Am I beating unreasonable. I wrote a "bragging post " so yes but the replies got to me !

[Balletmummy25]

I know I know you bragging posts are annoying !
I was very proud of DD age 3, she had her development review with the community doctor on the hospital ward 3 days ago.

( spent 3/4 of her life in hospital, numerous surgeries )

I was very happy that she came out in some parts ( puzzles , fine motor skills in general , social skills and self caring ) above her age group only ever so slightly above !

Average in other things and below in other parts especially her gross motor skills and speech !

I shared this as family never really get to see her as spend most of her time isolated. Anyway it then followed with comments like

This surprises me I know she can't do the alphabet or count very well yet and " bob " has been doing that ages can't believe they said she was age appropriate.

Followed by

What type of puzzles is she doing as " george" has been doing 16 pieces puzzles for a while and they are the same age, is she still on the wooden pop in types ?!

There are different sorts of bragging posts. Yours is totally acceptable imo! Congratulations to your DD for catching up, you must be relieved and proud.

Screw them! I have two Autistic children and are very very proud of their achievements! Both very behind compared to age group but for me, this is our journey, our achievements and we are allowed to be happy when they succeed. Yes, it might be in things that other children did months or even years ago, but if they are friends, they should be happy for you. Not pissing on your fire!

Brag away, you are allowed to - you have been through alot!

Congratulations to you and your DD for doing so well! You are entitled to feel proud that DD is catching up (and passing) children who do not have her difficult start in life and to want to share her progress with friends and family who ought to care.
Their bragging about their children's progress when it is obvious to all that they do not have ant developmental delay is so unnecessary and spiteful. They should rejoice with you and bear in mind that early development does not guarantee later success and that dogged determination is often paramount to a happy and "successful" life. Hare and tortoise etc.
Good luck to you both and here's to many more great assessments

Hold your head up high, ignore the horrible bitchy competitive ones and celebrate

You and your DD have come such a long way and you've every right to celebrate this

It's hard if like us you have no one around to share and celebrate with, the world would be a much nicer place if a few more learned to do so and not compete all the time

I for one am really pleased for both of you as are many others on here

I'd have called them out by simply replying "wow - couldn't you just have been pleased for me?" and left it at that - highlights what a pair of twats they are and leaves them looking petty.
Congratulations on your DDs achievements!

Yes, it might be in things that other children did months or even years ago, but if they are friends, they should be happy for you. Not pissing on your fire!

Totally agree. If they are friends, or even if they are reasonable human beings with an ounce of compassion.

I'm sure that your daughter will be fine at school as she has you supporting her.

If that was your post, then it's fine, especially given your daughter's circumstances. These 'friends' are just knob jockeys.

FWIW, I usually find the most competitive parents are the the ones who have done least with their own lives.

Ignore them and be proud of your daughter

Really mean spirited of your friends. My friend's little one has been very behind in speech and now she's coming along my friend is thrilled and I like to share it with her by saying "wow she's saying that now, she didn't say it last time I saw her" etc. They should share in your joy not piss all over it.

Ignore them and hold onto that feeling of "yesssss, go girl"
I have a child with SEN and sometimes I cartwheels with delight at his achievements. Often with relief that it's one less thing to worry about.

Enjoy the fact your daughter doing great and the medical issues aren't hindering her and she's advancing in milestones.

You don't need to change what you post.

You do need to delete a number of 'friends' from FB though.

I'd be tempted to reply snippily first though. Something along the lines of "if you can't be happy about my DDs achievements without trying to compare her and question a consultants assessment then I'd like to start the discussion with asking how many days in hospital Bob has spent and how many operations George has had to endure"

blimey - what nasty people to respond to you sharing some good news like that!

There's a difference between expressing pride in or children achievements whatever these are and bragging.

I am intensively proud of my kids in some aspect and will share this but have no qualms whatsoever also mentioning when they act like turds!

You have all the reasons in the world to be proud of your DD. Well done her!

Both my DS have a speech delay and the eldest has other health and developmental problems. I find it hard sometimes to read other people's posts who don't have the struggle of a child with health issues but would never post anything but positive praise as I recognise this is my issue and it theirs.

Well done for the massive progress made

I do have to wonder the friends some people keep on Facebook! I sometimes post instances where it could be construed that I was slightly bragging about things our nearly 3 year old twins do or say and all I ever get is positive responses. I think I'd have to block anyone replying with messages like that

Your friends/family sound horrible :(

I'm not surprised you're proud - I know how hard it is to have children who are behind the curve compared to their peers and how wonderful it is when they're catching up in some areas.

Well done to your DD and to you

I can't stand constantly bragging parents but your update was not bragging at all and the responses are cruel.

Congratulations to you and your DD on the positive assessment outcome

I'm not sure whether the health/SEN status/ability makes it any more or less braggy.
On the whole, most people are uninterested in my children, as I am in theirs. Who cares if Olivia or Geroge scores well or poorly in a spelling test?

Thankyou I was a little taken back the 2 comments were not from " Facebook friends " they are two people we see a lot in life and are relatively close to.

1. She does have tendency to speak before thinking, always quite intrusive. For example I had to have a medical termination and the day after text me to ask how they did it and wanted details.

Think she just doesn't think !

The other one well shocked me.

Neutrogena I suppose to me it does because she needed extensive physiotherapy / play therapy / art therapy it was as much about her treatment as her surgeries.

She couldn't breath of support without surgery ... she is now breathing unsupported

She couldn't walk after a severe case off sepsis - she can now wAlk , talk and developmentally doing well so for me it makes a difference.
She would never have got there without treatment or specialists :)

Whether it was on Facebook or in my company I would of been taken back by the response.

You've done nothing wrong, OP. You've both done brilliantly to get to the point you're at.

The person who made the comments about your daughter's achievements and your termination sounds like an absolute prize, what the fuck?

yeah - its a hard one and that why i never post about my kids on social media - parent get so competitive and i see it daily, its quite strange. What you wrote didn't really sound too over the top, but the responses were awful - quite mean of your 'friends'. Sorry OP but well done to your daughter!

Ugh winds me up. If you must compare your child's achievements do it privately but what is the point of saying it to someone. OH recently mentioned that DD had said her first word in context and his colleague said 'wow, at that age my son had been talking for ages'. Unlikely, DD is 13 months which I thought was fairly average. What was she expecting him to say in reply? 'oh right she must be really behind then, I'm not proud at all anymore'

They sound really nasty OP - if they've nothing nice to say they could always just shut up. great that your littleone is doingso well - good for her.

i have a friend who has a little girl with loads of difficulties due to a genetic conditions - the things that other take for granted are huge steps for her. I don;tlive close and I love to hear her updates and am really chuffed when she puts up a little video of her DD taking a few steps with her, or signing some new words - I can really see the progress she is making. Unlike Neutrogena I do care about my friends' children and love to see them doing well.

People who get all competitive about a little girl who has had a lot to deal with in doing well, must get very little joy out of life - they are the losers.

OP - I suppose to me it does . Yes - of course you know the struggles your daughter has had, but most people are not too interested in healthy or sick children of other people.
I'm not friends with my friend's children, but with my friends.
When I go round their houses, I'd rather not see or hear about their kids.
Other people's kids are boring.
My kids are fascinating.