To tell her to piss off?

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I enjoy knitting as a hobby and will occasionally knit gifts for people (if I am in the mood for that kind of project and have the money/time). For example, socks and scarfs. I recently starting knitting the occasional baby cardy, I gave one to one of my brothers for his baby etc.

Recently a pregnant cousin was talking to me and said ''I can't wait to see what you knit for mine). I told her I don't really have the time (I'm studying) etc but she told me she would pay for the wool so it'll be okay She keeps bringing it up when I see her.

AIBU thinking if I say I haven't got time you can't just expect someone to make something for you and to tell her to sod off? I've had a few friends/family now telling me they want me to knit them socks/scarves etc and they will pay for the wool as if that covers all of the work so I'm getting really annoyed.

I don't knit, but could you knit her a pair of booties? Do babies still wear booties? Don't tell her you're doing that, though, in case she thinks it's not enough then you'll end up shoving the ball of wool down her throat That way she will have her special surprise from you, but it won't take as long.

Poverty That's a good idea, I might try that, I'm going to see her later on today.

I'm on my way to my aunts house now, cousin will be there.

Do you guys think its a good idea to offer to knit little baby booties instead? I can make them pretty quick with a little pom pom on so they look nice? Or should I just tell her a flat no?

If you offer booties, will she be satisfied, or will she see it as an opportunity to keep badgering you about the cardigan as she thinks you are wavering?

Personally, I´d say a clear no, no discussion, and then surprise her with booties later, if I felt like making them.

Your family sound very rude. But thanks for the reminder-should probably start christmas knitting now.

I think she would be happy with booties, better than nothing right? I just feel like ''why should I?'' If you know what I mean?

Dina I'm already starting on a scarf haha! What are you planning on making?

My experience is that people have no idea how long it takes, I made a crochet blanket very recently, took about 60hrs of work. Had a couple of people ask (not very politely mind you) if they can pick some wool out would I make them one. Told them my hourly rate at work is £20 but I'll give the the f&f discount so £15 pH for 60hrs work. Haven't heard back yet :D

I knit and crochet but if anyone ever asks me to make them something I joke that I work so slowly I'd probably have to charge about 300 quid for my time. That usually stops the request in it's tracks!

My friend knitted a cardigan for her boss's new grandchild as a gift. Since then her boss has asked for four more in various sizes and thinks because she bought the wool for my friend that's ok
My friend is too nice to refuse but she really doesn't have the time.
You should definitely charge for doing the actual knitting if you can't say no.

So we were sitting down having a nice cup of tea and she said to me ''You still need to tell me where to get the wool for my cardy'' And I told her I don't have time to make a cardy but if she really wants something I would be happy to make her some baby booties. Well she kicked off and said I was out of order after promising to make her one (what?!?!?!)and that its not fair that DB got one and she isn't.

Well now she's getting fuck all.

She needs to realize that a brother is different to a cousin, and that even close relations only get something if you have the time...

I wouldn´t knit anything for her now.

I used to knit for prem babies at the local hospital. Then everyone around me started having babies of their own so I'd knit something for them. The knitting is fine, i can do that and watch tv at the same time but the sewing together takes the time! I also crochet pram blankets and they take bloody ages.
However I do these things as surprise presents and everyone is so pleased. I've only been asked twice (?) to make something but had plenty of time to do it so didn't feel rushed. My friend couldn't knit and was a bit broke but wanted a home made cardi for her best friend, who I vaguely knew. No problem, plenty of time, job done, my friend cried when she saw it. I had loads of wool anyway so I wouldn't charge her for any of it, poor kid was skint and wanted to do something nice for her friend. She bought me some scratch cards as a thank you (won £7 I think).
She'd offered to pay me but like people have said, it's not the cost of the wool so much as the time involved, they take quite a bit of time. People don't realise that.
If it was me, I'd make your cousin nothing!

You should have called her out on it and asked her "what part of no I don't have time every time you have mentioned it means I promise to do it"?

She is pretty thick!

I told her I didn't promise her anything and I'm not making her anything because of the way she just spoke to me! Cheeky git!

WashBaskets I like to knit squares for the local women's hospital but I haven't in a while due to personal projects like scarfs and mittens etc due to Crimbo coming up.

She's got a right face on her now.

She kicked off?! Blimey.

Cream Yeah, said I promised to make her one

She's still got a face on her, I'm just finishing my tea. My mum told me she would react like this but I thought there's no way she would.

I used to knit HP scarves. Adult sized, six foot long, as close to film colours as I could get yarn, double thickness (I love my circs), and absolutely
mindnumbingly boring to knit. I made dozens of them. They'd take me maybe three weeks a go to do sat knitting in the evening. I gave them to friends and family I knew loved HP. The number of people I offended by refusing to knit for was easily triple that. Apparently suggesting they learn to knit/buy a licenced product/ hire somebody else to do it made me the devil incarnate.

I quite like the horns, they're useful for when you're frogging something and need to skein the yarn :o

IncyWincy Oh my god, that sounds awful. I love making scarves because I can put them down and come back to them so easily and I can watch TV when I'm doing it but you're right when you say they're boring. I bought so many sets of needles just so I could knit something else while I had a scarf on my favourite one

Yes! Too many needles!:o

I'm knitting some toys for a friend at the moment, she asked if I could locate a pattern for her as she was going to try sourcing a few of the toys for her work. I offered to make a few, they're relatively simple and again, it's evening knitting. She would never have asked though, she just hoped I'd be able to identify the toy.

I've had to buy new needles though. I can't use long needles, so I buy extra short and small circs. Hail the picky knitters.

I haven't knitted for anyone for a while as I've not had time either. ( too much Mumsnetting!) It's fine to do things when you want to and have the time, quite another when you don't but people expect/ demand you to. I hate people like that.

This is making me want to start knitting again.

A baby cardi though, is a lot of work for something that won't fit for long.

What's the betting that it ended up not just being a cardi too? I'm laying bets on the expectation of a lacework matinee jacket with matching bonnet and booties. After all, wool's only a pound a ball and they're only little - a fiver should cover it easy.