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AIBU?

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To think that it IS rude?

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Dancingfairy · 24/08/2017 08:32

A friend posted on facebook the other day about having a work man other who pooed in her loo without asking. The comments were all saying how rude and disgusting it was. Some even saying to report him or that they would have kicked him out. Anyway I mentioned it to a friend who didn't see the problem. But I do think that it's rude aswell so aibu or is it rude not to ask?!

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SchadenfreudePersonified · 24/08/2017 10:03

You've never met my bowels

Or mine!

Sometimes I wouldn't have time to get the words "May I use your toilet?" out of my mouth before I had crapped myself.

In the interests of hygiene, comfort and consideration for others, I would have to throw myself bodily into the nearest lab.

Zippydoodah · 24/08/2017 10:04

It's not rude but my builder's poos used to stink so i irrationally didn't care much for him crapping in my loo. I see your point but yabu.

What i hate are the kids who live just next door, knock at the door to play then crap just 2 minutes later and make a mess, create a stink and forget to flush.

I am a bit coy about pooing in other toilets so that's where it comes from

SchadenfreudePersonified · 24/08/2017 10:04

*lav, not lab

No animals were hurt in the expulsion of my poo

upperlimit · 24/08/2017 10:04

I think you should unclench.

Mittens1969 · 24/08/2017 10:05

I would love to know where the OP thinks the workmen should go if they need a poo? They can't exactly hold it in all day, so they would have to find public toilets, which would waste a lot of time that you'd surely prefer to be spent doing the work that you're paying them to do.

Obviously if they didn't flush the toilet behind themselves then that would be grim.

Gileswithachainsaw · 24/08/2017 10:09

Yes you can see it now

AIBU to think that I shouldn't have to he invoiced for a porter potty for the work people.

AIBU to think that if someone's paid for 8 hours they should work 8 hours and not spend half of it buggering off to Tesco toilets.

AIBU to not want a portable toilet in my garden.

minoandolphin · 24/08/2017 10:09

You get annoyed about people using public toilets?! Just...what is wrong with you? EVERYBODY shits. That's what toilets are for. Just...why wouldn't you use them? Do you only ever poo in your own house, when no-one else is in the house, then empty a can of air freshener in the bathroom afterwards?

Please know that you are very weird.

Pleasefindmyreallife · 24/08/2017 10:11

I thinks it rude to take a dump in someone else's house. There's no need to unless you're ill in which case it's even worse.

It not at all like wanting a wee which changes depending how much liquid you've had.

DesignedForLife · 24/08/2017 10:11

If I smell poo in public toilets I just think "oh god really?!" As I can't quite get people who are comfortable enough to do it.

I personally feel a lot more comfortable if I have pooed on a toilet.

You are very blessed to not know what IBS feels like.

Gileswithachainsaw · 24/08/2017 10:13

You do realise work people start early?

They don't have the luxury of getting up at seven having a coffee, shower and getting the bus at half 8 after a leisurely poo.

Mittens1969 · 24/08/2017 10:17

Sorry, I just don't get why people would worry so much about poo? It's a basic bodily function.

But then I've emptied a toddler's potty, and my cats' litter trays, so that does tend to make me less squeamish than I would be otherwise lol.

Mittens1969 · 24/08/2017 10:18

And also cleaned up for elderly people in nursing homes who are incontinent. Shit happens lol.

Kahlua4me · 24/08/2017 10:19

How on earth do people have the time, and inclination, to worry whether anybody in their house is using the toilet for its proper purpose?
Or perhaps they would rather pay extra to the tradesmen in time used travelling back their own homes to poo when the urge takes.

And we wonder why the world is going to pot.....

MerchantofVenice · 24/08/2017 10:28

Umm , yeah- that's why the world's going to pot, Kahlua

hedgebitch · 24/08/2017 10:30

I usually ask if I can use someone's loo, but more as a way of asking where it is and letting them know why I'm getting up and wandering upstairs! If someone actually said no I'd think they were an absolute twat. It's a toilet. It's for pissing and shitting in. Obviously I don't enjoy smelling other people's poo, but that's life for you - shit happens. It's silly and frankly a bit pathetic to get so worked up about it that you actually feel angry with people for pooing.

nakedscientist · 24/08/2017 10:32

I've had my gall bladder removed and for various reasons it has limited the amount of warning I get, IYSWIM!

Any how for pity's sake YABU! Let a fellow human go to the loo and have a poo. They smell it can't be helped.

Apple23 · 24/08/2017 10:35

Perhaps that V I poo scent stuff should be marketed at workmen rather than at women?

MerchantofVenice · 24/08/2017 10:35

I think there's more than one issue going on here.

Clearly, it's highly unreasonable to accuse someone of being 'rude' when they use a toilet. And it's unreasonable to assume everyone csn hold it in, just because you can.

But it's also a bit mean to keep reminding those of us who do have 'ishoos' around pooing that we're weird. I know I am!

I'd love to have a normal approach and to be able to use any toilet without anxiety. It would make travelling easier for one thing.

FWIW I've had no trouble at all cleaning up my own children's poo (and, believe me, we've had some seriously interesting potty training escapades) - but I still have weirdness about using public/other people's toilets myself. I guess I'm better than I was.

We're all different, with our own odd hang-ups. Doesn't mean we 'have nothing else to worry about'

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Dancingfairy · 24/08/2017 10:35

But a strangers loo is not for anyone who takes a fancy to piss and shit in. It's for the residents of the house, you can't expect to have free rein over someone else's toilet. Like for example if you were not near any toilets and you needed a poo you wouldn't just knock on someone's door and ask to use theirs. It isn't a god given right. You would simply wait.

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fleshmarketclose · 24/08/2017 10:36

I think I'd expect to be asked by a workman if they could use the loo if they were in a different part of the house. I definitely wouldn't want to know what they were going to do
I had a plumber in the bathroom the other week who came downstairs to ask if he could use the loo I found that a bit bizarre because he could have used it without my knowing anyway.

skyzumarubble · 24/08/2017 10:37

How can you cringe at people who poo in public toilets?! That's what they're there for. I'm not one of these people who can hold a poo until I get home - what would you rather I pulled my pants down on the street?!?

liz70 · 24/08/2017 10:38

"I must admit I do cringe at people who poo in public toilets."

I pay council tax, ergo I'll take a shite in a public toilet if I need to. That's if I can find one these days. Ditto shop toilets where I'm a paying customer. I do take measures to minimise ahem "odour", e.g. preliminary flush and spraying some cheap body spray after, although some might argue that's worse. You can't please everyone.

That okay by you, OP? I hope you keep a travel gas mask in your hand bag if not.

grandOlejukeofYork · 24/08/2017 10:40

OP you've got some weird issues about bodily functions. Don't project them onto everyone else.

If someone is doing work on your house then that is their place of work at the time. Of course they are going to use the toilet, and its incredibly rude of you to expect them not to.

Blackadderspants · 24/08/2017 10:41

WhooooAmI24601 Thu 24-Aug-17 08:39:03
It's a toilet. He didn't shit in her bread bin. Ridiculous nonsense.

Brilliant.

SapphireStrange · 24/08/2017 10:42

I thinks it rude to take a dump in someone else's house. There's no need to unless you're ill in which case it's even worse.

But a strangers loo is not for anyone who takes a fancy to piss and shit in. It's for the residents of the house

Do you think people piss and shit only because they want to/take a 'fancy' to doing so? Of course there's a fucking need. Christ, there's some idiots about.

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