To save for baby's nose job

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DH has a very large nose. I like it and I think it makes him look handsome. He really doesn't like it. DD looks like she is going to take after her father in the nose department.
AIBU reasonable to put some money aside each week incase she wants a nose job when she is older? If her nose isn't like her dad's or it doesn't bother her she could use it for other things.
Obviously she would still be gorgeous to me. I'm just concerned she will be self conscious as other people make remarks to DH and he had been teased about it in the past.

Just by googling rhinoplasty you see people who have had it done. It's not that uncommon. They must have wanted it, disliked their nose.
Which is fair enough.

Now frizzy hair?

I wonder how non straight hair is perceived.

I saved for my children's orthodontics especially as my daughter has my overbite. She qualified for free NHS but the dentist did inform us it was her choice as there was no medical problem with her overbite just cosmetic. I also had jaw surgery and chin reduction as an adult. Years of cilla black jokes as a kid killed my confidence.

Why don't you focus on building her confidence and self worth so that she knows she is more than her looks.
My DH has a very large nose as does his mum and DD looks like she will have the same nose.
My DSIS is always going on about how I'll have to save for surgery. I tell her to fuck off and if she ever mentioned it to my perfect DD I'd be livid.
So what if her nose is big she is perfect and so kind and clever and funny that her nose is the least noticeable thing about her.

All these beauty standards are very European, don't you think?

Button noses are overrated. Erin O'Connor wouldn't have become a supermodel without her striking nose. And beware the fate of Jennifer Grey. A nose job turned her from an attractive and distinctive actress to cookie cutter actress no 467.

But if someone actively hates their nose it's no big deal to change it.

I think it is a very good idea OP. Obviously not making her nose a big deal but if it upsets her that much in the future I don't see it as a problem. You could say it's similar for saving up for your kids orthodontic treatment perhaps...?

Can i just say....

My DFather's family (they of the big noses) have all had nose jobs. We think I mean.... the youngest aunt had her first nose job at 16, the others at about 18-21.

But, it has become family legend that my DGrandmother when her eldest wanted a nose job, sighed and said perfectly seriously ; 'Oh good, because then your children won't inherit it'. (Cue collapsed laughing from everyone else while she looked bewildered).

I just wonder why we can't seem to celebrate every person in all their natural beauty really. All this angst, fat, thin, pretty looks according to whatever the convention of the day is.... , small or large noses. God, look at Isabella Rosellini- strong nose, broken teeth, utterly divine.

Would you be saving for her nose job if she were a boy?
Has your dh had a nose job? Do you think he should?

My DH has a properly massive nose, I think he's lovely looking and he doesn't really care either way about his nose.

We have two children and this has never ever occurred to me. It's faintly ridiculous and really shallow to even be thinking about baby needing a nose job.

Former colleague (female) had a striking nose and large sticking out ears. She also had huge hands and feet. Her baby DD was a carbon copy of her. I had never seen a baby with such defined features before. The DD is now 8 and has a big nose and sticking out ears.

Both she and her mother talk openly and unconcernedly about the surgery she will have when she's older. When she gets teased at school she just shrugs it off in "yeah, I know, I'm getting it fixed when I'm older". It's slightly bizarre but it seems to work for them.

Some people want to kill themselves over minor things like this, why not plan for a nose job? It seems like a very considerate thing to do and may not be needed at all.
Anyway whats the big deal, if I had buck teeth or massive ears I'd want to correct them.
OP can still build up her childs self esteem and make her proud of herself but the money will be there "just in case".
Bit it's important to realise that nose jobs are complex, a big roman nose cannot be made into a cute button nose without getting a Michael Jackson.
I worked on a plastic and reconstructive surgery ward for some years and noses are complicated.
Darcy Bussell tried to achieve something unrealistic and I think her nose looks very odd.

Get a bloody grip of yourself woman.
There's something wrong with your thought process if you're already thinking of cars and nose jobs. Save money but let your gorgeous girl invest the money as she sees fit.
You say you won't mention her nose to her- I seriously hope she gets no hint of YOUR insecurities directed towards her whilst growing up. I can think of nothing more damaging than a parent deliberately or indirectly smashing their own child's self worth into smithereens.

Just because OP is thinking of saving up so that there is money available does not mean that she is going to destroy her DD's self worth. My nose is horrific and I would change it in a heartbeat if I could afford it. I would have changed it at any time after the age of 13 given the opportunity and am now approaching 40. It's a gigantic horrific hooked thing which totally doesn't sit right with my very petite features. Hate it!

I have sticky out ears and hate them when I spoke to my mum about having them pinned back she told me there was nothing wrong with me i'm beautiful it didn't help one bit if anything it annoyed me that she was clearly talking shite.

I wish i'd had them done years ago when I had the disposable income tbh.

If you can afford to save for a nose job then just save up
It doesn't have to be for a reason

If her nose isn't like her dad's or it doesn't bother her she could use it for other things
.....like smelling..... Sorry but I couldnt resist. It's definitely a good idea to save for your DD's future though. I would have thought if it really does turn into an issue bad enough to warrant surgery she should qualify on the NHS?. I used to work with a woman who got a breast enlargement on the nhs because she was upset her chest wasn't ample. I thought she had a lovely figure and she was soo slim it was surely natural she wouldn't have a big bust, but the doctors assessed she was suffering enough distress over it that it was funded. I guess none of us can second guess how we would feel ourselves.

Chow Grow up. I married a man with a big nose and chose to have a child with him. Obviously I don't care what her nose looks like. She could have any nose in the world for all I care but I was really upset by the story about a child being unhappy and the mother not helping.

Love Erin, remember seeing her walk through a crowd in Soho & it kind of parting for her.

Blake Lively is a good example of a nose job well executed.

Grow up? 😂 you're right, you married someone you love... big nose or not, you love him. And it will be the same for your kid. stop thinking your child is gonna have a ugly nose and will be self conscious when she grows up.

YANBU. no need to tell her that's what it's for but it's there if she wants it.

i had a nose job and some more parental support (not financial!) would have been beneficial!

also i would definitely pay for my child's nose job if it was a problem for them.

Ha know it's not ok to say in real life but get where you're coming from. Dh has a big nose and jaw but on him it works and he looks manly and handsome. I cannot pretend I am not relieved dds both got my small snub nose (and his lovely feet not my horrors)

I totally wish my dm had done this for me or any savings really but I have a huge nose and it's wonky and goes to the right but my money is for my own ds and bills are more important now although one day I will hopefully have surgery on it