Male beauticians and waxing!!

[Emboo19]

This is based on a friends experience, not mine and it's not so much a AIBU. But we've been discussing it at length and I'm interested in others thoughts.
So would you be ok with a male beautician doing intimate waxing? Would it depend on quite how intimate, so a bikini wax would be ok, but a all off not so much?

I'm not actually sure myself. A part of me thinks it's no different to a male doctor or nurse and I'd be fine with that. Definitely wouldn't have a problem with any other beauty treatments being done by a man, but waxing that invloves no underwear, I'm not sure!!

Is it the fact it's opposite sex people object to or the potential for attraction? Would people feel awkward having a wax carried out by a lesbian?

It wouldn't bother me at all. some of the best massages I've had have been from male massage therapists who were completely ;professional.

Health professionals have a code of professional conduct and one needs to trust them re intimate procedures and a male doctore will invariably ask if you prefer a nurse etc to be present.
This is an altogether different scenario and I can't image many women would feel comfortable in exposing themselves to this procedure with a male therapist

I have never heard of a male beautician undertake bikini waxes and I am struggling to believe that any professional salon would permit it.

Male GPs offer a female chaperone for intimate procedures on women for professional reasons. With respect to all beauticians everywhere they cannot be placed in the same professional category as a doctor or a nurse. OP I think your friend is having you on.

Make beauticians do exist and are held to the same standards as females. They need qualifications and wouldn't gain them if they didn't behave appropriately.

Legwax would be ok with me.
Not sure about a bikini wax though.

I wouldn't feel comfortable with that.

Is it the fact it's opposite sex people object to or the potential for attraction?

Opposite sex. How does one identify a lesbian by sight?

It is it being opposite sex that bothers me. A lesbian is still a woman.

I had a male masseur at a spa once, he massaged right up to my knicker line and I felt uncomfortable but I didn't feel able to say anything for fear I was being unreasonable, but I've never had a female to that.

I want all intimate body procedures that I have to be done by females.

I get the school knicker wax. My female beautician is always trying to roll my knickers back, but I say ''nope!, not going away, thank you but no!''.

It's not from embarrassment. I'd never have a holly wood but if I were inclined I'd definitely feel even more uncomfortable if the treatment was to be executed by a male. And I imagine it feels like an execution.

And people wonder why some professions are more female and male dominated.

Wouldn't bother me. I would expect them
To be professional just as I sure they have an expectation to be discriminated against in the workplace.

not to be discriminated against

How do you mean Titanz?

I agree with posters up thread. A lesbian woman is still a woman. A gay man is not going to be attracted by a woman with her legs akimbo so it must be a dignity thing. I'd rather be waxed by a lesbian woman. I'm sure a lesbian woman has seen better fanjos than my own so I wouldn't delude myself I was any great temptation but I can imagine a gay male beautician being repulsed by a vagina. That would bother me.

Discrimination is fine when it comes to who does things to your body.

they are a professional

They are not a "profession" Anyone could set up tomorrow and say they're a beauty therapist and offer to wax you. People working in the beauty industry are unregulated - some have done loads of training and are very good, others are rubbish. There is no quality control.

It's not the same AT ALL as a midwife, nurse or doctor who has been through extensive training, has sat exams and isn't allowed by law to claim they're something which they're not.

Has anyone actually had any intimate beauty treatments done by a male though?

The only guys I ever see doing anything remotely beauty related are the ones in the Vietnamese type nail bars and I never go to those because I have suspicious about the morality of them.

I had my bikini line lasered some years ago - the person doing it was male. I didn't really mind once I got over the surprise at my initial appointment. I wore underwear the whole time so he never got to see my actual lady bits.

However, I'm not comfortable with male HCPs examining/poking/prodding. I don't refuse it but I'm not comfortable with it. I had a really awful internal examination from a male doctor when I was days away from giving birth. He was really rough and it hurt quite a lot. I also saw a male gynaecologist last year - not only did he pooh-pooh my issues, essentially telling me to 'suck it up, buttercup,' he also gave me an internal examination that was very rough and painful.

I've had a Hollywood done by a man. No problems whatsoever. Just chatted away normally about holidays, families and so on.

I would never have a wax anyway, but I do get massages and I would turn around and walk back out the door if the masseuse was male. I also wouldn't get a smear test done by a man as there are female nurses available to do it.

I did have a male give me an internal scan recently, I wasn't comfortable but I went through with it as I'd waited a while for the appointment and he was the one doing the clinic. But if I have a choice I will always have a woman.

CatsAreAssholes "Um no. Wouldn't see a male HCP either."

Why?

No I wouldn't have any procedure of this type done by a male. I would be ok with a HCP providing intimate care but I don't regard beauticians and masseurs in the same light.
As it happens I don't have anything like this done because I don't like being touched but it would be more bearable coming from a woman.