New partner's holiday

[lunaysol3828]

So... new partner. Roughly a month together now. He had this holiday booked with friends before he met me so he obviously went.

When at home we chat a lot, texts, facebook, whatever, and we obviously see eachother a lot.

If you were me, how often would you expect to be contacted while he's on holiday?

Back on my regular friends username. I'll log out now and create an account of my own. Thanks everyone. I'll be back.

When I was seeing a few weeks my now DP He went on holiday - we text all the time.

I'm surprised by these replies - at the beginning of a relationship it's exciting and passionate and I'd expect them to want to text more.

Once or twice maybe, or not at all depending on how busy he is on hols? And why's he your 'partner' after one month, that really annoys me when people say that when they mean boyfriend/girlfriend!

@lunaysol3828 thanks for the apology

I've been with my DP for 6 years and never hear from him when he's on holiday with his friends. Wouldn't expect to, to be honest. YABU.

He's not your partner and he's hardly even a boyfriend.

I would expect a text when he landed maybe and maybe a text when he landed again. Certainly not every day or anything like that.

I have a boyfriend. We have been dating a few months. We don't even text each other every day and never did.

That kind of intensity that you describe is a red flag to me and would put me off. Done so much in a month?

I wouldn't have been so laid back about no contact. But he made up for it it yesterday. Maybe he reads mumsnet

A month isn't really a boyfriend and definitely not a partner. It's just a lad you've been seeing at the moment. I would think it was nice if he sent a message but not worry if he didn't.

I'm starting to think I'm a lunatic after reading some of the responses so you're in good company OP if it had all been going well and he was saying how much he would miss you, I would be hoping for a text a day. Even if it was just to say good night or hope you're having a good day

OP in all honesty I'd be wary of a relationship that feels this intense and has moved this fast 1 month in.

People saying they wouldn't expect contact - why do people try to seem so overly laid back on here? If your new boyfriend blanked you for two weeks you wouldn't care? Oh please.

It's not about being overly laid back! Me personally I don't need constant contact with my DP, and I never have. Our relationship won't fall apart because we haven't had contact for a week or two!
What do those who text/call all the time say to each other? Or is it all, I love you, I miss you 😘 ❤️ 😍!!!
Maybe it's my age, but I know so many who get straight into the constant texting, declarations of love and missing each other, cringeworthy photos on insta and it's all fake!

People saying they wouldn't expect contact - why do people try to seem so overly laid back on here? If your new boyfriend blanked you for two weeks you wouldn't care? Oh please

It's one week and he's on holiday! Why so much drama?

It's a week's holiday. She knows where he is and who he's with.

I would not be in the keast bothered nit to hear from him.

Dh proposed after two weeks, the chemistry was mind blowing!! So I don't think anyone else's expectations are relevant. No mobiles back then (20 years ago) but when parted through work, we spoke daily.

Agree that generally the person on holiday is busier and has more to keep them occupied than the person at home. Plus if he's away with friends and sharing a room composing long lovey dovey texts isn't really practical. If the OP would really be happy with a brief text each day that's fine but it sounds like that wasn't what she had in mind. I presume he's back imminently anyway if he hadn't posted for most of a week's holiday yesterday.

I went on holiday a month after I met my now DH, it was a ski trip that had been booked for ages. We texted once a day, just to say goodnight, but not during the day as I was up on the slopes. In your shoes I would be happy with a "just arrived safely" type text, perhaps a hello during the week then contact once he got home.

It take all of 2 seconds to send a text, unless the holiday is something which involves not being able to use phone for the majority of the time then I'd expect a text or two each day. It's not psycho or weird to expect someone you've been dating for a month to send the odd txt each day, maybe even just the odd photo around the pool or something. Think of it this way, most people will update Facebook on holiday - what's the difference to sending someone a quick text? No contact for a week from a lad id been seeing (and presumably sleeping with) for a month and then he just rocks up after and assumes we will be picking up where we left off? Nah wouldn't work for me!

You see I don't get the it takes two seconds to send at text either, yes it does but then the text wouldn't have meaning would it? I could sent a copy and paste text to everyone in my contact list, saying some random 'Arrived safe and it's lovely' I'm not actually thinking about them. I don't do, doing for the sake of it and I'd rather quality over quantity.
I also don't get the arrived safe texts though. Unless they're visiting some remote regions and then there's probably no phone reception anyway. I think the news would cover a easyJet flight to magaluf going missing!!
I like him to let me know when he's on his way home from the airport, but that's a running joke that he has to tell me so I can get rid of my other bf!!

Is it a generational thing? I grew up with sending a postcard that probably didn't arrive until after you were home.

People saying they wouldn't expect contact - why do people try to seem so overly laid back on here? If your new boyfriend blanked you for two weeks you wouldn't care? Oh please

Not everyone is that needy

@FrenchRoast It is very hard to explain the chemistry if you never felt it

@TheNaze73 I wouldn't say I am needy. I do like attention though, especially in the early days

@Thegrumpos completely agree

@Mychildcouldnotbreaatfeed not again the "partner" term talk which I must've explained 10 times along with other posters

Do you mean to be so nasty ?

Oh I think you do

Passive aggressive goat.