To make an official complaint about colleague?

[Abouttoblow]

I'm really don't want to go to work tomorrow as I've had enough of selfish workmate.
I really love my work. I've been in this job for 10 years, find it fulfilling, great terms and conditions but if things carry on I will go mad.
Colleague had twins 5 years ago and returned to work 2 days a week. Since she had her DC she seems to think that they take priority over her job - even when she is at work. Her DM and SIL take care of them so I would assume they are reliable and trustworthy but she rings them every half hour to check on things. Every half hour WITHOUT FAIL. She will even excuse herself from meetings.
My main issue though is that every appointment she has, doctor, dentist etc she arranges on the days she is at work. We have flexible working to accommodate for this, more so for full time staff who work every day, so we take shorter breaks or start early/finish late to make up the time but she doesn't bother. She just goes off for an hour or so at a time and that's it. This has been going on for years and I've spoken to my boss but nothing is ever addressed with her.
Anyway, her DC start school soon and she came in last week with a list of things she just MUST attend at school - prize givings, parents in-school days, assemblies and I know if they're on either of her 2 working days she will just go.
She won't have holiday leave to cover this as she is off for most of the summer and I'm sure she will want half term etc now too.
I've just had enough and it makes me so angry that she thinks this is acceptable.
AIBU to make an official complaint to Personnel?

Keep on walking honey!!! Absolutely awful she is! says while watching Dinner Date on my 5th sickie this month

Surely part of prioritising your family is making sure there's enough money to ensure a roof over your heads and food on the table? And for most of us, that means going to work.

Well I'm afraid her babies do take priority over her job.
What are you going to complain about the fact that she loves her kids and likes talking about them.

I'm sorry but I really don't understand

Awwlook. Are you the FTCF?

Awwlook think you posted on the wrong thread or didn't actually read it.

People like her give working parents a bad name, I'm afraid. Most of us here have kids, and many of us hold down jobs. That does NOT mean we can shirk and bunk off whenever we feel like it. If you cant commit properly with a good attitude, then fgs stay out of the workplace.

OP - its totally NOT your fault in any way at all.

That is all that matters. One less piss taker for you to deal with at work.

A great result as the stupid bitch fell on her own sword!

that was the right result
i bet someone else will over look her work ethos

So are my family my priority - that's why i work, so I can house and feed them!

has FTCF left anything in the way of useful notes, or has she actually just stuffed you all up?

Omg, the updates! Then again, I'm not surprised. The managers were probably hoping this would happen.

Arch Better than I thought. Things will be organised tomorrow thankfully. We'll all pitch in till we get a replacement

and slams the rest of us for being unable or unwilling to get the work/life balance right!

Aaarrgh! I would have to reply saying something along the lines that perhaps we all struggle in life to get these balances right but at least I have a really good moral compass and am not a thief!! Because that is what she has basically been doing!! Shame she has left and didn't get sacked imo.

There's rules about what employers are allowed to say in references right? Is there any way they'll be legally allowed to at least hint at her behaviour, I wonder...

Definitely don’t reply!! Advise everyone else not to reply! Don’t give her the opening for a work place bullying complaint!

I don't know what can be included in a reference but I think she'd be mad to expect a positive one, although knowing her........

Raven We had that conversation today. No one replied for that reason. We didnt respond to the last one either.

A reference has to be truthful, it's likely they will give a standard one "x worked from this date to that date" they are unlikely to give more as it's a legal mind field.

Often a reference that says little says an awful lot!

Companies aren’t allowed to give a bad reference but basic one with just dates of employment speaks volumes

That's a good point, I guess they can just do the absolute basics and that at least says they don't have anything great to say!

Companies absolutely can give bad references, so long as they are factual.

So a factual reference would be something like:

"X was employed by us for 5 years, she worked for 2 1/2 years"

Wow, was not expecting that...I think she was actually sacked but said she’d resigned to save face. She definitely got her comeuppance, hopefully her replacement will pull their weight and actually contribute to the team

Result!

Raptor

Kermit Boss said she resigned and I think he would have said if she'd been fired. No reason he wouldn't.

BlueSapp Why on earth would she be able to claim victimisation?