New partner's holiday

[lunaysol3828]

So... new partner. Roughly a month together now. He had this holiday booked with friends before he met me so he obviously went.

When at home we chat a lot, texts, facebook, whatever, and we obviously see eachother a lot.

If you were me, how often would you expect to be contacted while he's on holiday?

@VelvetSpoon a couple & another male friend. Yes his friends know about me, also have met some, not these, as they live in a different city

What sort of holiday OP?

@pigsDOfly thanks for your kind comment input much appreciated

@PandorasXbox just a holiday with friends, sightseeing w

@TidyDancer you're right, maybe my expectations are too high

None at all.

Yanbu to feel sad he's not contacted you

Ywbu to behave annoyed sad or out of sorts with him when he comes back. He's not obliged to contact you. He hasn't done anything 'wrong'.

In that case he's probably just busy and may not have a signal all the time. It's fine, chill

@chestylarue52 he did send 2 texts today (or one?), he did contact me, I was just wondering what other people would expect

@PandorasXbox I do sound like a fucking lunatic, don't I? I swear I'm actually a nice woman, willing to go out for coffee with you all to prove it!😂

Ohhhh, if that's relevant; I have a holiday booked in September which I told him about it and he's coming with me & didn't even blink, he paid for it right away (roughly £1000)

So he has texted you? What's the problem then? His obviously thought of you while away

Which I told him about. I can't adult today.

After a month I wouldn't expect very much in the way of contact. After 25 years I still don't expect much from DH when he's away for a week, beyond the occasional 'everything ok at home?'

@PinkHeart5911 #beingawoman, I guess 😂

I confess if someone had been telling me how much they would miss me I would be expecting quite a few texts, regardless of the age of the relationship. And I agree with a poster above: at that early stage everything is lovey-dovey so one might expect contact.

I would expect at least one text message conversation every few days or a phonecall TBH.

If I didn't have that and he didn't make any contact at all I'd just assume he wasn't that into me.

I was in a similar position and I've just checked, I got 2 brief emails.

In the old days I'd have expected a post card at least, so I think it's not unreasonable to expect a short message at some point in the week. I wouldn't expect daily phone calls or long conversations though, but given how easy it is to keep in touch a short message once in the week isn't much.

@Gormless thank you! Finally! 😂

I'd definitely expect to communicate at least 3 or 4 times if it had all been going so well between you.

I sometimes wonder if men are having these conversations too.

"Don't text her until tomorrow, keep her keen"

@MaMisled that's pretty much what I thought too! We shall see!

Just asked DH and he said a month into our relationship he'd have cancelled the holiday, preferring to be with me or at least contacted me every day.

Hes a keeper!

@Notevilstepmother 😂😂😂 That'd be so funny

@MaMisled he did propose to cancel the holiday, I insisted he'd go. I didn't think it'd be fair on his friends