Am I beating unreasonable. I wrote a "bragging post " so yes but the replies got to me !

[Balletmummy25]

I know I know you bragging posts are annoying !
I was very proud of DD age 3, she had her development review with the community doctor on the hospital ward 3 days ago.

( spent 3/4 of her life in hospital, numerous surgeries )

I was very happy that she came out in some parts ( puzzles , fine motor skills in general , social skills and self caring ) above her age group only ever so slightly above !

Average in other things and below in other parts especially her gross motor skills and speech !

I shared this as family never really get to see her as spend most of her time isolated. Anyway it then followed with comments like

This surprises me I know she can't do the alphabet or count very well yet and " bob " has been doing that ages can't believe they said she was age appropriate.

Followed by

What type of puzzles is she doing as " george" has been doing 16 pieces puzzles for a while and they are the same age, is she still on the wooden pop in types ?!

There's one thing you can be sure of in life op, some arsehole is always waiting with a big boot wanting to kick you of your cloud nine. You should be proud

I begin to despair of the human race! I have had a week of customers complaining and demanding despite the problems they have not of my doing I'm just passing on info and sorting other employees mess. Then I read this where family and friends are incapable of saying anything nice when a CHILD who is trying to overcome hurdles achieves something wonderful. Sometimes I hate people and much prefer animals. Well done OP and very well done little one for continuing to achieve despite the objecats in your way. As for Bill and Bob or whoever they are your parents are knobstill

I got slaughtered once when I mentioned on a local Mumbler thread (about baby sleeping) on Fb that my DD had slept through since the day she was born. (she actually has....) I was called a liar and threatened with being banned for 'clearly saying things that weren't true in order to antagonise people - Trolling in other words. It was all fuelled by competitiveness that I guess they felt they couldn't 'beat' However, had they allowed me to continue I would have told them what an absolute nightmare I have actually GETTING her to sleep now that she's a toddler and all the other issues I have with her. The fact that she still won't eat. The fact that I have to practically force feed her......
OP, re-instate your status and blatantly IGNORE these comments. That will speak volumes to these people that they are being unsupportive bitches. They should generally have smiled when reading that status..... Anyone who didn't and wasn't genuinely pleased & relieved, isn't a real friend.... x

The user Neutrogena always posts goady, nasty comments

I am NOT Troll Hunting, just stating what I've seen on Mumsnet lately.

It would be mean to question (publicly) any child's development report to their proud mum on FB. To do so for a child who has over come such adversity is shitty. These are not your friends.

Put them on limited profile and customise your privacy settings so they can't see your status updates. I'm much happier since doing that. Can't unfriend them or there'll be hell to pay. But can't be 'friends' with them in an open way.

@thebearsbunny the Alan Partridge appreciation thread is that way ->

Dont take anything @Neutrogena says seriously. She's an ugly sort of person.

It is their own insecurities so dont take it to heart! You are all doing so well, feel free to be proud :) My DS was very prem and poorly for 2 years......and was always miles behind, I still enjoyed his triumphs for who he was and as the milestones were harder for him. He has done so well and mostly caught up.....all of your support and encouragement is what matters x

OP I've just caught up with this thread. I really hope you ignore everything unpleasant said and cut out people that have t shown you support throughout this time. Ignore nutrogena completely. He/she is clearly looking for a reaction and has come off as a very uncaring and spiteful person. The probability is that he or she is a miserable uninteresting person with little or no friends (hence the bitterness). Just ignore comments like that and take pride in your amazing daughter who has worked so hard at her recovery. She is a credit to you as you are most probably the reason she has progressed so well. I have a child who doesn't always keep well(not the same situation as you and no where near as severe) but my friends love my child and when she's been in hospital have visited and supported us. They are very much interested as am I in their children. That's called real friends and to be frank anyone who isn't interested in a sick child might be verging on not being human in my eyes!! Ignore! Congrats to you and you're lovely dd xx

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I'm really sorry you had such rotten responses, and from family too
My dd is also developmentally delayed, significant speech delay, physically she is right on track but speech and understanding she is a minimum of 18 months behind and is also under assessment for autism. I get really shitty comments from some people including family asking why she's still in nappies and she's too old to be in a pram/on reins sometimes, too old (4 in 3 moths time) to play with that toy etc etc well she's in nappies as she just doesn't have the understanding to toilet train yet, the reins/pram is for her own safety as she just bolts the first chance she gets and has run in front of several cars! And she can bloody well play with what makes her happy.

Well done to your dd OP you have every right to feel proud, I feel the exact same when my dd progresses, it's a major moment when you have a child who is delayed. Hope she continues to do so well

Screw them op
Sounds like your dd has had a rough start. You have every right to show how proud you are of her development
I wouldnt even call it a brag post

I am SO sorry, OP! People are Jerks. My ds is dyslexic and he suffered greatly from many cruel, thoughtless words just like you did on behalf of your DC.

The first time ever I took ds to the playground and a woman said, "your son is really tall."
I acknowledged this quite happily, 99% Ht. It had been difficult to conceive, miscarriages, life threatening delivery. I was just so happy to finally have a son. I did not care about his size except that he was healthy.

But she persisted: "NO! YOUR SON IS REALLY TALL! Do you KNOW how tall?"

I replied, "his daddy is tall" (I am short)

I forget what she said, but she didn't stop.
I finally pulled him out of the swing and barely made it to the car before crying. It could have been hormones but it was her really pushy, nasty attitude. I was fragile bc, like you, it was a long, difficult road.

I went home, called my mother and she said, "next time ask her WHY her ds is so SHORT!"
Use the same right back. I don't think that you were boasting. You were sharing good news. Next time just lie with audacity when Ms Nasty Pants compares your dc to hers. Tell her that your dc is MAKING puzzles.
It's a poor excuse for a parent who does not understand and empathize with one who is having difficulties. But get ready. This horrible competition doesn't stop. Ever. Just laugh at them and cry to us. Do NOT let them see that they hurt you. They are uglies and bullies and they are probably lying as well.

I didn't read your other post but very well done to your child, my son didn't form any words until he was 3, a little behind everyone else, but now catching up aged 11. ignore everyone else. Give your child a hug for being them and doing well

I am delighted for you that your child is doing so well, and so should your 'friends and family' on social media. Just ignore any negative comments and be proud. Some parents are so competitive it's ridiculous, do they seriously believe their kids are so much better than anyone else?! It's an eye opener when they start school, some of the parents are just so competitive ranging from how the DCs did on sports day to how they are progressing in class.

Good work to your DC, any progress is progress. I used to work for a speech & communication disorder charity and know that children learn at their own pace and often catch up to "age-appropriate" norms, and also that there is so much tech and knowledge now to help with communication if she needs it. She will do things at her own pace and be none the worse for it as she grows up. So sick of competition parenting! You're clearly both doing great!

Sorry that people were so rotten to you.
I wouldn't even describe your post as bragging, just relieved and happy. People are lazy and don't read posts properly - hopefully, if I'm being charitable, they just missed the part about your daughter spending so long in hospital. But there are dickish types who just have to boast about how their kids are superior.
I'm really pleased for you and your family :)

You should be shouting that good news from the rooftop and anybody who isn't jumping up and down with joy with you, at that good news isn't a very good friend.
Sorry to be so blunt and put a dampener on your friendship but really I'm so mad at her on your behalf.

Yeah, I agree people are dicks,and family can be the worst kind. Yay to your little girl, good on her. She'll master it all in her own time. Can't see why your family especially couldn't be more positive and supportive to you. My SIL posts kids Stuff/achievements etc. I Love to see it, as we don't live local, and would otherwise miss out. Yanbu.