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New partner's holiday

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lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:22

So... new partner. Roughly a month together now. He had this holiday booked with friends before he met me so he obviously went.

When at home we chat a lot, texts, facebook, whatever, and we obviously see eachother a lot.

If you were me, how often would you expect to be contacted while he's on holiday?Smile

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horsesforcorses · 12/08/2017 14:46

Honestly I would expect multiple texts a day, at that early stage surely all you're thinking about is each other? If you'd been together years I'd expect less tbh!

pigsDOfly · 12/08/2017 14:48

Ah, he says that now Misled, but would he have really cancelled a holiday with his mates?

Mummaofboys · 12/08/2017 14:48

Maybe one txt when he arrived safely one txt half way through the week and then a text the day he is back in the uk but not straight away like when he is settled at home etc.

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lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:50

@horsesforcorses exactly what I think as well so a bit blindsided by comments with no contact at all

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 12/08/2017 14:50

The difference between what I'd expect and what I'd like is probably massive!!

haveacupoftea · 12/08/2017 14:51

Why did you take from my words that you're selfish and an entitled bitch Confused I didn't say anything of the sort.

I do think you sound a bit unhinged now but that's because of your weird reading into things and defensive replies.

Changeofluckneeded · 12/08/2017 14:51

If he made a big deal about how much he was going to miss me and I felt the relationship was going really well I would hope to hear from him every other day with lots of 'I'm having a great time but really miss you' kind of stuff :)

abigailgabble · 12/08/2017 14:52

personally i would expect the odd text. i've never had a relationship where daily communication wasn't a thing. certainly not in the early days !. i don't think it's a doom harbinger necessarily though. all my relationships have ended up as bin fire after all (awaiting the next one currently 🔥 Grin)

horsesforcorses · 12/08/2017 14:53

Perhaps it's an age thing - how old is he?

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lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:54

@haveacupoftea I was just joking, omg! I thought your comments were nice, actuallySmile

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lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:55

@horsesforcorses I'm 26 & he's 28

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lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:56

@haveacupoftea was actually laughing at myself for being silly! 😂

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PigletWasPoohsFriend · 12/08/2017 14:56

So where is he going 'sightseeing then?

Tartyflette · 12/08/2017 14:56

Usual communications from DH on annual week's ski-ing holiday with his mate --
Day 2 -- arrived OK, everything great.
Day 6 - leaving tmrw, everything great, what do you want me to bring back?
Works for me.
(when we hadn't been together very long he went on a previously arranged holiday to see family and friends. I don't think I heard from him during the two weeks. Might have got a postcard. It was a very long time ago!) )

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lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:57

@PigletWasPoohsFriend I don't want to out myself, sorry.

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BenLui · 12/08/2017 14:58

Can you imagine how annoying it would be to be on holiday with someone who spent their whole time texting their brand new girlfriend?

Why are you borrowing trouble where there is none?

You like him a lot, you think it's serious.
He likes you a lot, he offered to cancel, said he'll miss you loads and has in fact contacted you since he's been away.

You're at risk of messing this up if you don't get a hold of yourself.

In my experience relationships where the partners can't bear to be apart or independent aren't very successful.

Excessive neediness and insecurity aren't very attractive.

I really don't mean to be harsh but it would be much better for him to come home to find you happy and full of news about the fun stuff you did while he was away.

ilovesooty · 12/08/2017 14:59

Possibly a text to confirm he'd arrived safely and to confirm he'd be in touch once home.

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lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:59

@BenLui thanks for this comment as you are absolutely right. I do tend to be insecure, so this comment has hit a soft spot. I do realise you are absolutely right & I will act accordingly Smile

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MoodyMumOfOne · 12/08/2017 14:59

I don't want to be ageist but less likely someone over a certain age and not glued to phone/social media would be in touch on a week long holiday. I know I wouldn't (!) but teenage daughter was in VERY regular contact with her boyfriend on our recent holiday Hmm

TheNaze73 · 12/08/2017 15:02

I wouldn't expect to hear anything, he's on holiday with his friends.

BR62Y · 12/08/2017 15:04

Were you going away alone in September?

mrsm12 · 12/08/2017 15:04

I went on holidays a few weeks after meeting my now dh, i was in contact alot! Im sure it was annoying for the girls but theyve forgiven me now. He went away for work a few weeks later and to a 3rd world country but he still managed a phone call every day.

HipsterHunter · 12/08/2017 15:05

I would probably expect a very occasional text but then we've been going or 10 years!

After 1 month... not so much

CleanFreak123 · 12/08/2017 15:06

I think a text a day just saying what he's been doing is nice (if you reply don't expect a reply) and maybe one quick phone call. X

OnionKnight · 12/08/2017 15:06

I think you need to calm down, you've been with him a month and you're coming across as a bit unhinged.

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