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With my first world problem-beach hut issue.

349 replies

LesleyKnopeIsdope · 15/08/2017 11:05

We've been on the waiting list for a beach for for ages.

A new set are being built and we've been successful in securing a great one.

We were going to buy but I've had to put a hold on it for the following reasons-

I was trying to -using the square footage/floor plans - plan where storage stuff and table/mini kitchen would go etc and asked DH for his help

He's basically dismissed everything and told me that his kayack is going in and that everything else will have to fit around it.

His kayak will only fit it its diagonal and he's refusing to have is hing from the ceiling (which means everyone will have to bend anyway to avoid concussion - there's no permission granted for lockable storage under either.

I asked him is he'd also maintain /paint do essential repairs as he does nothing at home-answer- no im happy just to have somewhere for a kettle and a kayack. No consideration for anyone else or anyone else's enjoyment of it.

I've told him I'm withdrawing from it then- which he's having a huge strop.

I already do every shred of maintencance/work/upkeep on our home he helps with nothing- he has a home office which looks like he's Mr Trebus's protégée ND can just see myself wishing I'd not bothered.

Am I being unreasonable to withdraw (and think £18k for a kayack storage facility because DH is too fucking lazy to take his out of the shed and onto the car) and look elsewhere for myself and he kids?

[edited to correct copy and paste errors at OP's request]

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LesleyKnopeIsdope · 15/08/2017 11:42

Asauv- there's a loo a1minute walk and a stand pipe 30 seconds away

You also get a set of keys for going out of season-you get access to another area. Sorry don't want to say too much. 😊

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 15/08/2017 11:42

Get the beach hut.
Also get these to sort out the kayak

With my first world problem-beach hut issue.
WunWun · 15/08/2017 11:42

He's being fucking ridiculous. 18k for kayak storage 😂

I'd love to buy a beach hut.

Blueemeraldagain · 15/08/2017 11:42

18k to store a kayak? Is he on crack? Shock
Do you have any mutal friends or relations you could discuss these ideas with? Maybe an outside perspective might get through more easily.

I'd be tempted to get rid of him though.

rightwhine · 15/08/2017 11:43

Ok so the house decoration and beach but don't matter to him but he's showing such huge disrespect for you and the kids.
Wouldn't 18k be better spent on a divorce? - seriously.

MrsOverTheRoad · 15/08/2017 11:44

Tell him no.

You don't have to explain.

Buy the hut...and as you say you're the one who does maintenance...so install hooks on ceiling or on wall...and put his stupid kayack where it goes.

NOT where he says.

LesleyKnopeIsdope · 15/08/2017 11:46

Needmoresleep
He had an inflatable one- it was too much hassle for him to inflate and deflate he said. He has a roof rack. He doesn't want to use it.

He bought a big fuck off fibreglass one

Honestly it's huge. I cannot lift it.

He used to plan a beach day for us but he only did it so I would take the thing off the roof-he'd then ignore us for hours whilst he fucks off taking selfies.

Twat.

I refuse to go now and let him get in with it.

I really was NOt expecting to get to the top of the beach hut list at all.

Thing is

Even if he did leave it on the floor and we planned stuff to go around it-when he's at work and I take the DC I'd not be able to move it.

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StaplesCorner · 15/08/2017 11:46

you don't have a beach hut problem, you have a DH problem. Is there a back story? You'd be mad to pay £18k for kayak storage, its totally irresponsible.

pinkdelight · 15/08/2017 11:46

He's already got a workroom! And a kayak! He doesn't get to dominate the beach hut too. YANBU. Get it for you and the kids. Sod the kayak/DH.

TheHungryDonkey · 15/08/2017 11:46

I went non contact with my dad a few months ago because his obsession with his kayak drove me insane and impacted on everything. I wanted to see my dad without a kayak and my children wanted to spend time with their grandad without the fucking kayack but no.

So YANBU. Buy the beach hut for you and the children and float the kayack out To see. I fucking hate kayacks.

LesleyKnopeIsdope · 15/08/2017 11:47

Bluewmerald

It's interesting you say that. The only time he's ever backed down is when I've involved friends of his and they've given him a talking to.

I think he's acting like the PFB that he is.

Venting much?

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GoldenHoops · 15/08/2017 11:48

Tell him to look at a boat yard storage, not a marina though. Depending where you are it can be quite reasonable.

MrsOverTheRoad · 15/08/2017 11:49

Are his mates on Social Media?

Post a status laughing at your DH but also pointing out that he wants to store the stupid kayack in the hut...and how it needs to be hung.

Then maybe his mates will tell him off? Or get his mate involved in the comversation one night over dinner or drinks?

lalalalyra · 15/08/2017 11:50

Why would he pay for storage when he has paid 20k for a beach hut - does he always see the family income as just his? That's what it sounds like.

AllTheWittyNamesAreGone · 15/08/2017 11:50

Can I ask why your with him? He doesn't seem to be involved in family life or interested in you guys

Howlongtillbedtime · 15/08/2017 11:50

Why does he think his attitude is ok ? He doesn't seem to even think anyone else matters at all .

Is he like that in general ? Or is it just a weird kayak obsession?

Blueemeraldagain · 15/08/2017 11:53

I thought as much. Says a lot about how much he values your thoughts/opinions/feelings.

Short term I would get one of them to make him see sense about the hut and make sure ownership is in your name only etc (I'm not sure of the legalities of beach huts....).

Long term I'd seriously consider leaving him. This isn't about a beach hut; it's his view of you. I know people throw the LTB around here a lot and life is rarely that straight forward but I'd give it some serious thought in my beach hut looking out over the 🌊

TheFirstMrsDV · 15/08/2017 11:53

Sounds like he is used to getting his own way.

What a knob for spoiling your dream

MyKingdomForBrie · 15/08/2017 11:54

How can you bear this selfish little prick?

kittybiscuits · 15/08/2017 11:54

Buy the beach hut and make it beautiful. If he puts his kayak in it, list it on ebay. Is he normally an unpleasant cock?

Ijustwantaquietlife · 15/08/2017 11:55

Honestly if an inflatable is too much work for the 5 times a year he uses it then he does just sound like an Instagram all the gear no idea guy....

Sorry wasn't saying it was expensive in relation (there are some here that go for 180k....) But your limiting condition makes it sound like a good idea.

I often use the loos and water pipe of the ones near me. Will that be pissing off the owners? We really could do with more public loos, I have a disabled loo key also.

ArcheryAnnie · 15/08/2017 11:55

I think your beach hut is the least of your problems. Your DH sounds like a total arse.

kittybiscuits · 15/08/2017 11:56

He sounds like a dartboard would be more suitable than a kayak for this bloke.

BorisTrumpsHair · 15/08/2017 11:56

Sorry you are married to such a selfish jerk OP.

How do you want to proceed? Can you buy it yourself and exclude his kayak from it? Your plans for the beach hut sound really delightful & something your whole family would enjoy.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 15/08/2017 11:56

So when the kayak is in hut you wouldn't be able to get it out?
Bollocks to that.

Read him this thread, I don't think there's a single pro kayak in hut response

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