To save for baby's nose job

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DH has a very large nose. I like it and I think it makes him look handsome. He really doesn't like it. DD looks like she is going to take after her father in the nose department.
AIBU reasonable to put some money aside each week incase she wants a nose job when she is older? If her nose isn't like her dad's or it doesn't bother her she could use it for other things.
Obviously she would still be gorgeous to me. I'm just concerned she will be self conscious as other people make remarks to DH and he had been teased about it in the past.

I actually think that's a good idea. As you say, if she is happy with her nose and has no issues she can spend the money on something else. Just don't ever suggest it as an option - look for other solutions to help her appreciate her features and deal with bullying should then worst happen and only when she's say 16/18 and she's determined that she hates her nose, then go down that route. If she is happy - give her the money but don't tell her the real reason you saved it. In fact don't ever tell her that whatever you both decide.

Gisele is beautiful and a VERY well paid supermodel.

She ain't a big nose!!

I would say a 'strong' nose, but she is a willowly, tall girl, and would look odd with a button nose IYSWIM.

Re the OP. Does seem a bit odd to plan for a nosejob for your daughter.

Whatever.

Don't say anything to her though!

I mean she ain't GOT a big nose.

FFS put an edit button in, even if you only allow it for 5 minutes!

How old is your DD?

If you say to me under 15 years old I will think you are bonkers

Gisele hasn't got a particularly big nose imo.

Op. I don't think YABU. If your dd does grow up to have a really big nose ( & a big nose is 1000x worse on a woman ) then no matter how positive you are about it ( ' you've got a lovely nose sweetie' ) she'll get bullied at school. 100% guarantee it.

I maintain that's a big nose, your third image is from an ad campaign so looks smaller. However it 100% suits her. Plus in real life TV it's bigger as less angle control.

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WTAF have I just read????

No Gisele's nose isn't big.

Not small, but not big.

IMO.

I often joke about this with DP. Like in Friends - 'she may have to have a nose job Ross, we have to make our peace with that!'

I wouldn't start saving now though, no.

Border what's a big nose to you?

I'd suggest you start saving for therapy when she realises that her mother went on MN to enquire about getting a nose job when she was a baby!!!! Surefire way to ruin a kid's confidence.

This is fucking ridiculous.

Put some money aside for your child so they can spend it on whatever they like when they're old enough, but specifically for a nose job.. have you actually lost your mind?

OH has brown eyes, I have blue. I think blue eyes are nicer, so just incase DS ends up with brown eyes, do I need so save so he can some how change it?

You sound mad. Or have I missed the point?

Or take a leaf out of Pink's book and find positive examples of people who don't fit society's ridiculous beauty standards, and show her that beauty comes in all forms

I think it's very thoughtful of you, you don't need to tell her anything about it but if she decided that's what she wants later on in life the money will be there. If not you have some spare money.

OP I think you're getting a hard time. It's all very well going on about beauty being on the inside etc but the fact is that looks do matter, particularly when it's something on your face. People do notice a huge nose or awful teeth. It really changes someone's face. I have had 2 friends who had very big or crooked noses who had nose jobs and it has changed their life beyond recognition because people now notice them rather than their nose.
Put the money away but don't ever say that it's for a nose job - if she's happy with her nose, use it for something else.

PS. If it's worrying you that much, don't have kids with someone with a huge nose.
Or realise you need to learn that beauty standards to fit in with society is fucking stupid. It shouldn't matter what someone looks like and everyone should love how they look without spending thousands on plastic surgery.

Sounds like you need help.

Don't worry too much, both of my exes daughters have his nose but they have a feminine version of it so it's not so big.

Plus nose jobs always look odd to me, makes the rest of your face look out of sync

Wish my mum saved for me to get a Ferrari tho, sick of driving a ford around

It's your job to make her feel beautiful and have a great sense of self worth regardless of her nose

Yup. I have a large nose. When I was about 12 my mum said something like, "You're very pretty but we'll have to do something about your nose when you're older." I was self-conscious about it for literally a decade. I now have a great haircut and glasses that suit me, and I'm confident about my looks. I've never forgiven my mother. She had a nose job herself as a young woman and was clearly taking her anxieties out on me.

Completely disagree. OP is just thinking/planning. Many many children who have bad teeth/sticky out ears/very large nose would like very much to have them adjusted.

If dd doesn't end up having such a nose, or does and doesn't mind it, then all good.

But if it does bother her and she begs and begs to have something done at an appropriate age, how can op's thoughts now, be condemned.

Is the OP Kris Kardashian! (Joking)

Some people have a very very hooked nose that they hate and wish they'd had surgery years ago.

People do have nose jobs.

I worried my children would have my frizzy hair and neither does. I'm friends with two sisters whose father had an enormous nose. Really. ENORMOUS. One of the sisters has a small nose, it's perfect! And the other sister has a big nose yes but her face is very symmetrical. She's very attractive.

Some of the responses here are fucking weird.

I really do wonder how people with big noses (whatever that is) manage to navigate through the world not being so perfect.