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To think that it IS rude?

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Dancingfairy · 24/08/2017 08:32

A friend posted on facebook the other day about having a work man other who pooed in her loo without asking. The comments were all saying how rude and disgusting it was. Some even saying to report him or that they would have kicked him out. Anyway I mentioned it to a friend who didn't see the problem. But I do think that it's rude aswell so aibu or is it rude not to ask?!

OP posts:
Bloodybridget · 24/08/2017 17:47

This is what loos are for. I don't understand why so many people seem unaware of this fact.

As for people who are working in your house being expected to delay having a poo . . . honestly, it's like bloody apartheid! How can you be so inhumane?

Craigie · 24/08/2017 17:49

Nobody should have to ask to do a poo, but it is just common courtesy to ask to use your bathroom.

Rachie1973 · 24/08/2017 17:49

Absolute Nutjob OP, along with your 'FB friends' who you seem to consider more 'real life' than the people here.

As a long term IBS sufferer if I have to go I have to go. I get roughly 3 minutes warning.

LemonRedwood · 24/08/2017 17:56

If I saw something on a forum/Facebook and I agreed with the poster and then all the subsequent commentera agreed with me too, I would probably think that was conclusive proof that I was right. I'm not sure I'd then be motivated to start a thread about it on another forum.

Perhaps poo isn't your only issue, OP?

DistanceCall · 24/08/2017 18:08

Erm, it's a toilet. That's what it's for.

DistanceCall · 24/08/2017 18:10

In some parts of India, women are forced to wait all day long until they can "do it" in darkness, because it's seen as shameful and there are no toilets.

www.theguardian.com/global-development/2017/aug/23/indian-woman-granted-divorce-over-lack-of-toilet-sanitation-every-day-was-agony

Sounds like you would see that as reasonable, OP.

gamerchick · 24/08/2017 18:19

OP you have serious issues man!

whathaveiforgottentoday · 24/08/2017 18:23

Jesus, you do realise lots of people don't have the ability to wait until they get home to pop. Plus it's not very good for you to hold it in all day (says my women's physiotherapist who specialises in this field). I sometimes have to go several times a day and I would struggle to work if I couldn't poo at work. It's a basic human thing that we all do, get over it. It fucking annoys me that there are people out there they are annoyed if I use a public toilet to poo. Seriously, get a life.

LakieLady · 24/08/2017 18:31

I had no idea that some people felt like this. I'm quite Shock

If your office, shop or whatever had no bogs, or they were reserved for peeing in and you weren't allowed to crap in them, you'd be pretty bloody indignant. When a workman is in your home it's his workplace, and imo he is perfectly entitled to use your lav. In fact, now that I've realised that there are people who are so weird about this, I think a workman's right to poo should be enshrined in law.

I visit clients at home, and my patch includes a large rural area. If I didn't use their bogs I'd be forever hiding behind hedges having a wee (had to do this once, when a client was out lol). I've had to have a shit in a client's house once or twice, too, although I much prefer not to.

If I didn't use other people's lavs, I'd have to take the motorhome to work, so I had my own facilities!

Ttbb · 24/08/2017 18:38

Well it is rude not to ask before using the loo-for all they know it may be broken but I wouldn't expect (or want) then to specify what they were planning on doing in there.

chickaleta · 24/08/2017 18:46

Does the company have a Facebook page OP?
Perhaps she could leave them a shit review.

AnnetteCurtains · 24/08/2017 18:52

So , did your friend report him OP ?

BillThePony · 24/08/2017 18:53

Blimey, I have a medical condition which when in a flare up has me on the loo up to 15 times a day!

I have no shame about pooing in any toilet.

Am I supposed to not leave the house for weeks on end just in case?

LakieLady · 24/08/2017 19:02

IRL people obviously agree that bodily functions are disgusting hence why people don't go around farting and burping, it's done discretely.

Not in our house it's not! It's done with a total lack of inhibition, and a certain amount of glee. Grin

BillThePony · 24/08/2017 19:04

Ours neither, when it's just DH and I the door gets left open so we can see the tv. Grin

LakieLady · 24/08/2017 19:06

Bill, that just made me spit tea down my top!

Roussette · 24/08/2017 19:10

So OP... even with posters on here who talk of IBS and not being able to wait and having jobs where they go from house to house and have to ask to use the loo... you are still adamant it's disgusting to do that in someone's house? Nice. TBH your instransigence makes me want to do a fart right in your face.

What's the point of this thread if you and your FB fwends think you're all right and everyone else is disgusting?

Luckily I know no one in RL who feels like this

Ceto · 24/08/2017 19:12

Well nobody wants to be unexpectedly hit by the stench of shit do they?? A little warning would be nice.

So, OP, when you need to poo, do you do the rounds of your family to warn them both before and after?

Roussette · 24/08/2017 19:14

So, OP, when you need to poo, do you do the rounds of your family to warn them both before and after?

They're made to leave the house I imagine!

FWIW my DH and family are discreet about this sort of thing but I would have no problem whatsoever if someone be it builder, plumber, whoever, wanted to use my loo. Because that's what normal nice people do

MrsColinJackson · 24/08/2017 19:15

I find it a bit sad that people feel awkward about having a poo in any toilet other than their own, I mean s**t happens we all do it.
In my opinion as long as you ask if you can use the loo and make sure you clean up and may be open the window after then show a bit decency it must be awful I'df you really need to go but feel to awkward to even ask let alone do your business. Would be a right bummer if you couldn't go just because your embarrassed about a normal bodily function which yes admittedly can be a smelly function💩😀

slartibartfastsfjords · 24/08/2017 19:16

Did he breath her air as well without asking, and walk on the floors? The very nerve of the man Grin

TooGood2BeFalse · 24/08/2017 19:32

I thank you Sapphire GrinGrin

SomeOtherFuckers · 24/08/2017 19:51

Yeah he should totally have shit in her garden instead ConfusedHmm

SomeOtherFuckers · 24/08/2017 19:54

Also what's the point of asking? It's not liked he can go somewhere else if the answer is no ?

minoandolphin · 24/08/2017 20:04

OP your farting waiter analogy doesn't really hold up does it? Restaurants, as far as I know, were not designed specifically for farting in. Toilets were designed specifically to be shat in.

If someone was SHOCKED at someone EATING in a RESTAURANT maybe you can get an idea of why most people here think you are a lunatic.