. . . to be irritated by wedding guests food requests?

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Ugh.

Maybe I'm reaching my limit for wedding planning nonsense but I'm putting a spreadsheet together for our wedding venue with our guests menu choices on it, and I'm finding myself becoming really irritated by some of the requests.

We offered a choice of two starters, mains and desserts, and a veggie option. Very few people have just said "X starter, Y main, Z dessert" - most of them are "veggie starter, Y main, I don't really like desserts so can I have some fruit please" . . . Similarly, people are telling me they don't like onion, or garlic, or whatever.

Of course this isn't aimed at people with allergies or intolerances - naturally we want our guests to enjoy their food and not become ill! But surely we can't cater for every like and dislike? I've never specified dislikes when responding to wedding invitations, as I thought it was dietary requirements rather than pickiness.

AIBU to disregard the "I don't likes . . . "?

Why doesn't everybody have a buffet? It's not likely that all the guests will like just one or two choices. We once got given lamb at a wedding (no alternative except a vegetarian lasagna) and nobody at our table ate it.

No, that's incredibly rude of them. I would never presume to do such a thing.

Blimey! As an vegetarian atheist brought up Catholic, I think there's something to be said for collectively giving thanks at the start of every meal, especially a free one offered in hospitality! Maybe this, and a collection for the starving people of Yemen, might help people put their dislike of onion or desserts into a little more perspective and remember why they should feel blessed to be joining your celebration! Try not to let it get to you and focus on how how happy you are xxx

Ah yes and those who will forget what they've ordered! I like to put choices on their name cards so they know I know when they're fibbing!

"Bring their own apple"

This is where a buffet comes in handy

no onions? thy cant do x amount of diffrent dinners its not a restaurant

id definitly mail back an say sorry its only for allrgy purposes not different preferences

LOL at all these guest-zillas.

We got married in 1980 and did a buffet. I cannot even remember what was on the table... probably mushroom vol au vents. Garlic bread in 1980 would have been considered exotic.

DH uncle's wife sent a message that her husband didn't eat chicken (main course) as when he was younger his family kept chickens

Nobody from DH's massive family saw fit to mention that his grandad didn't eat chicken, despite being involved in the meal choice and being asked specifically for any dietary requirements with the RSVPs. He waited till it was out in front of him to make a fuss and ended up with an omelette.

Are choices a thing? Usually unless you have allergies/are veggie etc, you just eat what you're given at a wedding.

Lots of people are allergic to onion.

Why did you give choice? Just ask for dietary requirements I.e vegetarian/vegan/allergies. Then they get what they're given.

if its an allrgy fine was just using it as example

For those that declined dessert and asked for 'fruit or something', I'd be inclined to give them 'something' ........... a Ginster's pasty.

OMG what a palaver even if they had all just answered the fecking question asked of them surely spreadsheet worthy

I think I would email back
"Sorry folks change of plan
OPTION A - meat
OPTION B - vegetarian
(make the starter and pudding the same ie vegetarian)
"Please let us know if you have any allergies and the kitchen will do their best to accommodate them"

Buy a big bunch of bananas, anyone not liking a particular dish, starter, main or dessert can take a banana instead.

Whatcha having?

Bahaha - banana centrepieces . . . ?

Freeda, the menu isn't exotic or obscure but some of my friends are definitely on here so I don't want to specify the options . . .

When I got married we offered s choice of 2 or 3 options for each course.

Think main was lamb chicken or fish (no veggies)

We had a cousin ring the hotel directly, tell them he only ate beef and would like a steak.

The hotel rang me to check it was ok... Er bloody no, it's not. Everyone else sitting there eating chicken/whatever and oh there's cousin Craig eating a fillet steak. Not. A. Chance

blooy cheek i dont gt it theyre not paying for it just eat it!

But at a wedding or other big event, I'd expect them to eat what they're given or make their own arrangements.

Amen to that. We didn't give choices - just a "please RSVP with any special dietary requirements ". We got one request for vegetarian and that was it.

On the day, SIL's DP announced he didn't like red meat or potatoes (we were having roast lamb), picked at his veg and then complained to MIL all afternoon about how hungry he was. I think she gave him an earful because he slunk off and sulked in the bar until the evening buffet came out.

My Nan, on the other hand, has always gone to weddings with a sandwich in her handbag. She has multiple health problems that restrict her diet, the appetite of a sparrow and very simple tastes. She'd be delighted to be served a piece of toast and an apple, but would never dream of making a fuss.

They're rude, I'd ignore them!

I've been offered 2-3 choices for many weddings and just choose from what's on offer. Even if it's food I'm not keen on I just pick the best sounding one and eat what I can.
My husband is an incredibly fussy eater but he also manages to choose and not cause a fuss.
I wouldn't dream of imposing our fussiness on the b&g.

When I got married 25 years ago, we had a buffet. Buffets seem to have fallen out of favour and I'm not really sure why. They were very common then. Personally, I think they are a better option than a sit down meal as they allow choice on the day, both in terms of what to eat and how much, and people can avoid anything they don't want.

I didn't ask about allergies etc, but I knew we had 4 vegetarians plus one vegan, all of whom were very easily catered for.

We had an evening buffet as well as a sit down meal. I like a buffet too, or something like a carvery.

nobody at our table ate it

That's really rude too.