New partner's holiday

[lunaysol3828]

So... new partner. Roughly a month together now. He had this holiday booked with friends before he met me so he obviously went.

When at home we chat a lot, texts, facebook, whatever, and we obviously see eachother a lot.

If you were me, how often would you expect to be contacted while he's on holiday?

@sammylady37 normally I wouldn't either.
But this is something I can't explain

Sorry if I've missed it, but I can't see that you've said whether you have sent him a text. If not, is there a reason?

Love, a bit of an advice. Refer to a guy you have been seeing for a 'month' as a partner and you are unlikely to see or hear from him again.

I think it depends what sort of holiday it is. If an active holiday and PAYG mobile contract (like me) then few texts. Texting people in company is antisocial. If a more beachy holiday then more. It depends also on whether the texter feels if they send one text it will turn in to a non stop stream with the other person texting back instantly with lots of questions so you feel you're not able to escape from the text chain. Some people can feel quite pressurised by texts. My sister is a pressure texter.

If you don't tell him any of this you can just enjoy his happiness at seeing you once he is home, and let him have things to tell you about his time away from you.

By not making him feel guilty about being out, you will find you may have a better relationship.

1 text a day at the very very most a month in...

@KC225 right, thanks for your advice. English is my fourth language, not even my second, therefore I thought partner is an appropriate term. Excuse me.

@2rebecca actually in a country where texting/calling/4g is really expensive to be fair.

Actually I would expect a text! I went away when an old bf and I were in the early days, and we text a fair bit.

And then again it might all be lovely dh became dp after a few weeks he was still is my dh after six months all depends on the relationship?

@lunaysol3828 how on earth are you going to keep yourself calm while he's away? You sound absolutely smitten!

I wouldn't really expect much contact tbh,after being in the relationship for such a short time. Maybe one to say he'd arrived there safely,and one to say he was back home. I do find it strange though when a guy says 5000000 times that he's going to miss you and then you don't hear a peep out of them all week! I've had this and find it very odd.

If it was a relationship that was going well and we saw eachother a lot, I would expect a couple of texts a day, and maybe a bit of a text exchange in the evening if neither of us was out. My boyfriend went away for a few days when we'd been seeing eachother for 6 weeks, and that's what we did anyway.

Any man I've been romantically involved in (not many!) would have messaged me numerous times throughout the day in this situation, said except for one guy who had big issues!

If a man doesn't keep in contact at least a little bit, surely he's not interested. Ok he's on holidays, but if he's into you he will want to know how you are and how your days has been.

I do think with a lot of posters though, age will change people's opinions on this,

@TheSnorkMaidenReturns ohhhh I don't know. Been crying 12 times today wtf. How rude.

I think you know that, however long the relationship, if he was thinking about you and missing you then he would text.

@ChristmasFluff he's sent roughly 5 today & 3 pics. Called once.

What was all the weeping and wailing for then?
Seriously if a bloke I'd been going out with kept crying because he felt I wasn't sending him enough texts I'd run a mile. Get a grip.
How many texts/ declarations of undying love a bloke sends has far more to do with his personality than how much love he actually feels for you. but then I go for undemonstrative Scots and find premature undying love declarations false and creepy.

@2rebecca i hope that you do understand that the comment with the crying was ironic in response to a pp. omg. This is hilarious. How could I possibly cry for this?!

5 texts, 3 pics and a phone call?

What's all the fuss about then? Tell him to piss offhand enjoy his holiday 😛

@PandorasXbox that'd be funny! 😂

How exactly would I know that? if something is a joke or TIC say so or put an emoji. There are some weepy women on mumsnet especially after a few glasses of wine late at night...

@2rebecca I did say "how rude" at the end, it was a response to pp. nope, I think I last cried 10 years ago.

I don't understand

He's contacted you five times and sent photos. I don't get it - what's the point of all this?

Z@BatFaceGal he contacted me AFTER i created this topic, I just wanted some opinions on this. Thx