to hate having a different surname to my DC

[RebekahGoggles]

I am a single parent of 2 DCs, seperated from exDP end of last year.

When we had our DC we were engaged, so both DCs got his last name, as I just thought I would have the same last name soon. This wasn't to be so as a result my DCs have a different last name to me. I resent it everyday, as I do 90% of their care, he has them every other weekend and has little to do with their everyday schooling/appointments.

I recently took them abroad and at the airport had a few questions asked of my relationship to them. I had taken birth certificates so it was easily resolved but it left me feeling really sad.

Both our last names together don't work well as double-barelled and ex would never agree to change their last names to mine. Is there anything I can do or is this just going to bother me forever

You can double barrel without his permission, you can also add your name after his without the barrel. It's in the deeds website that I quotes and linked above. He could complain but it would have to be through court and might not win as his name is there, anyway.

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Just be careful of following the Spanish model of double-barrelling without the hyphen because itnot a given that the name which is last will be the one which is used.

Rafael Nadal's name is actually Rafael Nadal Parera. Who would know that last name even existed from reading any news article on him ever?

I gave my ds my surname and as his dad took nothing to do with him before he was born im glad i did. If i ever get married ill be keeping my own surname

I would double barrel op - even if it is a mouthful.

Sorry to go off topic OP but given some earlier comments I'd like to ask a question.
I have my mothers name (her choice)
She has her mothers name (due to tradition as she was unmarried - back then it was the norm for baby to have mums name. if the parents were married mums name was also dads name, so it was by proxy. If not then baby had mums name IFYKWIM)
DD has my name also - I am married but seperated and STBXH took my name. I refused to have any mans name double barrelled or not. I told him we could retain our individual names or he could change his if he wanted us to have the same name, he did the latter...
When does my name become "mine"?
Or is it my great grandfathers name