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To save for baby's nose job

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DressedInBinBags · 29/08/2017 16:56

DH has a very large nose. I like it and I think it makes him look handsome. He really doesn't like it. DD looks like she is going to take after her father in the nose department.
AIBU reasonable to put some money aside each week incase she wants a nose job when she is older? If her nose isn't like her dad's or it doesn't bother her she could use it for other things.
Obviously she would still be gorgeous to me. I'm just concerned she will be self conscious as other people make remarks to DH and he had been teased about it in the past.

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hellomarshmallow · 29/08/2017 17:15

emma has it spot on.

Glumglowworm · 29/08/2017 17:15

YABVU

For the love of god, don't talk about her nose EVER to her. You'll give the poor child a complex.

Save for your child's future of course. But ffs don't call it a nose-job fund

You're absolutely crazy and likely to do more damage to your child's self esteem than any nose in the world ever could

Ceto · 29/08/2017 17:16

Why do you see saving primarily in terms of improving your child's looks? Why not save for something like support at university?

specialsubject · 29/08/2017 17:16

'dear child, you are plug-ugly but don't worry, we are saving for surgery to sort it out'.

yes, that will produce a well-balanced individual...

MrsBobDylan · 29/08/2017 17:17

Don't, just don't. And then NEVER mention the idea to anyone else. And then NEVER allow yourself to think of it again.

Flobulous · 29/08/2017 17:17

Well this thread doesn't seem designed to shock at all...

LoyaltyAndLobster · 29/08/2017 17:17

OP that's just wrong in so many ways, I'm
sure she will not see a problem with her nose.

StarlightExpress5 · 29/08/2017 17:18

God I hope this isn't real Sad

OlennasWimple · 29/08/2017 17:19

Why wouldn't you just save for her so that there is a little nest egg for her to spend on something when she is old enough to decide, regardless of whether that is a car, uni, house deposit, gap year or a nose job?

BeyondLimitsAndWhatever · 29/08/2017 17:19

Of course it's ridiculous.

I think ops point may be the parallel with how many people are telling the other op that her child's excess skin is "her fault and she should pay for removal"

In which case it's a little bit of a taat...

Notknownatthisaddress · 29/08/2017 17:19

This is a wind up right?

^Awaits the old chestnut 'I see the school holidays haven't finished yet!^ Wink

BeyondLimitsAndWhatever · 29/08/2017 17:20

I was contemplating billing my parents for a gastric band based on that thread... Grin

Benedikte2 · 29/08/2017 17:20

OP if you can afford a contingency fund for your DD, then why not. When she's 18 you'll have a better idea about what is important to her.

category12 · 29/08/2017 17:21

Of course you should.

trulybadlydeeply · 29/08/2017 17:22

OP, I agree, by all means save for a nose job, but you might need to put aside a bit more, because you can never guarantee that your children will grow up to be attractive. Maybe save for a boob job as well, in case she is flat chested, or for liposuction if she is a bit on the chubby side.

Maudlinmaud · 29/08/2017 17:23

I don't think this is normal, but each to their own.

123MothergotafleA · 29/08/2017 17:23

You're as daft as a brush love.(but I think this is silly season nonsense)

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DressedInBinBags · 29/08/2017 17:24

I'm sorry. She has a savings account for a car so it's not like I'm putting this above all other things.
Of course I would never ever remark on it. I think she is gorgeous. I think her dad is gorgeous with his nose. I think his sister with the same nose is beautiful.
However he has been bullied because of his nose. His sister has been bullied because of it and cried because of it. She has begged her parents for a nose job.
So while I will think it's gorgeous and encourage her to love it there is no guarantee she will feel the same. I'm never going to say to her have a nose job. I love the nose. But if she is desperately unhappy I want to be able to say if that is what you 100% want I will pay for it. If not she can have the money to do whatever she wants with it.

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GahBuggerit · 29/08/2017 17:24

Oh you are naughty op Wink

user1471451355 · 29/08/2017 17:24

I have a quite large nose. I was never bothered by it at all until my parents offered me a nose job at 16! Goodbye, self confidence. Please don't do this.

NameChanger22 · 29/08/2017 17:25

I honestly think cosmetic surgery should be banned.

Beeziekn33ze · 29/08/2017 17:26

I was teased in primary school about my not especially remarkable nose. I used to announce that I was having plastic surgery when I was old enough. No one mentioned it at secondary school but by then I realised if some idiot wants to tease you they will. They always find some thing to pick on. My nose is fine and always was!

RedBlackberries · 29/08/2017 17:26

I don't think you should pay for it. Much better to start a crowdfunding account and get others to pay.

olderandnowiser · 29/08/2017 17:28

Good for you, OP. I inherited a massive hooter from my father and I wish my parents would have offered to pay for a nose job when I was a teenager. The posters who are all laughing probably have cute button noses and don't know what it is like to walk around looking like a parrot.

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DressedInBinBags · 29/08/2017 17:28

I'm NOT going to offer her a nose job. If she ASKS for one I want to be able to pay for it rather than her having to. She already has a savings account. This would be an additional one. And if she doesn't want the plastic surgery (ideal exactly what I want) then she can do whatever she wants with it. I have said this countless times but you all keep suggesting the same thing.

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