. . . to be irritated by wedding guests food requests?

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Ugh.

Maybe I'm reaching my limit for wedding planning nonsense but I'm putting a spreadsheet together for our wedding venue with our guests menu choices on it, and I'm finding myself becoming really irritated by some of the requests.

We offered a choice of two starters, mains and desserts, and a veggie option. Very few people have just said "X starter, Y main, Z dessert" - most of them are "veggie starter, Y main, I don't really like desserts so can I have some fruit please" . . . Similarly, people are telling me they don't like onion, or garlic, or whatever.

Of course this isn't aimed at people with allergies or intolerances - naturally we want our guests to enjoy their food and not become ill! But surely we can't cater for every like and dislike? I've never specified dislikes when responding to wedding invitations, as I thought it was dietary requirements rather than pickiness.

AIBU to disregard the "I don't likes . . . "?

What does your venue say about it?

YANBU this sounds v annoying!

Give them all porridge!

Wedding Porridge. Make it a thing.

That's incredibly gauche of them. Of course it's not a forum for specifying preferences (as oppose to allergies etc). Do they not go to many events? I'd ignore.

Unless it's an easy request (no sauce when it's just a poured over type sauce) then simply ignore!

In most cases no garlic or no onion are unrealistic requests.

They can bring their own packed lunch (more leftovers for you).

Hell No yanbu.
I do love the word gauche.

Never mind the bloody venue! That's outrageously bad manners. How about a group email saying "Apologies if I was unclear, the food options are limited to the choices available on the menu."
Poor you, what a nightmare to deal with!

The a friend has a guest who is a gluten free vegan who does not like potatoes!

I would have just gone with a tick box for either meat or vegetarian option on your forms and not given anyone a choice. Allergy sufferers would usually contact you and say could I not have xx please but you have given everyone a choice between dishes which has made them all think its an open selection.

Yes, just ignore the 'I don't likers' and tell them straight there is no choice, the caterers are offering X or Y nothing else. Anyone who says I don't like x can choose to not eat it and pass it to their partner/friend/parent.

Sweet Jesus, this would wind me right up.

Ignore what they've said and just pick a dish for them.

Ignore them. People will change their minds on the day anyway so don't get too wound up about it now - plenty of time for that!

How rude of them.

Most of them are just ridiculous.

Real dietary requirements are fine.

Personal preferences are not. If they dont like onions and dish A has onions then tbey can have dish B. Or, do what most people do when they come across something they dont like: eat the dish and leave the bits they dont like.

Some people feel that the world revolves around them.

I think your friends need to learn the difference between "requirement" and "preference". Saying they don't like the choice of desserts or don't like onion is downright rude.

Just ignore them

They aren't eating at a restaurant

Tell them, 'it's take it, or leave it'

Hate fussy people at venues. Eat it or starve 🤷🏼‍♀️

Definitely ignore anything that is not an actual dietary requirement for health reasons . If people don't want dessert then they can just not have one or bring their own apple

Too late now but agree you have given people too much choice.

Most weddings I go to just say to let organiser know if you require a vegetarian or vegan meal or have a medical allergy. You wouldn't usually know what the food was going to be beforehand surely?

Ignore the rude fuckers.

I remember at a wedding, when the dietary requirements list came around my friend asked for extra bacon- he got it😂
Don't stress about people's food unless they have a serious allergy! hope you have a Brilliant day, Enjoy💕

I agree with Porridge.. I love Porridge

I would put a caveat.

"fussy eaters not tolerated"

I'd want to be a spiteful fucker and not have a meal for the picky people.
But it isn't normal and asking for things not on the menu isn't on at a wedding.

Your mistake was giving them the choice.

When did a menu choice (apart from vegetarian/allergies) at a wedding become a thing? Used to be that guests were grateful to be there to share the couple's special day. If you don't give them the choice, they can't be precious divas 🙄