To wish parents wouldn't boast about their children's specific GCSE grades on social media?

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I've got no problem with messages like 'Congratulations Jake, you've worked so hard. You deserve this.'

I just hate it when exact grades are given. E.g. Congratulations Oliver on gaining 5A*, 3A and a level 8 in English'.

Just feels unnecessary and guaranteed to cause upset to others. Shouldn't we be encouraging our children to just do the best they can? Success will be different for different people.
Of course teenagers will share their grades themselves anyway.
I've got a friend whose daughter got very high results...the parents put the results all over social media. How proud they are of their 'genius, perfect daughter'. Their other daughter is a year younger...she is far less academic. Not likely to achieve anything like sister's grades. Wonder how she feels.

What do people think?

I think that they are feeling very proud and want to crow about it. I don't see it as an issue.

No I'm sorry I don't agree with that- some kids did extremely well and they should be able to be proud and shout about (well not shout about, but say) what they got. Just let these kids who did brilliantly have one moment to revel in their achievements. This is a day for celebrating academic achievements, so let them celebrate. Obviously be conscientious to the people who haven't done so well, but I don't think that crosses into not posting/talking about the results they've worked so hard for.

I don't see why people should have to hide achievements so as not to upset others tbh.

One of my dc is very academic and I am proud and boast about their achievements, another isn't academic at all and I am proud and boast about the things he does well also.

I posted each and every grade my daughter received. She worked so hard and deserved the credit and praise heaped on her.

Yabu

would not dream of stealing DD's thunder - she - and all her friends are posting pics of their results sheets on Snapchat

• private emails from me to her Gran/Granny/Grandma so they can congratulate her are the only boasting going on here.

Honestly, I just sigh and move on (or hide their posts if I can't bear yet another 'look how marvellous my child is' post again)

Parents should be proud of what their child has achieved. In life some people do better than exams than others, you can't pretend it doesn't happen!

It's a bit... tacky and I wouldn't do it, but can't say it bothers me.

Aw should be proud and happy for them but remember we don't own our children! Or the right to publish their exam results whether bad or good or average!

I think it's beyond crass and insensitive to post results on social media. Show off to family only.

I do not see an issue. GCSEs are hard work and if a student has managed to get high grades why shouldn't they be proud of that. Its a day where we can celebrate academic success.

I feel embarrassed for the people doing it. There's a very sweet woman who isn't overburdened with intelligence herself. She posts such mediocre achievements, I end up feeling bad for her.

Really depends, DS1 was pretty much a perfect student, straight A*s in everything he did. DS2 struggled more with school, still got As and Bs but worked his arse off for them. There was no animosity between the two about it but there was quite a lot between them and a (now ex) friend of theirs. Now, of course we didn't use social media then as much as we do now, I don't even think I had any social media at the time, but we didn't advertise it anywhere, if family friends asked we told them but for us exam results were kept a private thing. Then again, it always depends on the family if it upsets the kids to constantly be compared, they should abstain, if the kids don't mind, I see no reason not to.

You can be proud without giving the details - and making others feel shit.

Just feels unnecessary and guaranteed to cause upset to others

Sod that. The idea that you can't mention the reality of what happened for your kid on the off chance that someone else will be upset that their kid didn't do as well, I don't think so. My child has no bearing on yours, and no one makes you read other peoples posts.

Success in GCSEs is not just about hard work, it's about inherited intellligence.
Tact and consideration for other people's feelings is a very important skill to have in life.

If you can't post something that could upset someone else, you cannot post anything at all.

I can't see why anyone should feel they have to hide their grades because of others. Of course you encourage the kids to do the best they can, but at that age, they are old enough to realise that doing your best is not enough. When they compete in sport, there is one winner, and the others behind lost. When you apply for a job, only one will be successful.
If you are upset because of someone else success, either work harder, or concentrate on what you are good at and what you will achieve. Ignoring others achievements is not increasing your own and is not helpful.

I'm a few years off having GCSE results day with my two but a whole bunch of my Facebook friends are on cloud nine with their kids results today. They've all posted some or all of the actual results and they range from 5 Cs to the full lot of As and As (or those numbers they get now). They're all equally proud of their kids and how hard they've worked. I think celebrating achievements is important regardless of the grade, doesn't mean you can't be proud of the grade whether its an over-achieving A or a scrapped pass from a student who wasn't expecting it.
And my friend has twins - one has done much better than the other but she's equally proud of both and told every one who will listen the grades.

Success comes in all measures, I've liked all my friends post as there children worked hard, no matter what there results have been.

YABU.

Be happy with your own child's result, not pissed that other people did better

I'm not sure. In one way I can see why parents want to show off about their children's achievements. On the other hand, for people like me, who's DC didn't do v well, it is really depressing.

I imagine the people who post their kids results are the same people who post endless holiday pics, 'check in' at posh venues and show off about what they got for Xmas/ birthday/ Valentines, etc

I need to come off Facebook actually as it's making me really bitter.

Not a single fb post re exam results today amongst my friends - and I have quite a few with yr 11s (including me!) I also had a sneaky look at a few of the kids' pages themselves (mostly not private). Nothing. No-one is boasting/posting at all. I think it's a bit passé, isn't it?

I don't think it's just the parents with child genius' though. My feed is full of parents who are proud of whatever results their child has achieved, I think the assumption here is that parents who have children with c's will somehow be upset by those children who got a's.

Parental pride isn't reserved for a*'s. I see no harm. It's only going to happen once :)