To wish parents wouldn't boast about their children's specific GCSE grades on social media?

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I've got no problem with messages like 'Congratulations Jake, you've worked so hard. You deserve this.'

I just hate it when exact grades are given. E.g. Congratulations Oliver on gaining 5A*, 3A and a level 8 in English'.

Just feels unnecessary and guaranteed to cause upset to others. Shouldn't we be encouraging our children to just do the best they can? Success will be different for different people.
Of course teenagers will share their grades themselves anyway.
I've got a friend whose daughter got very high results...the parents put the results all over social media. How proud they are of their 'genius, perfect daughter'. Their other daughter is a year younger...she is far less academic. Not likely to achieve anything like sister's grades. Wonder how she feels.

What do people think?

YANBU it is just so crass and unnecessary, no one but close family (and even then it might be a push) are interested in your child's grades, it is not some particularly impressive or unusual achievement to get GCSEs the vast majority of children in the country will. But then I think pretty much all social media content is wanky showing off shit so I avoid it completely. I am so so glad that my parents didn't feel the need to boast about my grades for GCSE/A level, I would have found it so embarrassing. But it was my parents that taught me that it wasn't nice to boast as it can make other people feel bad/inadequate, so it makes sense that they live by their own rules. Shame that many children won't be getting the same lesson, show offs quickly become tedious in social situations and that won't do them any favours in the future.

Whats the difference to young people - posting t
heir own results?

Their other daughter is a year younger...she is far less academic. Not likely to achieve anything like sister's grades. Wonder how she feels.

How would she even know?

No self-respecting teenager would be caught dead within sniffing distance of their parents FB page.

YABU.

Why don't these people tell their kids they're proud to their faces, rather than posting on fb? The answer is that the post isn't meant for the kid - it's meant to project the image of a wonderful family life to all their fb 'friends'. Same as people who tag their partner - who they've seen that day - in a gushing anniversary post. It's all posturing.

My only worth in my family was as the prize pony. You will never see my son's exam results on social media, or indeed any of the 'I don't care how he did, he worked so hard' beforehand posts (stealth brag - I care more than you results-focussed parents). My son's value comes from stuff totally outside his exam results. I post about that.

Yikes. This is my stealth boast.

Why don't these people tell their kids they're proud to their faces, rather than posting on fb?

They do, however it makes a break from kitten pictures

Why don't these people tell their kids they're proud to their faces, rather than posting on fb

Yes because posting on FB is definitely instead of telling them and not as well as.

I think it is pretty sad that people are expected to not mention their children's academic achievement especially considering it is apparently fine to mention other achievements e.g. sporting. I didn't mention my DD's GCSE results on FB but she was in the local paper. Is that not okay either?

Feeling sorry for the people who don't have friends and extended family who are interested and supportive of their kids achievements.

I don't understand why its fine for parents to be proud and loud about their parents winning a race or a dance competition, but not for them to be proud and loud about good academic results that will have been worked just as hard for.

My oldest is 7 but when she does something well I want to be able to share it!

I don't brag about anything kid related.

Why would you?

I find the posts on FB about sporting exploits as braggy as results ones tbh.

And presumably you had a choice about your child being in the paper. I'd have refused. I know my parents declined any requests by my school to publicise my results.

I have one dc who was practically straight A*s and another who has a some As and lots of Bs. Neither told their friends their results (unless pressed) and I did not tell results on FB but only to close family. Both have today been moaning about young people posting their results on social media - it is beyond crass and very self-centred.

They do, however it makes a break from kitten pictures

See what you did there . More life brags (and kids) in my feed tbh - one of the reasons I barely check it anymore.

Yes because posting on FB is definitely instead of telling them and not as well as.

That's kind of the point I was making though. If they've done the latter, the former is unnecessary, therefore the post isn't really intended for the kid, it's for everyone else on fb...

And presumably you had a choice about your child being in the paper. I'd have refused. I know my parents declined any requests by my school to publicise my results.

Do you seriously think schools ask the parents of 16 year olds whether they can be in the papers?

Why don't these people tell their kids they're proud to their faces, rather than posting on fb?

What makes you think they don't? DD is nowhere near GSCE age,but I'm still stupidly proud of all her little achievements. I tell her that, a lot. She knows I'm proud that she's smart,works hard,is polite ,is kind etc. Academic and social things alike. Yes I also post on fb, but that's alongside ,not instead of.

Oh,and since on fb i mostly have close friends and family,they are also aware my life is not all rosy and what a pain in the butt she can be. People are not one dimensional.

*Today 21:51 Roomster101

I think it is pretty sad that people are expected to not mention their children's academic achievement especially considering it is apparently fine to mention other achievements e.g. sporting. I didn't mention my DD's GCSE results on FB but she was in the local paper. Is that not okay either?

One of the finest non stealth brags ever

Yabvu we celebrate sporting achievements so why not academic?

One of the finest non stealth brags ever

That would be pretty pointless considering you don't know who I am.

Because these children have worked bloody hard and achieved.
Why can't we celebrate it, just because someone else hasn't done so well? We celebrate the winners of races, even though that means that someone else lost.

And it's far easier than telling all the relatives separately.

(My kids are little, so it's not something I have done.)

So the kids who don't do so well haven't worked " bloody hard" ? How do you know that? What nonsense.

Do you seriously think schools ask the parents of 16 year olds whether they can be in the papers?

They do. We had a child under the witness protection scheme (one example) so photos have to authorised by parents for release.

Roomster101, not at all, people do it all the time here.
You should be in a happy mood if your dc results were so amazing as to be in the paper, not being aggressive to people on the internet who happen to have a different opinion to you.

I've seen a few of those, a few A*, a few A's, a few B's and a few C's, and just thought.... Meh.... really? Pretty bloody average, why are they posting?

@Roomster101 ahhh but now people know that there is someone somewhere in the country whose child did well it and made the papers. So obviously that is meant to make them feel bad,re-evaluate their lives and feel crap about it...or some such.