AIBU expect friends to ask how my baby is

[Parttimeworkingmummy2017]

AIBU to expect some life long friends (uni) to ask how my baby is doing? My daughter is 9 months old and since she has born they have played little to no interest in her - seen her twice at most despite one of them living 5 minutes round the corner, granted some live up to 1 hour drive. However they rarely rarely even ask how she is via message. Tonight we met up for dinner, a small group of us, and not one of them asked how my daughter is, not even a passing comment. I sat there for nearly two hours and ended up making my excuses and left because I was so upset about it.

To be clear I'm not expecting to talk babies all night (none have kids although one is heavily pregnant and she spoke at length about her pregnancy). I've been friends with them for 11 years and whilst we only meet every 1-2 months I would still describe them as 'close' friends. I am starting to get more and more upset about their lack of interest in my daughter but AIBU????

Apologies silver, your post just read to me as saying 'don't dump your non mummy friends, you might want someone interesting to talk to one day'!

@mamamalt Not only is it bloody unreasonable. It's down right rude. How are they your friends?! Never mind the baby (sorry! Congratulations!) but what about you?!?
I'm guessing she got all the congratulations and suchlike when the baby was born 9 months ago?

You are a new mum
Newish. I'm sure this isn't the first time she's been allowed out of confinement to see anyone.

I think I feel you so hard because I have a son who is about to turn one and have gone through the same thing. Some people are just totally self absorbed and there is no excusing it. It's not about the child thing it's about the being a good friend thing.
Ah. This makes more sense as to why you are so outraged.

I wonder what would have happened had the OP or you gone to meet your friends and that day some huge event had happened to one of them and all the conversation was around it. Would you still be pissed off nobody thought to mention your baby? Or it only unforgivable when you feel your child is the best subject on the official permitted topics list?

OP if you' are still here, I think you're going to cringe in a few years when you remember thinking this was an actual issue Babies really are boring. There is absoloutely nothing to say about them that's interesting.
I understand that she is the centre if your world, but don't expect others to feel like the same.

It's not about expecting a baby to be the centre of your friend's world, I would never expect that. However I would expect my friends to be at least interested or pretend to be interested in people/things that are important to me and at the very least ask me about them. I have friends who have dogs. I actually find dogs really boring but I ask about their dogs and make a fuss of them when I see them. That's because I know how important they are to my friends lives and therefore I show an interest.

It's a bit thoughtless but tbh me and my friends rarely ask each other about our babies. If one of them is sick mum will bring it up and everyone else commiserates. If they reach a milestone mum tells us an we all celebrate. Therefore we can presume baby is getting on just fine if we aren't told otherwise.

I think the OP has gone.

@Presently - well, we didn't ask how DD was!

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