To complain that my partner lasts 30 seconds in the sack?!

[CleanFreak123]

No foreplay, lube straight out the drawer. He rolls me on my side and gives me 30 seconds.
I miss foreplay, feeling sexy, being turned on oh and having an orgasm!!!

YANBU. But unless you send him a link to this thread, it would probably be more effective to talk to him!

So why are you tolerating it? Dump and move on.

yanbu. not at all. have you told him??? i think id go on strike in those circs.

You need to take charge. If he doesn't last long introduce a sex toy into your sessions!!

YANBU not to enjoy that kind of sex, but YABU if you haven't done anything to tell him what you do like and if you keep just lying there letting him get on with it when you're not enjoying it.

He rolls you on you side?

What, like an inanimate object? Why do you go along with this??

So basically you're just there for him to dump his load?

Howay man lass, why are you letting him? Get the bugger told!

Buy him a blow up doll. Seems like that's all he needs. Why are you putting up with this shit?

YANBU. Sounds grim. Was it ever any good or has it become like this over time? How long have you been with him?

These replies are making me giggle. We have been together 7 years (not millions of years but still a fair while) we have also had a baby 16 weeks ago! I just want to put the vrooom back into the relationship xxx

30 seconds would be ages in this house

Is this even consensual? Xx

ah. what was it like before the baby?

Notgotajarofglue this made me laugh 😂
Erm before baby we had better sex (not amazing I will say) after abort 5 years it kind of went down the pan I'd say!

Aye that sounds like a virgins first time. Sorry I laugh but seriously I would not be up for that I would rather have no sex than such bad fast sex.

Rosielilly I don't get chance to decline it all happens so quick 😂

That is grim. You're a person OP not a wanksock

That is grim. You're a person OP not a wanksock

Why didn't you teach him how to handle you if it didn't come* naturally?

There's still time. Get him told when you're both fully clothed and relaxed.

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oh god i couldnt live wit that. tell him!

im mid 40s and i have the best sex ive had in my life. there is no way id go backward! we deserve decent sex if were gonna do it you know! whats the point if you get nothing from it?

There's a huge difference between having sex with a woman, and using her vagina for a wank.
Sounds like you're getting the shitty end of the stick op!

I don't get chance to decline it all happens so quick

WTAF

The only times my late-DH didn't make sure I came first was when I made it clear that I wanted to have sex with him, but wasn't in the mood to orgasm.
I just cast imagine what you've just described.

And you tolerate this...why?

for some reason this post reminds me of a lad banter 'any hole's a goal' bah!

Have some respect for yourself OP and stop being treat like a piece of meat

i love sex. love it. im a bit of a pest really but dp loves it too. its our way of getting close. its my de stresser. its my affirmation of my love for dp. and its just bloody good fun!
thats what its meant to be op!! what you describe doesnt sound fun at all.