Should i make her a cake?

[Tatiannatomasina]

I work as a chef and whenever it is a special occasion or birthday for one of my collegues i bake them a cake. I only do this for the kitchen staff and managers as we are a close knit team and spend alot of time together. I never do it for front of house waitressing staff as they tend to come and go and we dont spend much time with them, i dont really know any of them. I pay for everything out of my own pocket and do it all in my own time because i enjoy it and it makes my collegues happy.
One waitress shares a birthday with one of the managers who i like very much and consider a friend. The waitress knowing i make cakes for birthdays told me she wanted a 3 tier cake for her birthday.i was a bit 😯 as no one has ever expected me to do it, i just like surprising them. I really wanted to make a cake for my manager but not this waitress. She has been told by another member of staff i dont do it for front of house staff and has approached me this evening telling me she is very disappointed with me. It was said in a serious way. I was shocked by her attitude and jokingly said maybe the manager will cut hers in half and share it with you. I actually wish i had said something alot stronger.
She has really taken the shine off something that i loved doing. When ever i make a cake we share it with everyone at work so she has always been given a piece. I now feel uncomfortable and dont know if i should just stop doing this or aibu just making a cake for my manager?

That waitress sounds a bit of a madam anyway, I would just ignore her, and carry on making cakes for your friends. Give them when you want, not when manager tells you. In that case, they can present a cake for each collegue birthday. I would just give the cake at the end of the day before you go home on the quiet.

In life people have closer bonds with some over others.

You have set a presedence of making cakes for your team of kitchen staff and managers, you have never made the wait staff cake.

I'm my work I would take in treats for my team of 6, the wider function team would be invited to partake, outside of that I wouldn't include other teams just as other teams wouldn't include me.

You don't always have to include everyone as long as you are consistent and it's not done in a mean way.

It would be unreasonable for her to expect you to make her a cake (and she certainly shouldn't have bloody put in her request)! She should enjoy the slice she would have received from the cake you were baking for the other person- from what you described it sounds like you're not making them a cake to take home anyway, it's to share, so you wouldn't be baking two anyway!!!

I would ask someone else in the kitchen to have a word with the waitress to explain that you make the cakes as a gift to your team at work. She's part of a different team and she can't expect the same gifts. She needs to be reminded that she doesn't include you in her outside activities and clearly doesn't see you as a friend, so she shouldn't make demands like that.

OP
Your last post says it all. The two areas late separate. You all socialise separately you don't even like the person so why would she expect a cake from you.

Insist mamagemt stay out of it or you will do them privately for your friends only.

It's ridiculous you dont get invited to front of staff stuff so why can't one pf them organise cakes for them on their biryhdaus

Birthdays!
Stupid phone decided to jump pages and post!! Wtfreak?

Just do birthday cake presenting/cutting before front of house staff start. The only reason it's an issue is because the owners lead a round of Happy BIrthday singing and cake cutting, making it look like a business wide thing.