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Original poster

Am I beating unreasonable. I wrote a "bragging post " so yes but the replies got to me !

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Balletmummy25 · 25/08/2017 10:06

I know I know you bragging posts are annoying !
I was very proud of DD age 3, she had her development review with the community doctor on the hospital ward 3 days ago.

( spent 3/4 of her life in hospital, numerous surgeries )

I was very happy that she came out in some parts ( puzzles , fine motor skills in general , social skills and self caring ) above her age group only ever so slightly above !

Average in other things and below in other parts especially her gross motor skills and speech !

I shared this as family never really get to see her as spend most of her time isolated. Anyway it then followed with comments like

This surprises me I know she can't do the alphabet or count very well yet and " bob " has been doing that ages can't believe they said she was age appropriate.

Followed by

What type of puzzles is she doing as " george" has been doing 16 pieces puzzles for a while and they are the same age, is she still on the wooden pop in types ?!

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Dawnedlightly · 25/08/2017 10:09
Shock Who said that? What horrible responses. Flowers
Tiredemma · 25/08/2017 10:10

This is why I dont really share much about what my 3 year old DD is up to. There is always some other Baby Einstein out there who can do more.

I learnt with my two older boys not to 'brag' too much and I am much more relaxed now and much less irritated by other parents.

Laiste · 25/08/2017 10:10

People get weird and competitive about kids. Take no notice OP.

Out of interest what did your post say? Was it as balanced as what you've put here? Or just the 'DD is above average' bits.

dailydance · 25/08/2017 10:11

Yanbu. One word: bitches

Original poster
Balletmummy25 · 25/08/2017 10:11

Think I learned that lesson 😂😂😂
Tbf I don't think she is a baby genius her speech is delayed, she didn't walk until 22 months etc
But I feel like she is finally catching up and was really proud haha thought my family would be to :/

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 25/08/2017 10:13

Well for what its worth

I think your DD sounds great and it is wonderful that she is catching up.

Your family can sod off!

Binkybix · 25/08/2017 10:13

Well these responses are horrible but the post you did was also annoying. DH and I tend to mention bragging FB posts but would never reply.

Having said that, if your DD has been in hospital then it's a bit different. Sounds like she has done really well. Hope all the hospital time is now over for her.

Original poster
Balletmummy25 · 25/08/2017 10:14

Laiste didn't even really say above average.

It said

So proud of DD ( name ) finally had a positive development review which although showed was still slightly behind in speech and gross motor skills has come on leaps and bounds in her fine motor skills and self caring and did very well with her puzzles and building blocks.

Overall she finally came out at age appropiate but super proud she came up above average in her puzzle work.

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MoggieMaeEverso · 25/08/2017 10:14

Surely "bragging" about a child who's been through so much in her little life is different from going on and on about a more typical child?! I'm sorry you got such awful responses.

Can you reply to the comments and say she's doing 300 piece puzzles - "George" will probably be on 1000 piece by now Hmm

IDoDaChaCha · 25/08/2017 10:15

OP people are horribly competitive. I'd not bother telling them in future, just enjoy DD's successes within your immediate family unit x

Binkybix · 25/08/2017 10:16

Oh that update is fine!

SomeBerryJam · 25/08/2017 10:16

Sorry about those responses OP, next time don't post it. She's your Daughter, you know her better than anyone and the fact that you are focusing on the positives is great. Some people just don't understand, it's very sad.
And George probably isn't doing 16 peice puzzles, but people never know with the constant competitive parenting that goes on these days. Better to just keep it private. You know she's doing well, don't worry what anyone else thinks.
And well done to your DD for making great progress.

Original poster
Balletmummy25 · 25/08/2017 10:16

I swiftly deleted anyway haha
I have always been a little down after these reviews/ meetings as I worried about her started school next September.

They are correct she wouldn't know her A-Z and is not the greatest at count ( can not even count to 10 ) but these were not apart of he assessment !

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teaandakitkat · 25/08/2017 10:17

Sounds like your dd has had a hard time in her early life and is doing great despite all that.

I would be proud of her too.

Some of your family's comments are not very nice at all. Sorry. You'd think they would be excited for her too.

EB123 · 25/08/2017 10:17

People are dicks, they get all weirdly competitive. That wasn't even a boast post, the correct reply should have been, "fantastic well done x"

She sounds like she is doing really well, ignore the rude people.

CatsAreAssholes · 25/08/2017 10:18

Wow ballet your friends are dicks.

braggung is only an issue when it's to feel superior to others. Saying your dd is doing really well after a long hard road is proud and relieved. Surely a mother can be allowed that?

Original poster
Balletmummy25 · 25/08/2017 10:18

I also think I shared because we are often isolated, not allowed visitors etc so often don't have anyone to share these moments with haha sounds pathetic !

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SunnyCoco · 25/08/2017 10:18

I think they are being mean and nasty. you clearly had a difficult time when she was littler and you should be rightly pleased and proud to have a positive review from the doctor.
Bollocks to them

maxthemartian · 25/08/2017 10:19

Given the circumstances, your post was more than reasonable and the replies are really horrible.

IdaBiscuit · 25/08/2017 10:19

That's not bragging.

Your friends are cunts.

LionsTigersBeers · 25/08/2017 10:19

Oh you must be so proud of your daughter!!!well done you and well done her.

I have a group of special needs parents who 'get' it. They are my lifeline and we share the good and bad. Do you have any friends/support network that would similarly understand? It has made such a difference to me.

So sorry that you received such comments. Perhaps your friends/family just didn't appreciate how far your daughter has come?

Binkybix · 25/08/2017 10:20

I was thinking of bragging posts like the one a wife of my friend does (then tags him in so I see it). Stuff like 'oh smarty pants is so cheeky...I told him to wait for a minute and he stood on the stairs and counted to 60. LOL' (before he was 2). Also she posted that he slept through at 6 weeks that he'd slept through and she was so glad she'd ordered such a good baby. I (and several friends) wanted to stab her.

CatsAreAssholes · 25/08/2017 10:20

I'd block people from future posts (or drop them as friends if it isn't too awkward).

Dawnedlightly · 25/08/2017 10:21

Your post was great! I'd be delighted to read that from a friend or relative- not just that she's doing so well, but because it's reassuring and I don't like to ask specifics.

MsAwesomeDragon · 25/08/2017 10:21

She sounds like she's doing great with everything, especially considering how ill she's been.

Your post was fine, not even really bragging, just happy.

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