To be so annoyed my child's phone was taken off him at a sleepover?

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DS stayed over with a friend last night. There were four there in total. He has a phone so he can text/call us if he needs to. Before going to bed, phones and tablets were removed from the visiting children.

AIBU to be a bit annoyed? He finds it quite stressful staying over and he hated being unable to contact us.

Haha I had sleepovers in the 70s!

Thier house, thier rules. If you don't like it keep your children at home

Parents throwing strops over being in constant contact feeds in to the child's anxiety.

Interesting thread. I've three children in their late teens. No issue of smart phones when they were younger and it's quite scary looking at the dependency children are beginning to have on these devices if they can't get through a sleepover without one - not helped by parents insisting on a call or a text so they know how they are. I never let my children go on sleepovers if I didn't know the parents. I therefore knew they would be okay and well looked after. It's healthy for our children to see the home life of others and to understand that everyone does things differently.

It's been asked, but I don't know what any 9 year old needs to say or ask of their parent in the middle of the night that is so urgent that the hosting parent can't deal with it. Please tell me.

As a hosting parent, I would always want to know of any issues that might crop up - with anxiety, inability to get to sleep, etc. A close friend's child has been diabetic since he was six, but was always the first to tuck into Nutella and maple syrup on his pancakes . Of course I had to know about his medical needs and be prepared to put my foot down. I wouldn't claim to be an expert, but I got pretty good at carb counting.

As a hosting parent, I would be seriously offended if someone thought I was unable or lacked the necessary empathy to look after their child for one night.

Some posters need to think seriously about their own dependency on devices, and others need to have words with their kids about FOMO and how sometimes it better to not take part in an event.

I have, but perhaps not too closely, read through the whole thread. Has the OP, or anyone else, been able to say why a nine year old would so desperately need to contact a parent in the middle of the night that would trump concerns about a bunch of nine year olds having unrestricted access to the internet?

Has the OP, or anyone else, been able to say why a nine year old would so desperately need to contact a parent in the middle of the night that would trump concerns about a bunch of nine year olds having unrestricted access to the internet?
Nope.

That's a definite YABU for the OP, wherever she is, then, MyOtherProfile!