Was she being unreasonable? (First date thing)

[FallingOrbit]

Afternoon peeps.

Went on a bit of a date last night with someone I met about a week ago. We met when I did a fairly large job for her (I'm a tree surgeon and she had a large leylandii she needed removing) - did the job, had a bit of a laugh with her on the day and her 4 year old daughter.

Anyway she had my mobile number and later that night she text me to say great job etc etc and we just ended up texting and the odd phone call for about a week after the job, eventually she got around to the "fancy a drink one night" kinda thing. I said sure why not.

So off we go on our "date"- we only went to a nice quiet pub I know for some food, I drove so she could have a drink (she only had 2 glasses of wine though) and we had a really nice time, lots of laughing and getting to know each other, seemed to be going well.

On the drive home (as in to take her home about 9pm) my GPS piped up with "Turn Left in 100 yards" because it thought I was going home and "home" appeared on the screen. She said "oh you live up there? Can I see your house?" I thought ok sure. So we head up my road, I point and say "that one there" - she said "So aren't you going to invite me in for coffee?" (yes, she did say exactly that)

So, sure thing. Into the house we go (and NO I wasn't taking coffee to mean anything other than coffee but it wouldn't matter anyway as you will soon see) - she FLIPPED HER LID. I had a chainsaw on the floor in the hallway and a very (very) large chainsaw on the floor in the kitchen. She wen't completely bonkers and started with "OMG what if my daughter was here she could cut her self"
"You shouldn't leave things like that lying around it's dangerous" and so on.

My response was "well your daughter isn't here, is she?! If she was they wouldn't be there"

She said "Take me home, I can't deal with this"

So I did. I made attempts to reason with her on the 20 min drive back to hers, no joy. She just got out and I haven't heard from her since.

I'm not bothered that I haven't heard from her, I just want to know what others make of this.

The only reason they were there is because I was running slightly late for our "date" because a job ran over a bit and instead of messing around unlocking the garage etc I just grabbed them from the trailer, dumped them where I dumped them and got straight in the shower so I could pick her up on time. It's not like I normally keep them there and I wasn't at all expecting us to end up at my place (for any reason)

Was she being unreasonable?

Maybe she wanted to check out your house and it didn't meet her expectations so she overreacted as a get out. If so then you're well rid

You've had a lucky escape OP - She sounds unhinged. Now, perhaps you could come and sort out my unruly Japanese Knotweed (not a euphamism)

fullofhope

I do deal with the dreaded knotweed, contractor for the county council. But no chainsaws involved with that, just a very attractive looking spraypack and a heck of a lot of paperwork!

Should have started juggling the chainsaws OP that would have really freaked the silly bint out!

I must admit that chainsaws scare me lol but it's definitely to be expected to find them about when going to a tree surgeons home! Don't let it put you off dating op, sounds like there's lots of people of here who would pull your chain 😉

I know this is 100% missing the point... (which is of course that she is completely batshit crazy)... but...

You "mill" at Kew Gardens occasionally? Like flour?

And I was transported back many years when you said "upline"... I haven't heard any say upline (or of course downline as appropriate) since I was a gel growing up in Llanelli! I feel quite nostalgic.

Kew

I mill timber there once a year, usually October, maybe November. Extraction and milling.

Gorgosparta, I have no idea how to "quote you" but he said a mile actually 😝
I dunno, I'm just giving her the benefit of the doubt. I know I've said daft things on the spur of the moment before and been cringing inwardly afterwards (okay so not quite as crazy as this but still.,..I have a friend who regularly says stuff that makes us go 🙄😳)
Think I'd be tempted to text and ask her if she was serious about the chainsaw and at least allow her to have a second chance. OP seems to have had a fab time up till then! X

Is that what you call cutting up wood then "milling"? Can you tell I'm an accountant.

Anyway, shameless bit of self promotion here but if anyone needs any bush trimming or overgrowth removal work feel free to PM me

Just don't go berserk if I happen to turn up with my tools!

I'd go berserk if you didn't!

but he said a mile actually

No, I didn't. The satnav said turn left in 100yds, that'll be a junction, my house is one mile from that junction. It was set to "home" from a job I did earlier that day (date night)

It's a brand new vehicle with built in satnav (well, 66 plate and I've only had it a few weeks so it's new in my opinion) GPS "learns"

Quoting is easy, just put a * either side of what you'd like to be in bold (no spaces)

Kew

Not strictly. Milling is planking/boarding which is converting the "logs" to usable lumber. Basically I tow a large sawmill behind my truck (which is why I want to avoid busy roads and congested roundabouts) and then mill it. It's just the term for converting a log into planks basically.

She bananas.

LOLing at all the shameless flirting in the responses to this thread.

"I have a chainsaw... I'm cool, right?"
"She's batshit (I'm not)"
"At least [insert funny not funny quip]"

OP, it appears you attract crazies.

She sounds like hard work esp after just one date Don't give up on dating just yet op, lots of perfectly sane women out there who wouldn't be put off by a few chainsaws lying about unless you have the look of a serial killer about you

Not to mention Betsy86's 'x'.

Ha!

Mentalist. Leave it.

I love that you used red to blur out details on the photos. Is that a subtle hint to the blood-stains of your past dates?

very odd! I have three children and if they were out for the day I wouldn't care what tools my hubby left out! It might be another story if I looked around and a little one was wielding a saw!

crochet don't be mean! It's just the easiest way to erase my number and location!

Run far, run fast, do not return texts! IT'S YOUR JOB! And i wouldn't be fazed by chainsaws anyway unless there was a locked freezer and blood.

There is a better person out there.

abby

Ha no we've already been through this, I don't leave the limbs lying around, that would be untidy! I make sure they're in the freezer straight away! 🤣

Thank you for your reply, made me smile ;)

OP pls don't give up on dating. You sound fab and some less batshit woman will be happy to admire your chainsaws.

I do hope you don't keep rabbits.