To think that it IS rude?

[Dancingfairy]

A friend posted on facebook the other day about having a work man other who pooed in her loo without asking. The comments were all saying how rude and disgusting it was. Some even saying to report him or that they would have kicked him out. Anyway I mentioned it to a friend who didn't see the problem. But I do think that it's rude aswell so aibu or is it rude not to ask?!

I don't think a poo is urgent either? Most adults can hold it in surely as most adults I know tend not to shit themselves.

A poo can certainly be urgent. You are very lucky never to have experienced it. Living with a bowel condition is made very much harder when people presume that.

Luckily it's never been an issue for me. I would be mortified tbh.

If someone honestly wrote that in a FB post then I'm judging them far far worse than the workman.

I don't think a poo is urgent either?

Have you really never waited and then urgently had to run to the loo? You must lead a charmed life 😂

Also, holding it in is not particularly good for you.

What about if you are staying in someone's house for a few days? Like at inlaws for Christmas, or in a b&b or hotel?! Totally baffled

Maybe that chap was. I think my DH would be as well but would be more mortified/ concerned at the sweats, hideous cramps and pain which accompanies a sudden need to go.

If this chap took himself off with a copy of the Sun and sat merrily pooing for half an hour then left the place messy then could understand her irritation but without further details it is hard to tell and I cannot imagine a situation where you would prod for further details frankly.

Bloody hell, because he stunk the place out, well no sh*t (pun intended) deal with it, it's part of everyday life, bet she has trouble with people coughing, breastfeeding, BREATHING. It's not school and it's not 1900 you and your friend/s need to stop being such prudes.

i presume her shit doesn't stink then??

what a precious creature she is. ..and a terrible housewife too, not to have a waft of air freshener for easy usage.

If you have such a problem with a workman using your loo then you need to hire a portaloo for your garden while work is going on.

Oh no public toilets are fine (though I would still be mortified but I would if I was desperate) and family/friends but not a stranger!!
And yeh I've been ill so needed the toilet urgently but I wouldn't go out to work if I was ill so surely he shouldn't have if that was the case?

So he realises he needs a poo at 10am what should he do hold it in until dinner when he might find somewhere local with a public toilet or til the end of the day?

Why on earth would anyone be mortified about doing a poo?

How utterly bizarre.

Op you have ishoos.

Where else would you expect him to go I hope he's seen her FB post and leaves her a present on her doorstep

IBS is really common and yup, when you gotta go, you gotta go. I'd be laughing at your friend if i read the post. Ridiculous.

If you can't see the difference between the need to eat and the need to poo, you have a very strange digestive system.

I'm with you, OP - i think that it IS rude and disgusting.

But why is it?

There are always people on mumsnet who get outraged about this sort of thing. It's quite horrible really - the idea that a workman is some subhuman species not fit to use your loo. I've had a lot of tradespeople in my home - often all day. Some have asked to use the loo, others haven't and I assume they used it without asking as they didn't slope off to the public loos in the park as far as I recall. It's never occurred to me to consider it really - and as for "disgusting" - meh..

Surely people find it embarrassing pooing in public and other people smelling it?? If they didn't products like vipoo wouldn't exist. Yes I would be embarrassed. I wouldn't like a stranger to poo in my toilet but I wouldn't object to it but I think at the very least he should ask. So say if they work man that comes to mine today just got up and marched upstairs people seriously wouldn't call out and ask where he was going?? That would be more embarrassing for him surely?

Yes it is rude and I would certainly have an issue with it. Having a number 2 in a strangers toilet is unacceptable.

No one who finds it rude and disgusting has said why it is rude or disgusting.