Am I beating unreasonable. I wrote a "bragging post " so yes but the replies got to me !

[Balletmummy25]

I know I know you bragging posts are annoying !
I was very proud of DD age 3, she had her development review with the community doctor on the hospital ward 3 days ago.

( spent 3/4 of her life in hospital, numerous surgeries )

I was very happy that she came out in some parts ( puzzles , fine motor skills in general , social skills and self caring ) above her age group only ever so slightly above !

Average in other things and below in other parts especially her gross motor skills and speech !

I shared this as family never really get to see her as spend most of her time isolated. Anyway it then followed with comments like

This surprises me I know she can't do the alphabet or count very well yet and " bob " has been doing that ages can't believe they said she was age appropriate.

Followed by

What type of puzzles is she doing as " george" has been doing 16 pieces puzzles for a while and they are the same age, is she still on the wooden pop in types ?!

Surely if you were friends you would care about the having a sick child - sorry I find that baffling.

I care about my friends so I care about their kids ?

I do think having a sick child does help to find out who your true friends are.
My circle of friends has shrunk considerably in the last 7 years but those I have I know really do care!

She isn't better maybe I'm wrong but I would hate to think none of my friends care once she is better that's sounds awful
My best friend has a very healthy child and I care about him
Maybe I am an odd friend

( btw she is not better as in still very sick and in hospital )
Regardless of this I would expect my friend to be happy for us like I am for them.

I am begining to question what friendship means.

People only have a finite capacity for other people.
They are busy with their own lives.

You cannot choose your family, but you can your friends.

If you have enough "capacity" for someone else's life to write a negative comment about such a positive post you have enough capacity to write "fantastic", click like or simply scroll on by.

If you can't say anything nice and all that!

" please show me on someone's CV where it lists "age walked, first sentence, potty trained, slept through night from age x"
I suspect recruiters would have some tales to tell :o

If my friend had a child who has the medical needs yours has balletmummy, I would certainly be interested and it would take a hideous person not to be.

You should be proud of how far she's come! I'm sorry that people can't be happy for you.

Your daughters health status would be of interest to a friend.
The fact she's averageish in tests is of little interest.

Your friends may have been insensitive, but don;t make it a massive deal.

zzzz managed to say what I wanted but much more politely!

I would be bragging too! Well done to your dd

Your responses are unpleasant and unhelpful, Neutrogena.

Sounds like your daughter is doing really well! My son has developmental delays so I understand the excitement of them getting the progress made even if it may well be behind their peers! So what?

As my mom said, there will always be someone you tell them you've been to Tenerife and they've been to Elevenerife..

Oh heavens, your post was fine OP! If I had seen it, knowing that your DD had been through lots of struggles in life, I would have thought how lovely it was that she was catching up a bit!

It's a world apart from the bragging post that finally made be delete an ex FB "friend". It was one of those crappy quizzes that generates you a social class. Obviously, clearly dependant on the answers you give it, nothing scientific. Anyhow, this particular friend had a habit (probably still has) of writing gushing posts about how spectacular her DCs achievements are - and more specifically how they are clever because of her own personal input and sacrifices (which are no different to the vast majority of other parents).

The results of the quiz was something like "rising middle class" - can't remember the exact term now. Her comment was "born in to a working class family in the north. I'm so proud of how I've worked so hard & made so many sacrifices to better myself. Just goes to show that anyone can own their own house & business if they are prepared to work for it."

You may think that sounds fair enough? Apart from her house was bought thanks to a hefty gifted deposit from her DH's family (we are more friends with her DH anyway & he has no problem telling us things like this although she hates it) - and the business she runs is as a mobile nail technician. Nothing at all wrong with that but she barely breaks even and her DH is consistently telling her that they could really do with her trying to get a proper job now......... Much of their lovely life goes on credit cards.

That's the kind of "look how much better than you I am" bragging I can't stand! People being proud of their DCs I'm fine with .

Are you on Facebook Neutrogena?

If so I imagine you find it constantly disappointing.

I think the achievement of that girl are great, but I am trying to get OP to see the other side. She's wondering about her friends responses and I am giving insight.

No, not on Facebook. It doesn't do me any good and its pretty dull (maybe that's the company I keep)

I think you're unusual Neutrogena, I think the vast majority of people do care, are interested and do think of those their friends love as important.

^ what zzzzz said with bells on.

I don't necessarily want a run down on who they've fallen out with this week or what they've worn to the school disco but of course I absolutely care about my friends children. I celebrate their achievements with them because when you care about friends you care about their lives and their children are part of that package.

Even if you don't want to see the updates that doesn't excuse being rude and "bursting the bubble" of someone who is obviously happy

She isn't better maybe I'm wrong but I would hate to think none of my friends care once she is better that's sounds awful

I am confident that Neutrigena doesn't have any friends in the real world. Just ignore everything he/she has to say

What a nasty thing to say, you're just like the people the OP was talking about.

While I wouldn't have been so insensitive as the OPs friends, I was giving her reasons as to why she got those responses.

The evidence is that the OPs friends don't give a stuff. While I am sure WE would care, not everyone is so compassionate.

Doesn't mean you need to try to justify their attitude.