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Was she being unreasonable? (First date thing)

236 replies

FallingOrbit · 06/09/2017 16:13

Afternoon peeps.

Went on a bit of a date last night with someone I met about a week ago. We met when I did a fairly large job for her (I'm a tree surgeon and she had a large leylandii she needed removing) - did the job, had a bit of a laugh with her on the day and her 4 year old daughter.

Anyway she had my mobile number and later that night she text me to say great job etc etc and we just ended up texting and the odd phone call for about a week after the job, eventually she got around to the "fancy a drink one night" kinda thing. I said sure why not.

So off we go on our "date"- we only went to a nice quiet pub I know for some food, I drove so she could have a drink (she only had 2 glasses of wine though) and we had a really nice time, lots of laughing and getting to know each other, seemed to be going well.

On the drive home (as in to take her home about 9pm) my GPS piped up with "Turn Left in 100 yards" because it thought I was going home and "home" appeared on the screen. She said "oh you live up there? Can I see your house?" I thought ok sure. So we head up my road, I point and say "that one there" - she said "So aren't you going to invite me in for coffee?" (yes, she did say exactly that)

So, sure thing. Into the house we go (and NO I wasn't taking coffee to mean anything other than coffee but it wouldn't matter anyway as you will soon see) - she FLIPPED HER LID. I had a chainsaw on the floor in the hallway and a very (very) large chainsaw on the floor in the kitchen. She wen't completely bonkers and started with "OMG what if my daughter was here she could cut her self"
"You shouldn't leave things like that lying around it's dangerous" and so on.

My response was "well your daughter isn't here, is she?! If she was they wouldn't be there"

She said "Take me home, I can't deal with this"

So I did. I made attempts to reason with her on the 20 min drive back to hers, no joy. She just got out and I haven't heard from her since.

I'm not bothered that I haven't heard from her, I just want to know what others make of this.

The only reason they were there is because I was running slightly late for our "date" because a job ran over a bit and instead of messing around unlocking the garage etc I just grabbed them from the trailer, dumped them where I dumped them and got straight in the shower so I could pick her up on time. It's not like I normally keep them there and I wasn't at all expecting us to end up at my place (for any reason)

Was she being unreasonable?

OP posts:
usersos · 06/09/2017 16:24

Dodged a bullet there buddy! Onwards and upwards x

ShiftyLookingBadger · 06/09/2017 16:24

YANBU. What a weirdo...

FallingOrbit · 06/09/2017 16:24

No, I haven't tried to contact her, don't really see the point! I'm just confused by her reaction. And I should have probably added that no children live in my house, I live alone. The house is very clean and tidy but in some ways probably not child friendly (I have large cacti in pots etc, oh and occasionally chainsaws!)

Definitely no severed limbs from exes, I keep those in the freezer :)

I didn't find it odd that she wanted to see where I lived as the satnav pointed out that we were only 1 mile from my house.

OP posts:
HotNatured · 06/09/2017 16:25

but I can understand her being freaked by going into a man's house and seeing a load of chainsaws lying around, too

Yeah if he wasn't a tree surgeon I might be too Hmm

Pickleypickles · 06/09/2017 16:25

Bat shit crazy.

Justbreathing · 06/09/2017 16:26

unhinged people are confusing!
that's why you run like the wind when you meet one of them.

I would use this "chainsaw" lying around trick again, to weed out the nutters

GirlsWhoWearGlasses · 06/09/2017 16:27

Why have so many people assumed the OP is a bloke?

SleepingStandingUp · 06/09/2017 16:27

I didn't find it odd that she wanted to see where I lived as the satnav pointed out that we were only 1 mile from my house
Perhaps she was imagining sexy time with her hunky tree surgeon (something to tell the moms at nursery on Monday) and then walked in to chainsaws and thought you were jut too kinky for her pmsl

SleepingStandingUp · 06/09/2017 16:28

Why have so many people assumed the OP is a bloke
Valid point. Swap hunky above with fit

BenLui · 06/09/2017 16:28

It's really quite disturbing that she felt that she had the right to comment on where you store your property after one date. Confused

Quimby · 06/09/2017 16:30

Nope she's a twat. Move on and ignore.

AnnetteCurtains · 06/09/2017 16:31

does it really matter on a thread like this glasses ?
the responses would be the same

Peanutbuttercheese · 06/09/2017 16:31

She was obviously fretting you were leatherface. Yep she is daft and your answers were totally fine to her.

FallingOrbit · 06/09/2017 16:31

FYI - I am a bloke, just so no one has to speculate further on that aspect :)

OP posts:
EverythingEverywhere1234 · 06/09/2017 16:31

She sounds like she's not quite exactly. You did nothing wrong!

Mummaofboys · 06/09/2017 16:33

Don't go texting her, run a mile...

vikingprincess81 · 06/09/2017 16:33

Were they next to the severed arm of your ex?
Grin

BitOutOfPractice · 06/09/2017 16:33

What an odd reaction! I think you've dodged a bullet there

Ilovewillow · 06/09/2017 16:39

Given the scenario she sounds unhinged! A lucky escape!

Sidge · 06/09/2017 16:41

She obviously thought she'd walked in to a real life Texas Chainsaw Massacre moment...

What a plonker. If you were an actuary and had chainsaws in your kitchen I might think WTF but as a tree surgeon - no.

runningintothelight · 06/09/2017 16:41

You most definitely had a lucky escape!

And I thought I had bad dates .... Jesus

uglyflowers · 06/09/2017 16:42

Move on, she is crazy. Also being a tree surgeon is apparently women's top choice of career in a man they'd like to date so you should be able to get a new woman easily enough!

Jaxhog · 06/09/2017 16:43

As long as she has paid you for the job you did for her, I would 'lose' her number. She sounds a bit bonkers.

PollyFlint · 06/09/2017 16:43

She is mad as a fucking lorry!

You've had a lucky escape. She's a full-scale loon.

diddl · 06/09/2017 16:45

""You shouldn't leave things like that lying around it's dangerous""

Odd thing to say to another adult.

""Take me home, I can't deal with this""

Didn't like the house?Grin