post. Sometimes I think it must be deliberate.

I don't think it's deliberate. It's because people are trying to read everything in 30 seconds and therefore aren't giving themselves enough to time to understand what's been said properly. It comes from the motive of wanting to have one's say rather than giving advice.

That in turn leads to the insults, high temperatures and general bad manners over disagreements that really don't warrant it: the motive is all wrong