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Original poster

To make an official complaint about colleague?

792 replies

Abouttoblow · 03/09/2017 15:12

I'm really don't want to go to work tomorrow as I've had enough of selfish workmate.
I really love my work. I've been in this job for 10 years, find it fulfilling, great terms and conditions but if things carry on I will go mad.
Colleague had twins 5 years ago and returned to work 2 days a week. Since she had her DC she seems to think that they take priority over her job - even when she is at work. Her DM and SIL take care of them so I would assume they are reliable and trustworthy but she rings them every half hour to check on things. Every half hour WITHOUT FAIL. She will even excuse herself from meetings.
My main issue though is that every appointment she has, doctor, dentist etc she arranges on the days she is at work. We have flexible working to accommodate for this, more so for full time staff who work every day, so we take shorter breaks or start early/finish late to make up the time but she doesn't bother. She just goes off for an hour or so at a time and that's it. This has been going on for years and I've spoken to my boss but nothing is ever addressed with her.
Anyway, her DC start school soon and she came in last week with a list of things she just MUST attend at school - prize givings, parents in-school days, assemblies and I know if they're on either of her 2 working days she will just go.
She won't have holiday leave to cover this as she is off for most of the summer and I'm sure she will want half term etc now too.
I've just had enough and it makes me so angry that she thinks this is acceptable.
AIBU to make an official complaint to Personnel?

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AhhhhThatsBass · 10/10/2017 21:03

So funny. I read your comment about her new working pattern, set hours etc and was about to come on and comment that I'd give her about a week before she resigns and then I read she did precisely that. The sad thing is that they can't legally give a bad reference so hopefully she doesn't try to get another job any time soon.
Good job, OP, good job. Gin

OnionKnight · 10/10/2017 21:44

Good riddance!

BlueSapp · 10/10/2017 22:22

I’m not saying it would work but like someone else was saying the emails and stuff she was sending, she’s probably going to claim she was forced from her job because of her kids, bullying or some other nonsense

TittyGolightly · 10/10/2017 22:30

The company would easily defend that.

BlueSapp · 10/10/2017 22:35

Yes totally, the things she’s doing and say just sound like she was trying to set something like this up

Original poster
Abouttoblow · 10/10/2017 23:39

Unlikely Blue as the only issue was her flexi-time cheeky fuckery, not her children (or bullying Hmm)

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buckeejit · 11/10/2017 10:32

Wow, I've never heard the like of that for a meeting outcome-seems extreme but ultimately fair! Can't believe she was managed so badly, hope that's addressed too.

She is really something else! Hope peace is resumed in the office now 😃

Figgygal · 11/10/2017 10:42

What an arsehole she is
Good luck to her finding a job where she can take the piss like that anywhere

BlueSapp · 11/10/2017 11:12

Thats the thing, I just don't think the managent win and she will try anything, making up things, to win because she is a cheeky fucker, i wouldnt rule it out.

she might play the card, ah they were hard on me im a mother i shoulve been given leway and they have forced me from my job.

look just saying i wouldnt be surprised, shes an entiled cow.

BlueSapp · 11/10/2017 11:14

Im not saying she was bullied, but just thinking from what you've said here, thats maybe whats in her head

Smitff · 11/10/2017 12:02

Just read the whole thread through.

This woman is the embodiment of certain people thinking the world owes them a living. I doubt very much that even now she has realized that being paid to do a job means that she has to earn that pay by doing commensurate work.

I also wonder what her informal-jobshare partner had to put up with for 5 years. That person must have felt they were doing 4 days' work for 3 days' pay.

NewDaddie · 11/10/2017 17:38

Public sector references are always basic usually just job title and dates of employment. We even stopped including salary and absence record for fear of litigation.

I'm not allowed to give references unless they're academic and even then it's a bit Confused they all go through HR. Public sector don't have the resources for unnecessary litigation.

WellThisIsShit · 11/10/2017 21:54

It's a myth that employers can't give negative references. They can, it just had to be completely factual and evidence based. Companies often don't go there though, because of the risk of opening themselves up to being sued.

Aridane · 17/10/2017 15:34

Oh my goodness - just started a thread to ask what happened on the cheeky flexi time worker thread as I couldn't find it. Only to find out that cheeky fucker has 'resigned'! Not sure she would have been able to come back from her cheeky fuckery flexi timing absences

Original poster
Abouttoblow · 17/10/2017 17:22

Aridane I'm actually quite touched you came looking for the outcome Smile

No contact since she left but heard through the grapevine she's applied for a couple of things.

Shall update if she contacts the boss for a reference.

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hiyasminitsme · 17/10/2017 21:04

If your employers have any sense they'll have had lawyers involved and done it all by the book. I'm sure they are expecting a tribunal.

Babyblade · 18/10/2017 12:21

Have the last couple of posters RTFT? Hmm

OP - have there been any more repercussions since her resignation? Hope all is quiet on the Western Front.

Babyblade · 18/10/2017 12:23

Oh bum - ignore me - I was still only on page 1 Blush ... despite reading and following the full thread.

Aridane · 18/10/2017 14:36

ha ha Baby - I was wondering what I had done wrong!

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Abouttoblow · 18/10/2017 19:55

Flexi-time Cheeky Fucker - the gift that keeps on giving!

Email from her this afternoon:

Hi About
Hope you're not all missing me too much LOL.
I have to admit I feel much happier having made the decision to leave. Things were really depressing at the end up and a job and place I liked turned into a real chore with the obsession management had with checking up on everything.
I have a few irons in the fire with X and Y so will need a referee for both. I'm not thinking "Boss" will be overly enthusiastic with me leaving with no notice so have given your contact details as my line manager. They won't know you weren't LOL. I'll send you both specs so you know what they're looking for. Just the usual info I think.
They'll only contact you if I'm selected for interview but I'm confident I will. Can you send them to me to read over before you submit them? I can suggest changes (if any) at that point but I trust you LOL. Remember to change your job title on your email signature before you send them!!!
Anything you're not sure of give me a ring.

I have no issue with telling her to fuck off but have another dilemma.

She sent me both job specs. One another local authority, the other is third sector.

The director of the third sector one is a relative of mine!!!!

What do I do? There will be no reference but do I tell him her history with the Flexi-time Cheeky Fuckery?

I genuinely do not want to be vindictive but what to do for the best?

I'd appreciate some input from those who read the full thread. Thanks

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RandomMess · 18/10/2017 20:03

Geez think I'd tell the relative in a you'll never believe who is thinking of applying for that job...

DaphneBlake101 · 18/10/2017 20:09

If I were you, I’d absolutely mention it to my relative - she is clearly not going to be more dedicated in her next role than she was in this one which will just cause problems for her new team and your relative.

ambereeree · 18/10/2017 20:11

Well legally they will have to contact your company HR rather than an individual so think you can just ignore.

Original poster
Abouttoblow · 18/10/2017 20:17

Both positions are full-time, don't mention if they have flexible working which ate both red flags for me when it comes to her work ethic.
Then I think this whole thing has maybe given her a wake up call but I'm not confident.
I would feel awful if she got the third sector one, or the other to be honest, and did the same thing. Relative is also a close friend and jobs are the same sector as we are now.

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Appuskidu · 18/10/2017 20:18

I would definitely tell your relative!

What are you going to reply to her request?!