To think that it IS rude?

[Dancingfairy]

A friend posted on facebook the other day about having a work man other who pooed in her loo without asking. The comments were all saying how rude and disgusting it was. Some even saying to report him or that they would have kicked him out. Anyway I mentioned it to a friend who didn't see the problem. But I do think that it's rude aswell so aibu or is it rude not to ask?!

The Op and her friend are a pair of c**ts imo!

As for him saying what he was going to use it for...erm what?! Plus what if he went their to just have a wee and then realised nope what was he meant to do shout out?

Just don't get the hysterics of it..or why it's something that needs sharing on Facebook.. Or even thinking of complaining to his company about it .

It's from June, I think OP was bored and looking to start an interesting thread

I'd be weirded out if someone asked me if they could pop in my loo. Just asking if you can use the toilet is more than sufficient imo

But it's also a bit mean to keep reminding those of us who do have 'ishoos' around pooing that we're weird. I know I am!

That is the thing, Merchant, you know you are weird and it's ok to be weird, but dancing seriously believes that the rest of the world is wrong and she is "normal".

What do you do dancing when you stay at someone else's house?

I'm on another forum and a lot of people didn't feel comfortable pooing in the house with their partners at home.

What sort of marriage is it if you have to pretend to your life partner/parent of your kids that all your bodily excesses get spirited away by the fairies? I find this the oddest thing of all

Meanwhile we have workmen in. It's not some upstairs downstairs society where they cannot be permitted to use our facilities ffs. If they're working all day of course they will need them. However I do expect anyone who uses the toilet in our house (friends/family/DH/workmen/me - anyone) to leave it as they find it. No one wants to discover other people's skid marks

dancing Do you have dc? If you do was your partner there when you were giving birth? Childbirth usually with legs akimbo or on all fours. Most women poo during childbirth. (I vomited and made mooing noises)

It's a hardy perennial choice of thread topic anxiety Comes up several times a year. That's why the first response on the thread was someone reaching for popcorn.

MN is fine with threads being redone, over and over.

Yes, this is very upstairs downstairs. AND it's treating your fellow human being appallingly.

When workmen come here, I'm nice to them . I don't think of them as some sub human species who should never dream of sullying my toilets with anything.

As I said before and it's worth saying again - I do hope OP you never lose control of your bowels/bladder and be turned away. Or suffer from a bad case of the squits and shit yourself because you're too embarrased to ask some snotty person to use the loo.

'Most' women definitely don't open their bowels during childbirth (I am a midwife), some do though!

OP I have poo issues too, not in relation to what anyone else does (obviously, cleaning poo in work doesn't bother me in the slightest) - just me. I cannot poo in work which is a nightmare on long shifts. I don't think I have ever poo'ed anywhere but at home and hotels (no choice there haha). I am well aware it is weird!

I genuinely couldn't give a crap what anyone else does though

I did MissDuke. I surprised myself!

limecordial I don't think it's really fair to judge someone's marriage on this small area of weirdness. It's a weird, specfic hang-up. It's about the person concerned, not their partner.

If you were at work and suddenly told that you could never have a poo, how would you feel?
I know many people don't like pooing at work anyways, but say that option was taken away from you? So no matter if you had a dicky tummy, a massive curry, or you're on your TOTM, not even if you're toilet at home was broken one morning, or any other number of reasons why you may need a stealth poop one day at work, and you weren't allowed. There would be outrage!! Going against human rights etc to ban people from pooping.

My friend only poos at work so she can rack up how long she has spend in the toilet each month and see how much she earned while pooping

Fair enough duke maybe the mid wife I had was trying to make me feel better by telling me most women poo during childbirth

I also got told (not by my own midwife, by a friend who is one) that most women do at least a little bit of poo while pushing, since the baby coming down helpfully squeezes your rectum like a toothpaste tube. But maybe she was trying to make me feel better/more relaxed about my then imminent labour.

Feel this is class prejudice. Loos are meant for poos. Smell/mess left over is a hideousness that might happen at anytime, often with DH, DC and friends...in my experience the posher the more likely hideousness may occur. People using your loo is like Russian Roulette.

I once had a man out to repair the shower. It was electric, he had checked the fuse. There was a massive bang.

I wish he had been on my loo.

Judging by the smell his undies would have been uncomfortable to wear 🙈🤔

If her experience was like mine I feel sorry for her! The man who came to mend my washing machine was in the utility room, which has an adjoining cloakroom, with the door closed, and when I went out to ask if he wanted a coffee the room smelled like a sewer. I fled. When he left I found my loo in a disgusting state, which made me feel physically sick. Bleach, rubber gloves, paper towels and much retching later it was restored.. OH said I should report him to the repair company as that was beyond a joke, but I couldn't bring myself to do that.

Rude to poo in a loo when you are at work/out on a job - not rude at all

I once asked a builder why they always make a beeline for the loo. He said there was always a smidge of satisfaction that you were being paid to take a crap in their house. Obvs that was his opinion and may not be representative of the whole profession! Does seem to be a very common issue, however.

LOL - no

Your home is his workplace while you're paying him to work so if you think about it in this way then it's your responsibility to provide facilities. Always put yourself in others position. Would you feel the same way about him using your kettle? Did you offer to make him a cup of tea? In a job, you are shown 2 very important things - fore exits and bathroom.

Would you prefer if he left to go home to use the loo?

What if he did and he lived half an hour away?

My ds14 thinks toilets get magically polished by the poo fairies. Maybe this is why many men leave the loo in a bit of a state. After all. Cleaning is the work of the little woman. 😉

I don't think you should ask to go for a poo! But you should ask to go to the loo! I would however say that if any adult used my loo and left sh*t all over it, which a workman has done in my house before, I think that is absolutly disgusting! I wouldn't leave it like that in someone's house!

Where should he have done it? The garden? Unless he left a mess - then that would be awful.