To tell her to piss off?

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I enjoy knitting as a hobby and will occasionally knit gifts for people (if I am in the mood for that kind of project and have the money/time). For example, socks and scarfs. I recently starting knitting the occasional baby cardy, I gave one to one of my brothers for his baby etc.

Recently a pregnant cousin was talking to me and said ''I can't wait to see what you knit for mine). I told her I don't really have the time (I'm studying) etc but she told me she would pay for the wool so it'll be okay She keeps bringing it up when I see her.

AIBU thinking if I say I haven't got time you can't just expect someone to make something for you and to tell her to sod off? I've had a few friends/family now telling me they want me to knit them socks/scarves etc and they will pay for the wool as if that covers all of the work so I'm getting really annoyed.

Next time she asks tell her you'll drop your knitting needles round for her if she's so desperate for something!

Tell them your hourly rate + wool

You need to become a selfish knitter. They have a great group on Ravelry- mumsnet for knitters!
Oh and you need to learn that No can be a complete sentence. so can fuck off

Just keep repeating "Sorry I dont have the time, I am concentrating on my studies."

Dont give in or you will be expected to do this every single time.

I know someone who does this in her spare time just because she likes to knit (she knits for prem babies in the local hospital when she has time) and was asked to knit 'something' for a baby. She agreed as she had the time and was presented with a bag full of wool and instructions for 8 baby coats and cardigans!

Give people an inch and they take a mile.

I agree...it completely spoils the fun of it if you have to make something to order rather than at your own pace iyswim.

Willow You'd need a mile of wool for all of that

Or you could feel honoured and appreciated that what you are making is being loved by people and you are creating a family tradition...of course you can tell her you don't have time and you should be assertive about that, and do it. Just say you only have time to do occasional things for immediate family.

But if it was me I would be so flattered that someone wanted my creations I would probably make her something!

How pushy! It wouldn't be so bad if she nicely asked you and compensated you for it and you also had the time but the fact that she expected it? Unbelievable.

Oh it was a big bag but still not enough wool, they expected friend to get any extra plus the buttons! Baby wool and buttons costs a bloody fortune!

Working I'm very flattered that she wants me to make her something but when you have 6 or 7 people asking you every time you see them for different things it gets on you IYSWIM

She knows I am studying at uni and working a job but feels I should be making her a cardy for her baby in my spare time too and the only thing I am worried about is the cost, not all of the time and effort it takes.

Anecdoche I've told her because of work/studying and find the time it would take me a couple of weeks. I like to knit slow and now and then, I don't like to sit for too long to do it. She just said ''Well the baby isn't due for two months'' She gives me the rage!

She's probably just being polite because you knit. She isn't desperate for a caddy she's bigging you up. It's back fired though.

Don't worry and don't keep engaging. It doesn't matter if she's expecting it. You've told her. It will escalate to hard feelings if not careful.

But if it was me I would be so flattered that someone wanted my creations

it's not flattering if the person thinks your work takes no time or major effort!!

go to your local hospital if it has a royal womens volunteer shop
there always sell hand knitted baby stuff, not pricey either

buy her one, make a big fuss about how you bought it specially as you know she likes knitted stuff and if she's still pissing you off pick one in gaudy old lady taste wool, like neon orange matched with pale blue!

Oh this is a bit sad, my mum loves knitting and is always honoured if one of my friends asks her to knit something for their baby. Maybe your cousin would love something personal made by a member of the family for the newest addition. Maybe she is just being polite and taking interest in something she knows you enjoy? Do you not like her very much? Why is your brothers baby good enough but not your cousins?

YANBU though, I guess if you have told her no then she should accept your answer.

Buy one

Snip off the label

working
Sorry what you are saying is crap. People don't knit these days to save money they generally knit as a hobby in their own time.
You can get a compliment sometimes "oh you should sell those " which I might take as a compliment but presuming to make stuff is just rude.

When you are free next weekend working what time are you coming to clean my house?

I think you should refuse them all. If you say yes to one, then all the others will get annoyed that you won´t do the same for them. I knit and I get people asking me to knit stuff for them. I only knit when I want and what I want to (I then give away quite a lot of stuff). People do get a bit sniffy but it isn´t negotiable and I think when people realize that there is no discussion to be had about it, they back off fairly quickly.

I think lola has it. She's being kind, and 'bigging up' the creative thing that you do.

But feel free to through it back in her face.

Knitting is like sex , if I love you enough it's free otherwise nothing on earth ........

Oh the joy of sox !

try a WI market and just buy one!!

Yanbu