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To think my husband is trying to have an affair

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sad9999 · 10/09/2017 23:23

A year ago my husband went to a conference and bought another woman a necklace. It was an infinity necklace witha diamond. She returned it to him with a note saying it was inappropriate. The package was given to me by his secretary as he was away and I deal with all his post when he is away from work.

I confronted him and he claimed it was innocence. It is out of character for him to buy gifts for any one i do all the buying he can't be bothered.

He is at the same conference again and has been really horrible since last year. Refusing to help lots of digs at me undermining me in front of the kids. Really glad to see him leave. Just been on the laptop and a message from her popped up please don't complicate things I can't see him tomorrow night !

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sad9999 · 28/09/2017 22:16

She has replied to his latest drivel. She has copied her boss in.....

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RunRabbitRunRabbit · 28/09/2017 22:23

Poor woman being harassed at work by a total creep. Your DH could get sacked for this.

Gemini69 · 28/09/2017 22:26

clever girl.. about time too Flowers

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sad9999 · 28/09/2017 22:28

Confronted him. He is misunderstood and doesn't care what I think so so angry

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sad9999 · 28/09/2017 23:15

So so cross going away for the weekend before I loose it completely

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Cambionome · 29/09/2017 06:41

God - he sounds awful. Leave the idiot but make sure you get a proper financial settlement.

C0untDucku1a · 29/09/2017 06:55

Im glad she is clearly making a case for sexual harrassment. Would that help your case too? Ive no idea, but at least it is proof that he is a creepy wanker.

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sad9999 · 29/09/2017 06:58

I don't know might try the arrogant * down a peg or 2

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sad9999 · 29/09/2017 12:09

Absolutely drained head throbbing

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 29/09/2017 15:16

I've been lurking. I have no experience...but if you want to rant, I'm here.

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sad9999 · 29/09/2017 18:51

Thank you

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 29/09/2017 19:17

Are you all right?

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sad9999 · 29/09/2017 19:25

Had a quick sleep and some food. Feel that I need to accept it is over and move on to the next steps. A lovely friend said one day at a time....

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Holland00 · 29/09/2017 19:27

He sounds horrible, feel for you and the poor woman he's harassing

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sad9999 · 29/09/2017 19:29

I feel sorry for her as well.

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sad9999 · 30/09/2017 16:04

Apparently I will never cope on my own !!!

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 30/09/2017 20:58

Sweetie, you've been coping onyour own for a lot longer than you think.

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sad9999 · 30/09/2017 21:31

I know. Refused to cook his tea so he pulled my hair. 10 days till he goes away. The kids seem to sense something. They refused to watch a film with him

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kittensinmydinner1 · 30/09/2017 21:46

He pulled your hair ? Your husband pulled your hair ? He has assaulted you. ! Call the police on 101 and report this. Send a clear message to the wanker and your dcs that this will not be tolerated.

knowsmorethansnow · 30/09/2017 21:50

Has he hurt you before?

expatmigrant · 30/09/2017 21:54

Did he that in front of your kids? Think you have 10 days to get your plans in place. Don't often agree with the LTB on here but I seriously think you need to LTB. Flowers

Butterandsugar · 30/09/2017 21:56

OP physical violence cannot be tolerated. Please report this and make sure you and the kids are safe.

He's a sleazy bully and you can't allow him to infect you or your children any more.

Jedimum1 · 30/09/2017 21:58

Are you ok? Please keep your phone with you (and charge) and lock yourself in the bathroom or go to a neighbor's if you need to call the police. He might kick off since things are not going his way

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sad9999 · 30/09/2017 22:38

Not in front of the kids. Apparently I can have 500,000 but that is all I will ever get as he will spend the rest fighting me in the court's. He has a habit of pushing me. Tempted to wait till he loose it again and ring the police

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rightnowimpissed · 30/09/2017 22:42

Op get out of there and call the police that bastard needs to realise he’s the dickhead who has thrown everything away please keep safe op