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To be tired of our guests constant 'high brow' conversation?

192 replies

Grassroots01 · 01/09/2017 18:24

We have had one of DH's old university friends and his wife down the last 4 days. They are going back on Sunday.

Don't get me wrong, they are LOVELY, have known them for many years and usually get on really well with them and enjoy their company. However, this afternoon I just feel a bit fed up and have had to go off for some me time' as I am just tired of the conversations.

For the last 4 days straight it seems all we've spoken about is global warming, sea pollution, politics, gardening and herb plantation and lastly (just now) picked apart the English education system.

It's just not me I'm afraid. I'm not unintelligent and am educated to the same level as both of these people and my DH, but I differ from them, in that I don't enjoy 'high brow' (for want of a better expression) conversation for hours or days on end.

I had to get up and walk off earlier as I really just wanted to say 'I'm knackered, can we not just talk about light hearted subjects?' The wife is absolutely lovely, she really is and I do get on with her really well but tonight we are going out for a meal and then onto some (trendy) bars for some drinks. I'm just about to go and get ready and have asked her what she's wearing etc. She's just replied 'Oh I don't know, I might just go as I am (she's in jeans and a t-shirt?) my hair needs washing (it does) but I can't be bothered, and I suppose I should really put some make up on but I can't be bothered with that either'

I now feel a bit deflated and am wondering whether to bother wearing the heels, nice top and jeans that I had planned to, or do my hair and make up as I'm going to feel 'overdone' The trouble is my female friends would've made a bit of an effort, I'm not used to being around people who wouldn't.

God, I sound like such a cow. I don't know what's wrong with me, I just feel really tired and irritable today and just long for some conversation about clothes, hair or make up, celebrity gossip, anything other than politics, global warming or education.

AIBU?

OP posts:
TheDowagerCuntess · 02/09/2017 12:06

Who said there was no humour?

The OP...?

LespritDescalier · 02/09/2017 12:10

At the very end of the thread AFTER the comments which are apparently defending the lack of humour!!

Mittens1969 · 02/09/2017 12:40

@Grassroots01, the teetotal comment was a joke, I'm sorry to have started something there. I should have known better. Grin

TatterdemalionAspie · 02/09/2017 12:42

Interesting first post

There's this really useful feature on Mumsnet, Only1scoop; posters are actually able to change their username. Especially good for when you want to post an identifying or sensitive thread, I find. So that means that someone with no posting history when you do a search on them might not actually be a troll posting for the very first time.

HTH.

Only1scoop · 02/09/2017 16:01

Really Shock

hmcAsWas · 02/09/2017 16:04

I wish I had more friends like your guests. The problem is I seem to have friends who want to discuss Poldark and the Great British Bake Off Sad

Grassroots01 · 02/09/2017 16:24

Mellington- we went to Cheltenham....

We've actually had a lovely day out so far, atmosphere is much more relaxed and conversation good. Cinema tonight so no talking needed there anyway Wink

And yes, I've namechanged. Though why I bothered I don't know as this post is so outing Blush

OP posts:
Maireadplastic · 02/09/2017 17:49

You know, I suspect people often find me and my husband hard work for this reason. He, in particular, doesn't do small talk. We don't watch X-factor or Bake off, I don't know much about slebs. I love clothes though.....and houses.
I think just suck it up OP. It's rewarding to have friends who don't just reflect you.

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/09/2017 18:29

I'm glad the mood has lightened. Sounds as if that's what was required to have a relaxing time and no longer rather intense.

howrudeforme · 02/09/2017 18:58

It doesn't sound highbrow at all - just current affairs. I don't wear make and run around scruffy as looking made up is not a priority. I'm busy and for many reasons I've hardly seen any TV in years .... I'm not highbrow, just scruffy and don't know much about current tv and celebs!

i love seeing old friends but wouldn't want them to stay for that long! You're doing well.

user1496121365 · 02/09/2017 19:57

You know what they say: visitors are like fish - they stink after 3 days. You haven't had enough time on your own.

DagenhamRoundhouse · 02/09/2017 20:14

Worth remembering that guests, like fish, go off after 3 days.

Personally I've had enough after about 12 hours!

DagenhamRoundhouse · 02/09/2017 20:15

You beat me to it, user!! Teach me to read the thread before posting.

Motoko · 02/09/2017 21:01

Actually, quite a few people had already mentioned that fish analogy.

Jux · 02/09/2017 22:00

I really envy you. I have had 20 years of almost no intelligent or interesting conversation. Can you send them to me? Please?

user1481838270 · 03/09/2017 22:46

We are 'educated professionals' and spend a lot of time with similarly qualified friends-our best friends are a doctor/dentist couple. They are probably two of the most intelligent people I know. Both can be smutty, incredibly puerile and silly (as are we) and that is why I love them grin. We talk about a huge mix of things but it's generally not boring!

They sound like right prats.

Maireadplastic · 04/09/2017 08:22

No they don't.

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