. . . to be irritated by wedding guests food requests?

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Ugh.

Maybe I'm reaching my limit for wedding planning nonsense but I'm putting a spreadsheet together for our wedding venue with our guests menu choices on it, and I'm finding myself becoming really irritated by some of the requests.

We offered a choice of two starters, mains and desserts, and a veggie option. Very few people have just said "X starter, Y main, Z dessert" - most of them are "veggie starter, Y main, I don't really like desserts so can I have some fruit please" . . . Similarly, people are telling me they don't like onion, or garlic, or whatever.

Of course this isn't aimed at people with allergies or intolerances - naturally we want our guests to enjoy their food and not become ill! But surely we can't cater for every like and dislike? I've never specified dislikes when responding to wedding invitations, as I thought it was dietary requirements rather than pickiness.

AIBU to disregard the "I don't likes . . . "?

I was going to say what PotteringAlong said.

The mistake was giving them a choice.
You should have just had a note saying please advise whether vegan/vegetarian meals are required.

People never cease to amaze me! I think it's been really good of you to offer a choice. At my reception, chicken was chosen except for one person who I knew was veggie, so he had fish. The waitress did pour chicken gravy over it, but that's another story! I agree with the people who have said - take it or leave it. Have a lovely day by the way x

KingJ have you been away?
Porridge is lovely but it would be requested with :
Jam
Dried fruit
Fresh fruit
Other
And op still be demented.

Imo at a wedding you get what you are given and bloody enjoy and be grateful!!
(obviously vegi /allergies aside. )

We gave choices and if I got married again I wouldn't. Beyond allergies and vegetarian etc

Just note down choices. In the desert example don't give them fruit just choose a desert for them. Ignore comments like onion/garlic etc

Top top is to leave a print out on the table with names and choices do they can't despute choices on the day

YANBU to ignore likes/dislikes, it's over and above what's necessary. For a venue and/or a chef, it's really difficult and annoying too, especially as requests like 'no onion' etc often involve cooking that person's meal entirely separately.

You can ignore them, if you want, and explain to your guests that the dishes are as they are for a reason; take it or leave it.

Requests like 'fruit salad' for a dessert are quite common and usually not a problem, but I'd check with your venue, as sometimes extra menu options incur costs, as there is more work involved for the staff.

We had no issues with our guests. Actually not one person asked for the dish to be changed in this way. I count myself lucky after reading this post.

Ah yes, the inevitable "well I'm not actually coeliac or intolerant of gluten, but I'd prefer it if you could offer me something that was gluten free. Oh and I don't like mushrooms on Fridays and eggs with their yolks on Wednesday evenings"

On our RSVP card I simply added to the bottom "please make a note of any food allergies we need to be aware of" and I didn't give them a choice. Or any notice of what they were having!

The venue advised that they need menu choices two weeks in advance of the wedding, so we thought the best way of doing this was putting an insert in the invitation asking guests to choose between the two options (or veggie option) and letting us know when they RSVP.

I'm glad I'm not alone in my eye-rolling . . . I think I'm going to pass over all the requests to the venue, but if it's going to cost more to have an off-menu request (for example, the three people who say they don't like desserts and want "fruit or something" instead) or cater for all the dislikes then tough luck. If the venue is happy to cater for them then that's fine.

Organising a wedding has been the most eye-opening experience ever . . . I'm seeing some of my close friends and family in a whole new light!

I can rarely eat the offered meal so I take my own food to weddings.

25 years ago we didn't even ask about vegetarians, never mind gluten intolerance etc

'It comes as a set of three. So please choose either Set A, Set B or Set C. Thanks'.

I'm with the ignore option.
People are just fucking ridiculous sometimes. You don't like it, don't eat it. You know the menu in advance so it won't be a surprise. Either eat a big breakfast or don't go to the dinner and save the hosts a few quid!
A friend of mine had a guest say they would just "have a bowl of chips" instead of the chicken/veg option. I wonder where people get their ideas from sometimes!

I would have agreed a menu with the venue and allowed guests to select on the day.
On the wedding invites, I would have indicated that I was to be contacted if there was a dietary requirement (e.g. diabetes) or a medical requirement (e.g. allergy) that I need to alert the venue about. I would have also given an option to indicate vegetarian/vegan on the reply card but that is it.
Just because someone doesn't like the taste of onion doesn't mean that they get a personally catered for meal at a wedding. That's pure nonsense!

I agree 100% with the poster above who suggests sending out a text/email indicating about the food choices. Ignore these other requests.

Trampoline At my reception, chicken was chosen except for one person who I knew was veggie, so he had fish.

Fish is not vegetarian. You know, seeing as how it's an animal.

The word you're looking for is pescatarian.

Haha, welcome to working with the general public...

I know they're friends and family but still crazy entitled members of the public.

We've got similar options for a wedding we are attending. We've just gone for the option that sounds like we'll dislike least and will just eat what we can. It's not possible to find something that everyone likes when you have limited choices.

We just went back with X starter, Y Main and z pudd.

B&G contacted everyone before menu came out asking for any specific dietary requirements. Fussiness doesn't come into that.

If you have selected that there will be a meat and a fish main course and an alternative veggie option the venue is aware of the menu choice. You've already made it. They really shouldn't need to know quantities of any option now as that is what they are being paid to do. The venue wont waste any food so don't panic.
My suggestion, contact your venue and speak with the co-ordinator looking after your wedding. Confirm that when they want to 'know menu choices 2 weeks before hand' that they weren't referring to knowing what X person who will be sitting at Y table will be having, that they just want to know if it's Chicken Supreme or Coq au vin as the chicken mean and so on.

chicken *meal (not chicken mean)

Tell them people who do not clear their plates won't get pudding, or wedding cake. Fussy buggers.

Are they saying they don't like the desserts offered or they don't like any desserts full stop?

titty
Because of allergies or fussiness?

OP, I had someone RSVP and enclose the NHS guidelines for what to avoid when you're pregnant - an actual leaflet!

If your guests are anything like me they will have forgotten what they "ordered" by the time of the wedding.

YANBU, that's bloody irritating. They don't like desserts? Don't eat it then. Don't like onion? Make like a picky toddler and winkle it out with a knife. Or you know, suck it up because it's not about you.

We asked for allergies and intolerances. One guest covered the entire rsvp card with kosher dietary laws. Because having Haredim in my extended family, studying Jewish law for bloody years and you know, having eaten with this person before, wasn't enough to know what kosher means.

Porridge is too good for 'em, OP. Big bucket of gruel for the fuckers, to be slopped into chipped bowls. No fruit either.

Your guests sound awful, tbh. I didn't realise wedding menu choices were a thing. At ours we had a carnivore or vegetarian option and that was it, there was one dessert

Jeez, what fussy fuckers. I'd feel awkward enough having to mention my nut allergy. I'd never be so cheeky to ask things like that.