To complain that my partner lasts 30 seconds in the sack?!

[CleanFreak123]

No foreplay, lube straight out the drawer. He rolls me on my side and gives me 30 seconds.
I miss foreplay, feeling sexy, being turned on oh and having an orgasm!!!

@terfing LOL

Woah Bloody hell.

The reason people have posted the way they have OP is because they/we think you deserve more than what you are getting.

And feminists dont hate men. Far from it.

Try posting this on nethuns. Some of them will fall over themselves to tell you how their cheeky chappie hubs wanks in their face while they eat their cornflakes. Lol. Means they need another shower but bless him. Men will be men. Lol hun. But its ok cos hubby will buy them something nice. Bless him hun xx

Just because people disagree with you doesn't mean they are trolls.

Been with him 25 years, 2 babies, mid 40's a little help needed etc

He blows my mind ! I still get excited by his kisses, never mind the sex. but...the SEX amazing, fulfilling and he's not selfish !

We've had our share of quickies, but still very enjoyable.

7 years and a new baby...talk to him...tell him...Sometimes it needs spelling out !

Whao, OP. You are something else. Personally I had no problem with premature ejaculation or other such problems, but your Dh is something else. I really cannot imagine that he is considerate in any other part of his life. I'm sorry that things are like this for you but that does not entitle you to be so bloody rude.

What saddens me is that you dont think that we would say "Enough!" well before the three hour mark in a blow job (10 minutes tops for me, followed by some reciprocation), and that we would just keep going until he gets his.

Expecting decent treatment, in bed and out, is not being a bra burning man hating feminist, its called being a human being.

FYI, feminists dont hate men so please educate yourself about feminism before you try slinging insults. We want all people, regardless of age, sex, sexuality, ability etc to be treated equally.

I'm sorry OP. I think your posts have been sad and you're angry and I get that. Anger is sometimes misdirected.

I'm a feminist and I love my husband. I respect and admire the wonderful men in my life so I hold men to high standards. Because so many of the ones I know try hard to be good and loving partners.

It's possible that your husband is a good, kind and loving man. So why doesn't he care about your pleasure? Maybe try to work that out with him rather than getting angry with MN.

I once dated a guy who had problems with sex as his foreskin was too tight and he refused to see a doctor about it. He was really great about satisfying me in other ways though. He really was one of the best lovers I ever had.

My Ex though was lazy and selfish, couldn't be bothered with foreplay, couldn't be bothered doing anything I liked. In the end I couldn't be bothered having sex with him as often it just ended up hurting. I'd rather have no sex than bad sex.

OP, you said "I miss foreplay, feeling sexy, being turned on oh and having an orgasm!!!". He could easily do those things for you but chooses not to. I find it kind of sad really.

YANBU. But unless you send him a link to this thread, it would probably be more effective to talk to him

Going to disagree with this as it implies the only reason the man hasn't thought his wife might like an orgasm is because she hasn't mentioned It. I'd very doubt that's the case with any of these men, they just don't care care. Actually it's not even lack of orgasm, its lack of anything that makes sex nice for a woman.

Not in the OP's case though as I'm sure he she's got hands hairy than a bear and wouldn't need the sex anyway.

once dated a guy who had problems with sex as his foreskin was too tight and he refused to see a doctor about it. He was really great about satisfying me in other ways though. He really was one of the best lovers I ever had.

That's isn't it, a man could take 10 seconds I'd be pleased if he'd just spent --3 hours struggling through lock jaw- a decent amount of time on oral.

That's it isn't it, a man could take 10 seconds I'd be pleased if he'd just spent 3 hours struggling through lock jaw a decent amount of time on oral.

By the way, we were only 17/18 at the time and he lived in a small village which was why he was embarrassed to see his doctor. I believe he has 2 kids now.

It's hardly a shocker that women want to enjoy sex too.

Jeez OP. You kindof sunk your own ship there with that last post.

I was right about the lobotomy

Yes, op, because there is no middle ground whatsoever in which a woman is thoroughly pleasured, loved, and satisfied. It's as if you believe there is no outcome where the woman has a good time.

I find it interesting though that you are adamant that this is a rigidly 'lighthearted' post. Many posters have advised speaking to him and you've doggedly ignored those suggestions. Is the thought of having a frank discussion about his your sex life so excruciating you'd rather put up with whatever it is you're getting? Have you ever broached it with him before?
I'm sad for you. Genuinely.

As an aside, why the fuck a man hating feminist would be giving a 3 hour blow job is literally beyond me. LOL. Funny.

Head back in the sand then, op. Do you clean out of frustration?

Can't wait to see how OP's apologists begin to justify her post of 02:33.

3 hour blowjobs? You think that's the other alternative?

No you're still thinking in the it's all about him mindset. Most of us wouldn't put up with that just as we wouldn't put up with being used as a receptacle.

That is totally disrespectful and very bad for you and what must be crumbing lack of self esteem - no way would someone use me like that!

He needs a lesson in love and intimacy - and he needs to learn fast. Until then do not let him lay one finger on you...I think you deserve a bit more than this don't you?

Next he will be leaving spare change on the pillow.

If you don't me asking WHY are you defending him in your post at 02.33??

What were you hoping for in the way of replies? A crescendo of praise and admiration for your tolerance at his complete and utter lack of ability in the bedroom department. Come on.

Sorry anyone tried to help op
Please go back to your 30 second sex life

Butchyrestingface post at 2:33 - missed the bit about a 16 week old baby? It's called getting up for a night feed!

She was using the time as a reference not a criticism.

You ok?

Op has nc and started another thread about how MN is over run with trolls. Which is rich