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Was she being unreasonable? (First date thing)

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FallingOrbit · 06/09/2017 16:13

Afternoon peeps.

Went on a bit of a date last night with someone I met about a week ago. We met when I did a fairly large job for her (I'm a tree surgeon and she had a large leylandii she needed removing) - did the job, had a bit of a laugh with her on the day and her 4 year old daughter.

Anyway she had my mobile number and later that night she text me to say great job etc etc and we just ended up texting and the odd phone call for about a week after the job, eventually she got around to the "fancy a drink one night" kinda thing. I said sure why not.

So off we go on our "date"- we only went to a nice quiet pub I know for some food, I drove so she could have a drink (she only had 2 glasses of wine though) and we had a really nice time, lots of laughing and getting to know each other, seemed to be going well.

On the drive home (as in to take her home about 9pm) my GPS piped up with "Turn Left in 100 yards" because it thought I was going home and "home" appeared on the screen. She said "oh you live up there? Can I see your house?" I thought ok sure. So we head up my road, I point and say "that one there" - she said "So aren't you going to invite me in for coffee?" (yes, she did say exactly that)

So, sure thing. Into the house we go (and NO I wasn't taking coffee to mean anything other than coffee but it wouldn't matter anyway as you will soon see) - she FLIPPED HER LID. I had a chainsaw on the floor in the hallway and a very (very) large chainsaw on the floor in the kitchen. She wen't completely bonkers and started with "OMG what if my daughter was here she could cut her self"
"You shouldn't leave things like that lying around it's dangerous" and so on.

My response was "well your daughter isn't here, is she?! If she was they wouldn't be there"

She said "Take me home, I can't deal with this"

So I did. I made attempts to reason with her on the 20 min drive back to hers, no joy. She just got out and I haven't heard from her since.

I'm not bothered that I haven't heard from her, I just want to know what others make of this.

The only reason they were there is because I was running slightly late for our "date" because a job ran over a bit and instead of messing around unlocking the garage etc I just grabbed them from the trailer, dumped them where I dumped them and got straight in the shower so I could pick her up on time. It's not like I normally keep them there and I wasn't at all expecting us to end up at my place (for any reason)

Was she being unreasonable?

OP posts:
KnowsStuff · 07/09/2017 23:41

So you met her doing work for her which probably involved said chainsaws an everyday tool in your life. How strange, a tree surgeon with tee cutting equipment (sarcasm). Plus she invited herself back and then made an issue over something irrelevant. Kind of an insult to your intelligence if she thinks youd be stupid enough to leave them out when children are around. I think you had a lucky escape lol

chitofftheshovel · 07/09/2017 23:47

Man. I bet you've had a share of personal messages tonight on the back of your thread. Very fucking clever, if you don't mind me saying.

ForagingForFaerieGold · 08/09/2017 00:28

This woman knows where you live. I'm afraid you'll have to move now.

Cupoteap · 08/09/2017 06:34

I knew she'd try and contact you

Mustang27 · 08/09/2017 07:26

I wouldn't can the dating if I was you it sounds like you could get a few dates from mumsnet alone lol.

Kewcumber · 08/09/2017 08:32

Anyone with an unruly Leylandii or a lairy Laurel would know that the main attraction of a tree surgeon on MN would be his chainsaw not his dating potential!

Hmm... I wonder if welsh tree surgeons temporarily in west london are cheaper than local extortionate tree surgeons. MN as dating and business opportunity in one.

Now I really do sound like an accountant.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 08/09/2017 08:36

She sounds crackers - you're well out of it!

Liiinoo · 08/09/2017 08:41

What ^Butchy* said. She had a whole relationship planned out in her head. I think you dodged a bullet there.

PJsAndProsecco · 08/09/2017 08:46

Bloody hell @FallingOrbit you dodged a bullet there, she sounds bat.shit.crazy.

And as for finding you on SC without your real name being on there, maybe you have a stalker on your hands ConfusedHmm

PollyFlint · 08/09/2017 09:49

'Psst... this horror film is very unsuitable for my child, who is not here.'

This just made me do a snorting laugh.

Lindsxxx, the satnav set to 'home' thing is really normal for people who drive all over the place for their jobs. Yes, they know where they live, but if you drive to lots of unfamiliar places on a daily basis you don't necessarily instinctively know the most direct route back to your house from all of them.

KPHJB · 08/09/2017 12:22

It sounds like she was being brave fishing to come in for a coffee, then between the car and the door she realised I it lead to sex and she bottled it, Freaked out and blamed it on your chain saw lying about. No one would go crazy over finding a chain saw in a tree surgeons house. Especially if the woman seemed normal to start with. Maybe let it just cool off and see?

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